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@Juan Cruz Giusto I do multiple things to reach a baby step milestone - books & videos are just two of them. I usually read books that matches my interests. And, to get the "right" book, I watch quite a few video clips and do the inner work of self-inquiry before I buy the book. All the research that I do are interconnected with my life purpose. However, did you notice that the info that you researched are not effective unless you take action on them, or have had life experiences? I think this applies to all age groups.

For me, it's books and taking action. Action generates results, and then you will find more books and other info that matches. Then, you take more action and go deeper into your life purpose.

If you go deep into your life purpose, you will run into like-minded friends. The person will have to go through this process to actually understand it. There is a saying, "Friends are few," and this is why. Most ppl who are not into life purpose are not deep.

Just wanted to add one more thing...no matter how close you are to someone...?

@Artur You see, I cannot answer these questions for you. The relationship is between the two -- you and her. I can only tell you what I have experienced with detachment, and what I saw and read according to my experience. If I answered these questions for you, I could be shedding the wrong light.

Yes, very true. I agree. However, if you want to see it from a different perspective, you have to do the heavy lifting. You have to experience it for yourself and accept and live through the consequences, if there are any. (Leo even mentioned the heavy lifting part in his most recent clip - 64 Most Fascinating Questions...) It's just so easy to accept a similar perspective. It depends on how one defines the idea of balance. We human beings' idea of balance are not the same. For example, some can be very detached and tolerate "long distance" relationships so much more than others. Who are we to judge when this happens? No, we cannot judge. Buddha, for example, left his wife and child to help humanity, and then he came back home - long story. Aung San Su Gyi of Myanmar (Burma) did the same thing - leaving behind husband and children for years in another country. She also had to help (her country and won Nobel Peace Prize). I mean, these are extreme examples of detachment for most people. I'm talking about it on a lesser scale. Some people have to go on business trips for weeks, and the spouse stays home with children. Heck, even our beloved Leo is in a long distance relationship. He said it so many times. How do they manage? You see, no one can explain this to anyone, unless the person actually experiences with the situation. It's like..have you eaten an orange in your life? No. Well then, you won't ever know how it tastes like. No one will be able to explain it to you, unless you taste it / eat it. Yes, I have experienced this in my life, and that's why I'm sharing it in this way. Best of journey. Truely...take care.

@Artur I just want to point this out. If you disagree, that's ok too--no problem. Most of the times, I realize that in conversations/arguments, that the whole discussion was not necessary. From my experience, not just with the intimate relationship (but with any relationships), most discussions are just labels. It's like we get upset at the wrong things, so we put wrong labels on them. I'm sure when I'm saying this, there are so many examples. It's like the whole discussion could be dropped completely. And then, we could've just went and worked on our life purpose all this time, or something important. I'm just saying this. You don't have to agree. Plus, I realized that if a person wants to improve a relationship or anything else, there has to be some counter-intuitive change in the routine. It could be a baby step change that could eventually add up.

That rap song by Shia reminds me of an old movie, Hercules: LOU FERRIGNO as Hercules (1983) - Probably no one in here has heard this movie. But, it just goes to show how hard these Greek Gods work when they come on earth.

@Juan Cruz Giusto https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/5710-hobbies-replacing-bad-habits/?do=findComment&comment=52938 I shared it here. Currently, I want to get my life purpose all online so that I don't have to be uprooted when I travel. I'm already tutoring a student online. What is your life purpose (if you don't mind sharing)?

@Artur We may be having different perspectives on relationships. I don't see a detached relationship as "ego." To my understanding, "being detached" and "what is ego" are two different words and two different things. I don't usually comment in the area of relationships because the life that I live is different from most ppl's. We're all different anyway. But, I decided to comment on your post because I really like how you said, "Please don't sympathize, i want cold hard truth, i can take it and question myself as deeply as i have to make this work." When you said that, I was thinking something like this... "I'm bold. Bring it on! I could take life as it comes." It reminds me of my role models. I wish you the best in your relationship, and hope it works out. The both of you might just need some time off to think things over.

I totally agree on these parts, when he said... "Hey, who am I? What do I want to do in this life? What do I want to express? What do I want to create? How do I want to play around?" "It is not life that hurts; it is that when they see a lot of things, or when they see something, they have negative definitions about it, or they believe in lack. When the lack belief is triggered by an appearance, they feel out of alignment with the vibration of the universe." Also..you could let someone or something inspire you because of the teachings, but as long as you don't get attached to that and continue with your life purpose you are fine.

Anyone tried this technique? I found it very helpful. My hobbies are mainly art and foreign language. Studying a foreign language got me a job as a teacher, and I do sell and donate my paintings and other arts. I used to be more of a nervous person before I seriously got into my hobbies. Then, I got into self-help because I had the question of, "Is there more to it?" The sky is the limit. I love doing my startup too and trying to make it a higher consciousness startup - thanks to actualized.org. Please feel free to share your experiences.

These things do inspire me to work on my life purpose with the focus on the nothingness / everythingness (transient morality). Then, I can't think of a better mission in life than to align the life purpose with world peace. Is it possible that these things trigger these kinds of experiences with a combo of meditation / contemplation / self-inquiry? Time to find out. So awesome...

@Juan Cruz Giusto Whoa cool...the thing to do is keep asking from time to time and focus on life purpose. This will probably get you far.