Key Elements

@Serotoninluv I think many ppl in society are not getting this... When you're in a relationship, do you want it to last? Yes? Ok, then. Don't call it quits so easily. Just keep working and working on yourselves. That's it. All these "emotions" or talking about something or going out somewhere are just the icing on the cake. Even when you're together, technically you're still "single." What's keeping ppl together is simply because they accept each other for who they are, and they want to be together.

The key word here is "detachment." When used to self-reflect/self-inquire, it's to help in understanding a successful relationship/building successful relationships, life itself, and the deepest truth(s).

So sweet! It's your wedding, right? Cute couple.

I bet, eventually, no matter what relationship you're in, it will go toward life purpose + spirituality whether you like it or not. At least it will have to fall into LP. And yes, it does correlate. Here's why... Eventually, a person will retire. Most ppl retire at or after age 65. Let's spice it up a little. What if you retire much younger? Like in your 30s and 40s? What are you going to do for the rest of your life? Relationships are not the answer. It will go out of balance. How long are you going to be "in love?" The "lovey-dovey" phase can only last for so long. What are you going to do? You can't talk to each other forever. It will get boring. Some ppl don't have to work a day in their lives anymore. Then what? They don't even have to lift a finger anymore--no housework, no cooking, nothing. Then what? Life can only get duller if you don't know how to live it. There's a saying, "An idle mind is the devil's workshop." This includes idle relationships. One cannot go on continuously talking small talk to each other forever. If this happens, they'll just find an excuse to fight. What's the next step? Detachment and finding the LP. This is probably a stage yellow clip at least because the word "detachment" is our true nature. He talks about detachment in relationships. That's how it works. The truth to why it's our true nature is because when you're experiencing an awakening that has to do with the nothingness, you will see and become one with everything but detached from everything. That's how it works in this life too because duality is correlated, interconnected, and one with non-duality.

See, if you want to tell them when you're completely independent from them, that's your choice. Just think of how they will react and the consequences. You know your family the best. Just be aware of that. I don't know if it's possible to introduce new ideas to them slowly once you're independent. For example, once you've reached a point in your life where you could start your own business (startup/LP), and then you completely quit your job and you're financially free. Can you tell them this after you do this? That's so much more basic and easier to tell them than talking about "all religions have truth in them." Will they even understand this part? To me, this is passing through stage orange in real life. Green is if your business (startup/LP) doesn't destroy the environment and takes environment into consideration. Beyond that, you could express your spiritual path in your business (startup/LP). That will probably put your work into Tier 2. Maybe they'll notice instead of you saying it. But then, it's your choice. I always thought that showing someone is different from telling someone the whole thing at once. Those who are closed-minded get shocked for no reason, and then they react and make trouble for others.

If they are dogmatic and you feel that you're at a risk of being disowned by them, or you know they don't accept that at all, there is no need to tell them. It will just cause more trouble for you, esp when you're not independent from them yet. You run the risk of them cutting you off completely. To me, it sounds like the next step is to find your interests and become independent from them. Even if you do become independent from them, you probably don't want to tell them. What's the use if they don't accept and stuck in that mindset? (Btw, just wanted to add: If you decide to go off on your own, make sure you understand the society and culture that you're living in before making any major decisions. Most ppl have not fully transended culture.)

Hey Jude, The Beatles

I think up to stage green and not passing onto yellow, a person is capable of excessively wondering why the other person should behave "like that." Tier 2 becomes more and more balanced and put more focus on solving problems in a reasonable manner than wondering excessively about what others are doing. Tier 2 is less likely to gossip. I think eventually a person will have to evolve into Tier 2. If not, it's no fun not to even know what you want to do in life that's of higher consciousness and just wonder about other ppl without knowing them properly.

You wrote good information. However, I find ppl of this mindset the hardest to change. Looks like some ppl get stuck here for the rest of their lives, esp when they're old, and in that case, they may be stuck for good. I had to deal with some old relatives. They saw me make a designer's website by using another person's skills. I had to learn what's entrepreneurship and networking. In the end, they were kind of impressed--not really though. They didn't know that there's another way of doing things. But, during the process, they were giving me all the wrong advices on how should I approach in making a website. They said to forget about it because I didn't have the skills. They didn't see what's the use for it. Yes, stage orange is the next step. Maybe if the person is young, you could teach by example easier.

Take any object. Let's use a piece of paper. What do you want to do with it? Do something with it. Turn it into something. Ask yourself, "how can this be marketable?"

We tend to remember the toxic environment we were in. When we are not in the toxic environment anymore, we still remember what happened. If you find yourself in your room working on something, try to find ways to let go of toxic thoughts. Ask yourself, how can I find ways to do more things that I love? How can I find ways to interact with others so that I attract the "right" ppl?

@Serotoninluv "The birds are my DJs." -Ralph Smart, Infinite Waters I agree with the quote. Even their mating songs sound better than pop stars or any singers in the world. I could listen to them all day. Listening to birds could be a technique to help in reducing stress or not being so attached to music or social media. Too bad it's copying a chainsaw.

@Serotoninluv yup.

"The way you overcome your ego is simply to realize that you're a channel or an instrument...you recognize that someone has given to you, and someone has given to that person...you've become an instrument for the greatest powers of the world." -Jay Shetty (This explains why we're one and interconnected in a practical sense.)

@StardewValley When you learn about a new insight, like Spiral Dynamics or whatever it is, it could even be entrepreneurship; the mind tends to think about it a lot. That's ok. Just keep developing yourself along with these new insights. That's all anyone can do. Btw, life purpose is the way to go to put all these things together. You could choose to write your thoughts in a journal and reread and organize them later.

@Pilgrim Good things in life such as a deep connection don't come easily. Even if you do meet a great friend, you got to respect his/her time and space and allow the person to work on himself/herself. It's called detachment. It's the same for you. Love yourself first and find the time to develop yourself. If you're talking about enlightenment or spirituality, the reality is, not even 1% of ppl in the world will understand what you're talking about. If the other person don't agree with you or understand you, you got to respect that. We're all on different paths at different levels. Find ways to express your deep insights; eg. express it in your life purpose so that those who are ready to hear it will hear it.

I mean to be "admired" like that, not necessarily "worshipped." Some monks/gurus/spiritual ppl are famous and ppl like them, but they're not "admired" or "worshipped." Ppl don't seem to be obsessed with them, which imo is a good thing. I guess there is a phase where you're really into someone, and later you're not. Some ppl go through this phase when they learned something profound from the "spiritual" person.

I agree. It is amazing. I'm not quite sure if Leo wants to be known this way, you know? Would you like to go down in history this way? j/k This makes me wonder if the way I'm approaching my LP is ok if it's going to include spirituality.

Yes, you're right. You are young and have a long way ahead. My recommendation is just focus on the now and also on your interests and develop these into a career/life purpose eventually. Take Maslow's diagram into consideration. It's a great guide. I find it accurate. Whatever you hear that's wonderful, take that into consideration, but try not to be obsessed with it. Of course, let go of the negatives too.

@bejapuskas You're young. Go for it. Why not? I've always been discouraged by someone in learning another language and listened. That was to my disadvantage. I knew someone who was working in Hyderabad, India, and he was from the US. He wanted to do a business (startup) and wanted to invest $ in it but couldn't afford to. He learned the local language, Telugu, in 6 months by reading, practicing, and speaking to others. What he did as a side job was charge tourists 2000-3000 rs per day to take them around the city in an auto (mini cab), teach them basic Telugu, and find an apartment if they are to stay there. I was impressed. He's bold and talented. You don't have to learn a language in 6 months. It's your choice, but knowing another language is to your advantage.

Sure you can learn Hindi. It's declared the official language of India. 50-80 % of ppl in major cities speak it, along with their native local language. It's marketable. If you learn it fully, you could use it as a career or a skill. Hindi came from Sanskrit, a very beautiful original language, not really in use anymore. You can use these languages in your life purpose, if you choose to do it that way. Of course, you could also better understand the wisdom coming from India. The meaning does change when it's translated into English by someone else. If you truly want to know the original profound meaning, go for it! The sky is the limit. It's your choice.

I doubt that a person has to fit this profile to become fully enlightened in life.

Here's the thing about talking about other ppl's spiritual paths. We actually don't know what the other person went through. I'm not sure why we're always talking about thoughts, but to be a human being in its ego is to have thoughts. That's life. The only thing is, are you able to let go of your thoughts, esp negative ones, and move on? Yes, in the absolute sense, all thoughts are illusion.

The thing I noticed is, it's very hard to tell where someone is at on their spiritual path, whether or not they're enlightened. Does it really matter to you? Why would it? It's a very personal journey. It probably takes a fully enlightened, articulate Zen Master who understands and is not biased at all to give you good insights into where you're at, if you tell him or her the full details. It probably takes time to earn the trust of someone like that because why would he/she want to unnecessary go into debate or over questioning with you? That doesn't help in the learning process and path.