Key Elements

These quotes make sense to me. The second one, you got to express it in your life purpose so that those who are interested will hear you and incorporate it into their lives.

The word responsible doesn't go with being a father + taking meth. I was only saying to pack up because you yourself need to recover physically and psychologically with your child. It's a lot. If you choose to move out now, it doesn't mean the relationship is over right away. He has to understand that. The thing is, he chose to be a man by choosing to be a father, but he's irresponsible and unacceptable.

I really like this one. I still listen to it sometimes.

How do you plan to stay motivated on a daily basis throughout your life?

I know that if you're from Nepal or Bhutan (citizens), you could enter India freely (aka no restrictions), work there, and stay as long as you like. You just can't vote there. But, if you're from somewhere else, like the US, and have a tourist visa, you got to check into the immigration office within 14 days. They are very strict on this. Pay attention to your passport and documents. If you're going on a spiritual journey, there is probably a special visa for that. You may want to research and check with an immigration lawyer for that. Yes, you got to research and plan the journey well. Work on your LP, network with ppl who have already been there, and make sure you ask good questions. Get second (3rd, 4th, 5th...) opinions too. "The places where you have the biggest challenges in your life become the places where you have the most to give." -Tracy Mcmillan

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I agree with you here 100%, but most ppl won't get it in this lifetime and won't listen. That's what LP is for. It could serve as a vehicle to communicate this message indirectly to humanity, so that those who get it will get it. At least the message will be passed on to some ppl and it will make a difference in their lives.

@Charlotte Have you and Ruth ever signed up to do dance aerobics together? It's fun! You could do that over the weekend on your free time and burn those calories. What about yoga? The both of you could try to figure out your LP together and have fun with this too. The point is, have some fun while solving problems. To me, it looks like she has to learn how to solve problems, and eventually not be overly dependent and esp not be emotionally dependent on anyone.

@zoey101 dear, this sounds horrible. Like anything profound in this life, please think of what to do for your next steps, for you and your child. Make sure you plan ahead. Ask yourself, "if I do this, then this, this, and this, etc., will happen. If I do that, then that will happen." I think it may be time to focus more on you. Do you ever consider ...to just start packing your bags, without telling him? I know it's hard, but please research, plan, and take actions wisely.

If you have a pressure cooker, you could cook all kinds of healthy Indian foods. They are available in the US too in local Indian stores. Explore those. I recently had this: I try to eat it with matta rice or mottaikarappan (red) rice, instead of basmati rice. Those rice have less carbs. Or, I mix up all 3 types of rice in the rice cooker, add a tsp of salt and Desi ghee for a yummy flavour. Note: I miss using the gas stoves in India--the ones that connect to gas cylinders that are delivered to your home. One reason is, you could turn it off immediately and the food stops cooking. On an electric stove, this doesn't happen.

Study Cups and Board Game for Students If you have younger students, you could teach them by making open & close study cups for them with mini flash cards. Hang them next to your bedside, wake up early in the mornings, and study flash cards instead of going to your backpack. Quick study. The educational board game is done with surprises --wrapped gifts for reward after learning the lessons. Would you like to teach them to eat their veggies? Cut out veggie flash cards and put them into the study cups, and also in the board game's study cups: (I carried these gifts in a cloth bag for my students.)

@Ross ok. Here's what can help you before you decide to purchase anything. First, find something you like to do, and go out there and find a job that is similar to what you like. Suppose you like art. Then, work in an art store, like Michaels, if you're in the US. You can earn some $ and decide to purchase the LP course. If not, go to the library and research how to market and sell. Afterwards, take actions on it. I recommend this book. By the time you take all these actions, you will have a clear idea of whether or not you want to purchase the course. You got to decide from your own personal experience. Reviews from other ppl could be too shallow. For things like restaurants, hotels, cars, or living in a good neighborhood, reviews could be helpful. But, your life's calling? Most ppl never found it. How would they know?

Yup. So, let's break it down. These questions were hard for me too, but ppl in general kept referring to them when I told them that I didn't know what to do. So, the what do I love to do question... hmmm...I thought. I decided that I'm just going to go with one topic that I'm passionate about. I didn't care at first if it's marketable or not. So, I went with art. Ok. It's broad. But, let's narrow it a bit more. How do I narrow this? I went out there and took actions on it. I knew how to make cute baskets with chocolates in them. So, I made and sold them. I think I already had a link for you on that in this thread. It didn't work cause it didn't pay much. So, I did foreign language + art and became a bilingual teacher. In other words, first you start with a broad topic and then you narrow it down by taking actions on your passion. Try to market your passion in some way. If you follow the link above, there is a link to a good book that got me started.

He explains the beginning steps well. We will look forward to coming home and start doing, discovering, and creating our path. Now, we are in the internet / information age. It used to be much harder to discover your calling with just TV, radio, newspapers, and ads. The papers were your cheapest way to get through to the public. Now it's free to start and not so costly as you go along.

@shapeshifter I'm glad that Leo's earlier videos helped you out. Yes, you don't have to tell them anything, no matter how much they question and try to dig. A person that asks too many personal questions and misunderstands who you are will only stay a stranger. The average person only assumes that a person is straight. The average person is very assuming and drops ppl in categories and expect that it's the truth. Anything outside to them is considered "weird." So, you know, we got to learn to ask them questions, like, "Hey, I saw someone who is 'gay.' What do you think of them?" Or, say it in such a way, and see how they react. If they react bad, you'll know to avoid them. Authentic friends are few in this world.

You are still single. I could tell. What is a marriage? Definition: a 7 days elaborate ceremony with at least 200+ family & friends. Lots of dances and drums and walking around a fire with your bride tied to you following you round and round for you too. Then, you and your bride say, "swaha," as you put special oil into the fire, guided by a sage (pandit), and it burns more. It will be followed by a marriage certificate with witnesses. That's it. Finished. Now, it's up to you and your bride to make it last throughout life. That is the real love. It's the work, detachment, and the devotion that will make it work, not the certificate and ceremony.

"Love is always spiritual." -Tracy Mcmillan

If someone else's path doesn't make sense to you, that's ok because we are meant to go on our own path. If we decide to go deeper, sometimes along the journey, that's when the profound stuff happens to us when we least expect it. Don't forget to go for your foundation. Otherwise, your Maslow could turn upside down, and you didn't realize it, and so much time and effort was spent going on a tangent.

@AmalieRuby It would be great if the ladies also learn how to say, "pass" and reject the wrong relationships. Finding a good one is a tough one. I heard that really good ones would rather be single throughout life than to be in the wrong relationship. Because if they end up with the wrong one, they would have to be stuck dealing with them for a long time and perhaps remain single forever after the breakup. The good ones don't actually want to breakup. They respect the other as a human being. They know they are not perfect and is capable of change. So, they don't quit easily. But, if a breakup does occur, they may end up being single for a long time or for good. They have better things to do in life than to chase or think about relationships. They would rather move on.

@AmalieRuby This lady has some wonderful insights of different types of relationships. You may want to check her out. But, the thing I find missing in the first video is, some guys could also lie to themselves and are dishonest to their dates. The author didn't cover that here.

@zoey101 You're welcome. Please continue to stay strong. I just want to say that if a person chooses to become a parent, he/she chooses to say to himself or herself automatically, "I'm going to be a well-rounded / high standard type of person!" You know? I think more awareness has to be brought into this, esp in society. Being a parent is no joke at all. You got to think about all kinds of things, like which neighborhood has the best schools and beyond that. (And, the cost of that. I'm not just talking about it financially. I mean, beyond that.) Choosing meth and being violent are just so irresponsible. The family has a whole journey together. I really really hope that he learned his lesson and move on.

@zoey101 You're an awesome person. I wish that someone like you don't have to go through this in life at all. I wish that someone like him would know better, esp be a better father and husband, esp the role of a father. I can't believe he's behaving like that!

This quote may be true. I dunno. But, "hate" is a rather strong word. The more common thing I see happening is ppl labelling and categorizing each other which may cause "hate" eventually. Without properly knowing the other person, you label him or her as "_______" (fill in the blank with a negative adjective). When the person is being spoken to, the person is being talked down upon in subtle ways, or there are communication gaps.

@shapeshifter what did you like about Leo's earlier clips? What qualities are you looking for in a friend? What exactly are the others saying to you that are not accepting? Why do you have to be open to others right away?