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@Elisabeth What you said is interesting! I bet it's not easy for anyone to find what they really, really want to do. I used to be really stuck too. Here's my journey so far. See, this is not so easy to explain. In life, there is such thing as higher consciousness. Life itself is also higher consciousness, and it invites all of us to live it to the fullest. Did you ever feel like doing something freely without any resistance? And then, once you do that, you discover something? It's like a huge "AH-HA" moment. Then, it really leads to something else, but in the process, you're just going with the flow of life, like a river. And, when it's over, when the river finally meets the ocean, it's free! You feel like you're given a blessing. You feel awakened and learned a lesson. That's how one discovers what to do in life. Check out this woman's story. Life tells us, but then the ego gets in the way. Question: Where is life pulling you right now? Do that -- if you get what I mean. But! If Dr. Elizabeth is what you're going to become, then that's awesome. Do notice the invitation of life moment by moment.

Ok... I think detachment is something that is missing from many ppl's lives. It's one of the major keys to happiness, and it gets really deep too. Basically, throughout life, you don't really need anyone to fulfill you. I mean, sure it's great to date and have a hot girl. I could understand why you're saying that. But, at the end of the day, it's just you and yourself. That's why they say don't get attached to anyone. Sure, you could love someone, but it's very unhealthy to be obsessed and attached to someone (or something). Everyone has got to be free to find their purpose in life. Your mind has to be free. That's the true freedom and happiness. Try reading this psychology book. It's a good book with great exercises for the mind. Yes, it's on amazon, but try to see if it's available in the library.

Nope. It doesn't. It sounds completely normal. What you said is for achievement. There's just one more thing to understand to this whole journey. This: This is the happiness, and detachment is what Leo is trying to explain here. It's a huge part to a person's happiness. I posted this for you already. This is the second time. It's easier said than done. It takes lots of practice to incorporate this into your life. It's not easy to have one without the other. Good luck.

There is this flow to life for the person. The person can choose to get on this wave or choose ego (eg. being frustrated, emotional, unhappy, angry, etc.)

@Hardkill Ask yourself, is this really going to be your long term goal? Note that Leo made a PUA clip already. Have you watched that one? And then, I already told you about Leo's Maslow clip. What are you going to do for the rest of your life? Here's another clue. All your questions about getting hot girls or not will be answered automatically if you know what to do for the rest of your life. It's tough, but that's the way it works.

@littleBIG I really have to say that health and health insurance is a tough one. Someone I know was roller skating one day and fell on her bottom and broke her hip bone. Of course, she had to stay in the hospital. They surgerically inserted some metal into that area so that the surrounding bone tissues could grow around it and she would heal. You gotta understand your own body and your own health, research doctors, research hospitals, get second opinions from doctors, see if they have good services, etc. They don't sometimes cause they don't know you (your health). It's complex.

I feel that this thread brings up an important quotation to take into consideration: For this to really work, there has to be a clear understanding of what the other person is saying. You can't just discredit everything. Each meaning has to be understood clearly.

I'm going to get straight to the point and be honest. I understand the problem that you are presenting. What you are really trying to say is, you want just laws for all, right? Sure. And, you want the just laws to be enforced correctly. Don't we all want that? In the end, we all want peace. However, this is the third time that I'm trying to answer your question, and you never accepted the answer. When this happens, I can't do anything about it. My answer to you was: Life purpose --> entrepreneurship --> philanthropist --> sage/guru/saint/etc. The next step is to take actions to discover your life purpose and to move on.

Just got through watching this inspiring video on selflessness: It reminds me of Shinzen Young's version of the 10 Ox Herding Pics (Part 3) when he was talking about The Cloth Bag Monk, his hands being "outstretched."

@littleBIG This is an interesting decision. I have casually thought about a minimalist lifestyle but not in a car, maybe in a RV that looks more hidden if I parked in some city. I thought of this because I asked myself, "if I didn't have a job or a family to support me, what do I do?" You gotta keep your options open sometimes because just having one or two options may not work. You may want to look into "tiny houses" or "cabins" with public bathrooms. The rent is very low. Then, my mind wondered off to this: It's not in the US. I really want to visit one day to see what's it like. Health insurance is important in the long run. Be careful with your health. Recently, my friend told me that there are lots of opportunities overseas. For example, if you know English and especially another language, they give you free room and board at a prestigious university. I saw my friend do this. He's in his early 20s. But, of course, there are other opportunities than being a bilingual teacher.

I hear you say this sometimes. It would be great if it did get communicated to everyone, but it doesn't quite work that way most of the times to anyone. It could leave a person hanging and frustrated. Then, life is inviting us to do other stuff. After all, life is duality within non-duality. So, it's also non-duality. We learn to go with the flow (meditative state). And then it happens in an "ah-ha" moment. Since life is inviting us to do other work, it is meant to be lived to the fullest. We just can't keep wondering or force ourselves to see it, be it, and understand it all in one shot.

@Be Yourself very inspirational. I'm planning to do YouTube clips but not getting around to doing them. However, when I see others here do theirs, I thought to myself, just do it and things will fall into place.

Two quotes came into my mind when I read what you wrote. 1. "The grass is always greener on the other side." You may see the other gals as more attractive and want to be with them. But, do you really? It may just be a feeling/urge. That's it. It's just like you've decided to be a teacher but see others becoming doctors, and you think they're happier because they make more $. Then, you try to become a doc, and it didn't work out. You rather be the teacher. Nothing is wrong in becoming a doc, but one is not better than the other. Relationships are more complicated. Of course it's not like switching jobs. But, you might just be experiencing this quote from what you said. That's all. 2. "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder." Most likely society tells you what is "beautiful" in a gal's appearance. Try not to get easily pressured and buy into what anyone else says. Do you think, "bald is beautiful?" Not for a gal, right?

It's not really a destination. It's a full-circle strange loop. I think in order to stop this strange loop from reoccurring, just try your best to live this life and learn all your lessons. Do something to contribute and trigger a ripple effect so that we all could live a more peaceful life and continue to contribute to this world. Full-circle strange loop. With enlightenment, the meaning of the clip below gets deeper. But, everyone has a different path and contributes differently. (Eg. If you sing, play the guitar, and write songs, you may write awesome songs & awesome songs on enlightenment to pass on the message.)

Yes, it's the beginning, not end. It made me much clearer on my path. As I go along on this journey, it gets more interesting and clearer, meaning more awareness of what's going on. I started here (brief description).

Everyone is only a pointer, including yourself. To me, the best teachings are through a combo of different teachings, actions, and personal experiences. I don't learn through one person/teacher and can't relate unless I've had personal experiences. Otherwise, I wouldn't even be here.

I noticed something here that I would like to add. Forgot to say this. Be careful when you meet someone nice and then listen to other ppl's advice about relationships. In a long term couple's relationship, it's between the two ppl, not the two ppl and other's opinions about them. Others don't know what is going on, so when they tell you something, it may not apply at all. Instead, the opinions turn into gossips. If you break up just because of the opinion of another, like a "friend," that friendship is long gone.

When you realize that there is nothing else to fulfill you because you already are whole. It helps to get a good life together. It helps that there is no man, woman, job, or circumstance that could make you more whole because you already are. Then, there are circumstances such as devestating wars or natural disasters and you survived that. It's great to be prepared for those before it happens. Understand that passive income cannot be uprooted like a job or career. So, it helps to work on a life purpose with passive income (startup). Also, if you survive, your mastery will always be there -- if you have mastered something in life -- a useful skill. In human history, once upon a time, there used to be no passive income, and ppl used to rely solely on their mastery, and emotional mastery. Those who made it looked like real heroes. We're given a lot more opportunities now.

You can. Definitely. What you are experiencing is just thoughts passing by. You can choose to get on those thoughts, and let it take you for a ride, or just observe them and let it pass by like the wind. Picking up something, like a pen and notebook helps. Those are different from your thoughts. They are still. They are in your external world, a world in which we still have to deal with. When I picked up my pen and notebook, I just decided one day to just write down whatever I'm interested in. It happened to be a foreign language, and I just kept going at it and practicing it no matter what my thoughts. Pretty soon I found myself becoming a bilingual teacher. I incorporated this into my life purpose.

Those are my problems. I'm still working on my mastery. I couldn't find good educational products on the market, so I'm planning to create my own to sell. Many bilingual teachers teach too fast. Students are not getting their lessons. Bilingual products also teach too fast. #3 are my brief thoughts on what my dream product will be to solve the problem. Problems do not solve by you just thinking about yourself. You better be thinking about other ppl's problems; otherwise, why should they seek your help if there are no problems? However, if you try to solve a problem (by creating a product), you got to make sure others are willing to buy it. It's a process. In the business world, it's not just about you and yourself. Does your product and your business (startup) actually help ppl? If not, it won't work. It won't sell. It's not solving any problems for others too. Then it's back to the drawing board. Another question is: why does it have to be your problem? I mean, a person may be willing to become a doctor to cure brain cancer, but why should the doctor experience brain cancer? It's not about your problems or their problems; it's about solving problems.

I've been married for almost 20 yrs. Married in my early 20s. To me, when you say the word "romance," it's just a honeymoon phase. The question is, are you willing to grow together and stick it out no matter what? Most importantly, are you willing to continue to grow and discover yourself? There is nothing stopping you but you. Life is a lifetime of challenges and adjustments and opportunities no matter if you stay single or married. Sure, you will still have "romantic" moments from time to time if your relationship lasts. However, you see, the good times always speak for itself. What about if you have to face a challenge together? The rules of life still apply.

Some ppl don't like certain ppl's boundaries. That's ok. But, why judge these boundaries? Why criticize and debate with the person? It happens. Why not just walk away from the person not suitable to be in a relationship with you?

I get what you're saying here, and sorry to hear this. See, some ppl have, for example, the boundary of monogamy. And, the boundary can't be broken in an intimate relationship. This is not a weak boundary. It's strong. If the other party violates the boundary, then they will just leave the relationship without any problems. Some ppl developed themselves to this level. So, in other words, before they get into an intimate relationship or marriage, they get to know the other person really well in an attempt to greatly reduce the chance of a breakup when they actually enter into a relationship. And, if a breakup does occur, they say to themselves not to be attached to the outcome -- be detached of the outcome. Of course, there are more boundaries than the ones I've mentioned. If we don't know the other person well, but we know his/her boundaries, who are we to judge the other person?