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Basically, in summary, from what I've learned so far, if you decide to incorporate non-duality in your life purpose in some way, if it is mentioned and taught in some way, it won't work out if you get the definition of non-duality wrong. It will eventually turn into a "cult." The way the information is presented has to be cunning and tactful because ppl understand it in different ways at different levels. The deepest levels of non-duality is never about superiority (grandiose). It's the complete opposite, and there's a lot more to it.

Nope. That's not the definition of life purpose. Life purpose has a profound / unique definition that you need to discover for yourself later on. I really think you got to sit down for a while and listen to yourself. You already told us that you love teaching, and you love martial arts. Those are skills that you can use to get a job in, and eventually develop a life purpose later on. It's not just about making money. Do you want to make some money now to buy stuff that you need? Then, you need a job.

In that case, are you ready to live in isolation all by yourself? In the forest? In a cave? In a log cabin? Why live with your parents if they don't owe you anything? Why do you even have a gf? She doesn't owe you anything. You don't owe her anything too. What are you going to do if you need health insurance? Be ready to grow your own food and have hunting skills. Leo has a documentary or two on his blog about this topic, I believe. @Hardkill I think you're lucky to have your parents help you throughout your life. I thought you're trying to get your life together. We were having a discussion here.

Yes you can. Just start working in some job. If you like martial arts, find a job related to this. Ask yourself, "how can I get there?" Never say, "I can't." Whatever you think, comes true. The first step is, you might as well train your mind to find good solutions to any problems. You have time. Save up a little $ if you have to.

@Hardkill I kept emphasizing on life purpose because it could be a vehicle to fully self-actualize yourself. It's inclusive of enlightenment and helps you discover and understand yourself, and also love yourself better. A relationship is not a vehicle! Be careful. It's not going to be easy if you don't know what kind of relationship you want. If this is the case, you probably need to work on yourself to discover yourself more.

@Michael569 I understand what you're saying. I need to research more on this. I also think that the ppl I've mentioned didn't take care of their health properly. They were overweight / obese throughout their lives (except when they were in their 20s). The second person is from a traditional, stage blue family. She's expected to follow her husband, and so she does. She's trapped as a sheep and proud of it. (Housewife 24/7 requirement) Due to her mindset & her situation -- never exercised well or attempted to change her diet early on. It's also the lifestyle and what you eat that causes it. Horrible excuse she made in her 20s: I'm young so therefore I don't have to worry yet.

Watch out especially when you're in your 30s and 40s. Get tested. Watch your weight and especially calories & carbs. Exercise and walk daily to keep that weight off. Once you get it, it never goes away. If not controlled, will lead to heart attacks, organ failures (ie. kidney failure), amputation of limbs due to gangrene, becoming blind, becoming deaf, etc. Feel free to share thoughts. Another interesting one, but doesn't quite match the first video because of the bananas... Cured? That's great, but I don't believe it's that easy. I heard from some sources that it can't be cured once you get it. If you're pre-diabetic, it could be prevented.

Truth is more likely to be realized and not told. It's an internal journey (that does not exclude the external world). You know, what would be really convincing would be something like, you had your own awakening and the process to your realization was very meaningful. The process was enough to convince you. It wasn't directly told by anyone. Things just happen while you were living your daily life, but you were trying your best to be your best. Explain this in your life purpose in a cunning / tactful way so that those who are ready to hear it will hear it. The straightforward approach may not be the best approach.

Let's dig into this. For a long while, I thought it's work. On second thought, I'm thinking it's patience. Yes, do the work, but you got to have patience to keep moving forward. It's the ability to move on no matter what happens. Please feel free to share thoughts. There's no right or wrong answers.

@bejapuskas You're welcome. Before it could even turn into a flow, whatever you're doing, it requires practice. And, that takes a lot of patience. It never happens overnight. Sometimes you think it didn't work out, but no, you just have to adjust to it.

@bejapuskas I noticed myself doing this ever since early childhood. In 5th grade, during the summer, I was at my cousin's house. He had a really big house with a big backyard. I just let myself free and ran across the grass (chasing wild baby bunnies sometimes). That was a turning point in my life because my memories always go back to that point to reflect on it. I just decided to let myself play freely! When I did this, most of the time I was creating all kinds of things with legos and clay (playdoh). I wrote a lot too. No one was forcing me to do this. I went into my cousin's treasure chest often to get out this colorful book just because I liked the artistic cover--kept holding it. Finally, my cousin went out to buy it and got it for me as a gift. **Look at the key words.**

@bejapuskas yes, try different things, but ultimately, it has to come from you. Are you doing something that you already enjoy, but don't notice it? I loved writing and art since I was a little kid. I just didn't know how to make this marketable, and use this as a tool to teach anything.

See, I agree that we don't really have a "purpose" for doing anything. True. However, there's always that paradox. You know, "there's always two sides to the same coin." Well, what is the paradox? It is, no one wants to suffer. That's why you hear about earth being a place to learn "to love (realm)" in spirituality and all the major religions. It's also true when you have the deepest awakening. There is a "love" aspect to it. With that said, ask yourself, how do you want to contribute to yourself so that you will be able to finally contribute to others? Learn to love yourself first. If you didn't have to go to a university right now or even pick a major, what would you be doing NOW? Narrow it down. My answer would just be sitting at home and writing a foreign language. I love writing. It goes with the flow for me. I had to discover that for myself. It's a process. That's why I'm a bilingual teacher. Of course, take care of my health. That's #1. Do you find yourself doing something that you like during the day? That could be a major clue. You could transform that into something marketable, and then find your major.

What I mean is, if you know your own direction in life, have the patience to go through it. It's a process of twists and turns. Sometimes unexpected things happen that you don't like. That's ok. Solve and move on, or just let it go and do something else. It's like learning to ride a bike or learning ballet. You're going to fall a lot before it actually flows. Those are obvious. Some other things are not. For example, you picked a major at your university, and you don't know how to make use of your major once you graduated from it. You feel "hopeless." Well, it's only a matter of exploring and discovering. Maybe you found a completely new direction and felt that your major was "useless." Nope, that's a step forward. Now you know whether or not you want a masters degree at this moment.

Thanks for the info. I know two ppl with diabetes. One of them already passed away a few years ago. He died at 63. Worked for the government. Had two more yrs before he turned 65 (retirement age) and get his pension, but didn't quite make it because he didn't bother to take care of his health. Never bothered to get tested, and when he did, didn't take it seriously. In the end, he ended up in the hospital for six months with kidney failure, and then dialysis, and then a massive heart attack. The second person is almost in her 80s and has to inject herself with insulin shots everyday--not on a limb but close to the stomach. I asked, "Could she just take medicine instead?" I got a 'no' as an answer. Looks like it gets really bad when you're older.

This video may give some ideas on what to do while you look for a LP: Of course, you could also transform these into a LP. Being some kind of doctor or some kind of teacher are always marketable. You cannot replace these with a robot. Please share thoughts.

It will not be lucrative for anyone if the person doesn't plan, learn to make wise decisions, and take baby steps toward it. Here's a little hint: I know it's not going to be easy, but learn what is entrepreneurship step-by-step. What does it mean to create a product, market it, and sell it to generate passive income? Unfortunately, most ppl in the world, will not even get past this point--only 10-20% will actually achieve this. It's not because they're not smart. It's because they're not open-minded or wanting to become well-rounded enough to try it. Keep trying this and find out. It can lead you to a career of your interest too. ___ Maybe what I just said is skipping steps for you. I honestly don't know. Do this too in the meantime: You might want to see what career of your interest is in the job market so you could start working and becoming independent. Did you ever go to your university and receive career counselling? That may help open your options. However, in the end, you got to learn to make your own decisions.

Once you learn the lesson, move on.

Yes, I agree here. Under 19 might be too young to tell it to them directly. Most adults don't even take it the right way. They get upset or ridicule without thinking and understanding further. However, if the young person is exposed to a good, open-minded teacher early on, it could have a positive impact on him/her. Btw, depending on how well you do your LP, a good LP will show more, not tell. It will show to those who are ready to hear it. Nowadays, we have the internet and lots of opportunities to be a great pointer/teacher. Don't just let this opportunity pass by. Deep question--how are you going to present yourself in your LP (+enlightenment)? You could even take it step by step there. No need to just jump into enlightenment when you need to explore this area more.

Take a look at the turquoise thread. Are you able to understand those ppl who are considered 'enlightened?' I mean fully understand? What are they actually saying and pointing at? You got to ask yourself these questions. Don't just dismiss whatever useful / profound info is being presented. Another thing: have you started to take a step forward in your path? To go forward, it's inclusive of everything, including life purpose + enlightenment. Enlightenment is never exclusive. Why should it be? What are you going to do today to move forward step by step? You could start here. It's a baby step.

@Hardkill this is for you and anyone interested in making it in this area. Think deeply on this. Write a book (or make a product) of your interest and try to market and sell it via entrepreneurship. Do an excellent job in the end. This process will take you places. Take it step by step.

I noticed that if you want to do a good life purpose, you got to be careful not to refer or hint at anyone, esp in a negative way. Just do what you have to do, and try your best at it. If you hint at someone esp in a negative way, even when you were not referring to them, the chances are, ppl do get a negative impression. It looks like gossip. That's how it works.

When I went over this video, I noticed David Goggins more and what he said overall. Then, I looked at a few more of his videos on YouTube. There's nothing wrong with what he said. It's an achievist mindset. However, two big questions came up for me, if I'm to interview/question someone like David Goggins: 1) Heard of Shaolin monks? As a group, they are great fighters. Perhaps, the best in the world? You wouldn't want to mess with them, esp if you picked the best fighter among them and challenged him to a fight one-on-one. Why do you suppose they call themselves "Shaolin monks" and not "Kung Fu Masters?" 2) Everyone in the world cannot get up one day and have a "fighter's mindset." There are different professions. We cannot survive as humans without different professions. Having said this, how would you define "success" for any human being?