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@Annoynymous I'm not trying to overgeneralize. I know they are not all in blue. Why would I make a friend from there? I'm talking about only the ones in blue, if I have to deal with them.

It's the opposite. If they are stage blue, and you are beyond that, normally, you get to hear all their opinions, ideologies, and small talks. They could be overly friendly at first. Later, there will be distance from them. Have you worked with stage blue ppl? Just keep it very professional.

Hmmm...wait. After posting these, I just got through talking to my friend on the phone. He's gay, and he's from mainland China, studying his master's in the US. I told him this, and he said that he is openly gay and making mainland Chinese friends here in the US. So, basically, he's saying that it's not always true that everyone is in stage blue. Hmmm...ok. That's interesting.

I agree with you on the stage blue part. China is homogeneous. Many of them have a lot of trouble adjusting, not just with English, but with seeing different ppl. For example, if they see an interracial couple walking or sitting together, they will laugh out loud or keep gossipping about them. They stick together in their own groups. Be careful of using what I said as a stereotype. Not all are like this. Some have adjusted. It happens with stage blue ppl anywhere in business, in jobs, etc. No, a Chinese American is definitely not the same as someone who is newly from China. They will ask me if I'm Chinese. I am from a South East Asian country originally. I think some of them expect me to say, "yes, I am Chinese." Otherwise, they will think I'm lying because how am I able to speak Chinese? Oh, well, I don't care. For a stage blue person, they don't understand. If they are stuck, they will hold on to their beliefs and be suspicious of petty labels.

@Annoynymous what country do you think I'm from? I'm not from China. I know China is communist. Most ppl in the US know that. I have never been to China.

Yeah, ok, I get your point. You can't just say that all hope is lost and forget about them. Nope. But, my point is, how do we make small changes being who we are? For instance, in my case, I know how to speak Chinese (Mandarin), and plan to teach it. What can I do here in the US to contribute to a gradual change in someone's mindset? Let's say this person is someone from China, a Chinese student perhaps, in the US for the first time? Maybe it's someone from the US going to China. China is no longer completely isolated. Otherwise, it will become like North Korea. Human beings by nature are capable of going up the spiral (SD). You could see the generation gap.

So, now what? We still have to wait and see what the Senate will do. Trump will most likely be in his office and not be kicked out.

This defector used to be an ambassador to Denmark and other countries and saw a difference. He looks like he's not afraid to speak out to bring about positive changes toward democracy, even in China. I think this clip is informative and makes me think about the approach to my life purpose. How do we change ppl's thinking when they grew up in such environments? It can't all of a sudden happen.

Knowing that life continues even after you're in a relationship.

@Anna1 I added something else to the other post. Earth is far easier to study in science. It's probably going to take a miracle, maybe, to convince science to study enlightenment, and for it to become mainstream. I'm just making a comparison between studying the Earth in science and studying enlightenment. Earth is more tangible and easy access, so ppl don't think it's make-believe. That was the point I'm trying to convey.

You're hilarious. Now, are you interested in enlightenment? It's going to be hard to convince science to study this. Earth is easier to study.

@Preety_India ok, I've been reading through your thread carefully. Just wanted to share: it doesn't really matter overall that his one thinking is "the Earth is flat." Can you see right now if his personality is determined enough to stay with you? I think this is what really matters. I just want to point out that maybe he's mostly stage green, perhaps? Be careful on this one. Green can be stuck. I knew a couple who I suspected that the bf was in green because he's very laid back, but in the end they broke up. I'm not saying that this is your case. I'm just saying be careful. Love but don't be too overly attached.

@FoxFoxFox I understand what you're saying, but I find pointers like these cute!

@FoxFoxFox ok. That's fine. To me, from my experience, it's not a model. It's a pointer. Leo posted this once on his blog: I'm like, wow.