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The Positive Whatif: A lot of fear gets out of control because we get locked into the idea of "What if (something bad) happens?" It becomes a trap when we just keep wondering without making any specific plans for that. A surprisingly easy way out is to immediately ask yourself, "But what if something good happens instead?" It might sound too easy, but you may be amazed at how well it works. It does work because it forces a shift to a positive expectation or memory. That shift leads to a relaxation of tension in your body and a calming of emotion that helps the fear disappear. Hit the fear with Information: you could educate yourself in what you need to do to keep Your body healthy, what foods are better, how to stay healthy , you could become an expert in those subject and lessen your fear or make it disappear by knowing what to do. Those aren’t magical permanent solutions but they are practical techniques you can try if you wanted to, to help aid the situation.

@Genius100x I appreciate your perspective, but I think there’s a crucial nuance being overlooked. It’s great to acknowledge that life can be fulfilling at any age, but the emphasis on desiring to end it at a certain point based on the idea of avoiding suffering could be limiting and created from a place of fear not positive thinking. Just because the post creator expresses a desire to live primarily until 60 doesn’t mean they should brace for misery post that age, they can but they can choose not to. The belief that old age equates to inevitable suffering can shape their outlook and choices today, potentially stunting their dreams and experiences. Life can actually get richer and more meaningful with age, filled with wisdom and new opportunities if we remain open to them. The perspectives you and others hold now might evolve as you navigate life. Encouraging a broader viewpoint might empower younger individuals to envision a vibrant future beyond 60, reinforcing the idea that life is what we make of it at any age. Ultimately, it’s about cultivating a mindset that treasures every moment, regardless of age, rather than one that dreads it.

I see , of course I am not aware of what you had to go through or are going through, have you exhausted all healing possibilities ? Apart from medication and Pharmaceutical products what else have you tried? Maybe a holistic ways of healing? Acupuncture? Reiki? Any other ways. of helping the situation>?

@Genius100x how do you know that? you can't possibly know what someone will or will not do, neither do I, and I'm aware of this , but I do have my opinion about things and I am free to express it, I am not sure what you are discussing here with me, I never said that the post creator will definitely sabotage their life, no idea where you got this from, I used the word might , this might... happen, they might limit themselves....... I have never set a guarantee on this, I just suggested another way of thinking as possibility to open up to broader perspective, the author of this post. can decide to use this information or not, thats not up to me and neither it is up to you. I don't know who Ratan Tata is or was, but if we sharing facts- my grandmother lived to 104 years old and living fine in a happy state most of the time, but we can safely assume you don't know my grandmother .

@Genius100x sure however I think you are spinning what I said to something different then it meant to be , I wasn't talking about particular cases where people have enough of life at older age, and I am not disputing anyones decisions., if the post creator was 60 years old and felt that way , my answer would be very different. My point here is that this young person at the age of 22 takes on a belief, circumstance , opinions of their environment as their own, thinking this will also be a case for them, when in reality this type of thinking might stop them from doing a lot of things or limit their own potential in some way. And if they want to take this path on , sure go ahead, just remember that the universe/god/source whatever you want to call it does one thing very well and thats harmonising your thoughts with your experience, which means that no matter how you think you will be proven right, so in summary it is more effective and beneficial for the young person to have a broader perspective while they are young in order to provide themselves with more opportunities to have a wonderful life and not miserable older years.

@Majed What on earth happened to you to have such a negative view of life? It's a serious question, I have seen a good few suicidal posts on this forum since i've joined, which is worrying and little terrifying that so many people rather not be here then do something about their circumstances.

Hi , I think you only think this way right now with the experiences you had so far you have formulated an opinion, which isn't even yours. ( its an opinion of your parents and grandparents.... what's yours? you seem to agree with them ), not accounting for probability of many changes in your perspective to come. You have been led astray my friend. Not every person who is 60 is miserable, or 50 , i'm close to 50 and I am living a great, full life as I always have, I'm certainly not miserable or wanna die before 60, I hope to live passed 100!!! Darling, how you going to be and feel when you are older depends on how you live your life now, right now is the time for you to build experiences, memories that you can have when you older. What you seeing within your family is merely people decisions and actions that led to the circumstances they now want to be changed. but change requires change, so use this moment , this example and do everything you can not to get there, your goal could be '' I wanna be happy at 60, wise, and have great life experiences to draw from'' instead of '' I dont wanna live passed 60''- this is an easy way out , non challenging , not exciting , if I knew I was definitely dying and had little time left ( im referring to example of sudden illness or sudden news from. a doctor, of course our bodies are slowly dying all the time) I would wanna die an epic death , one last experience of a life time

@1337 Hmm honestly I wouldn’t ask. He already said it is too personal to talk about so, in your position I would leave it alone, he will tell you when he is ready to do so or when he feel comfortable enough to do so. For now enjoy the good moments together, in the present moment as they happen. You could mention during conversation that you want to let him know that whatever happened back then you don’t need to know that you understand he had some stuff going on , everyone has from to time , what’s important is the fact you are back to doing stuff together, that shows a respect towards his privacy and maturity on your side. At the end of the day it most likely had nothing to do with you and really was a personal matter.

What fulfilment and satisfaction comes from each of these roles? - it’s one energy , the same energy in each sector it just changes form, the feeling itself is the same but the experiance of it is different for each. We can module the same energy in different ways using the same patterns in different settings. Patterns are Ever changing but the energy is one and the same. I find something I absolutely love in everything I do and I keep my focus there as and when needed. It’s less fulfilment and satisfaction and more pure joy. You would be surprised in how many ways one can express themselves , moving in and out of those settings ( realities) , shifting between creates a circle of new experiences which I choose to experience in a joyful way. I try to create joyful experiences I can remember when I’m older, the more the better ☺️ and all of those choices are based on how much joy something brings me. I know this feeling of joy well so when I have an idea I reach to that, which one of my ideas brings me that joyful almost child like feeling? And I proceed to take action on that one. your second question … Hmm I think it’s important to self validate all the time, to have the kindness to yourself of telling yourself well done!! That’s what loving yourself means. Think about it… when you love somebody , you would praise them for what they did, their achievements , you would support them with your knowledge and experience, once you start doing these things for yourself, outside validation becomes no longer important to you because you know your own worth and nothing can take that away from you. what do you tell yourself when you feel happy about the choices you make? - I say: well done for making this decision to myself, you have created, influenced, structured this experience, now what else do we want to experience just because it’s fun to do. Did you notice how I don’t care about the outcome? I know that whatever the outcome it will be beneficial for me anyway. That’s both selfish and selfless. Selfish because every experience I have I decide on how I want to interpret it, and I am careful with observing what type of feelings come up while I experiance , the self decision on how I want to experience something is my responsibility for myself, but it affects others and that would be selfless. People usualy flow with others energy , which means that one angry person in a room can cause quite a havoc amongst the rest and influence behaviour of others. The same way I know it can work in reverse. If I decide to react to a situation with a positive, calm attitude others around me start to follow that vibration, try it for yourself. So we can debate meaning of selfish and selfless as just meaning of words till we die or we can drop both definitions and say we are always self serving with influence on others which makes us both selfish and selfless. This theoretically would combine both elements in to one. Think for a second , how do you feel when you give some money to a homeless person, or charity , or any other form of giving, how does that feel to you? Well it feels amazing , you can’t deny it, this deed is both selfish - because you like that feeling and selfless - because someone else recieved some help from you. we humans like to split hair but things are really a lot simpler then we make it to be.

It's going to be different for everyone, neither is better or worse, why not be, do both, why not use the tool as it fits, i'm always looking for a balance rather then a particular 1 way of life because I am aware of choices I can make every nano second. Im an artist and im making a living on being an artist now, apart from my wonderful art I have other areas of life where I am no longer am an artist but a mother, a wife, a good friend, event organiser , and I do many more things I am passionate about. We have to be a little selfish and a little selfless. I create out of my passion, you could say out of selfishness but I give some of my work away to those who couldn't afford it but passionately are in love with it, here you could say im being selfless. Be a bit of both is my thought here.

Some video editing apps have a function called teleprompter, this is where you will have previously prepared text and as you are recording , the text slowly rolls down the screen , it looks like you are looking at the camera when in reality you are readying your script. Camera will only record you talking , script won’t be shown on recorded video it would be only visible to you while you record in real time. CapCut is one of those apps for example.

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@Leo Gura exactly that, well said.

People often identify with what money represents to them, money became a value of most things , you asked how to overcome this … try keeping your attention on other values , for example, when I earn money in my business , I do tattoos, i focus primarily on the art , I care about how well I can perform how good the artwork is, how much I enjoy the process rather then what I’m going to get paid for it, this way work became pleasure and money is a side effect to it. I go to work to relax, do some cool art and have some good convos. The result of good tattoo outweighs the value in money.

You can always build your own brand, offer your services directly to potential clients..

@MarioGabrielJ nobody knows the answer to this question, we just don't know. Therefore staying in the present moment is so important, create good experiences together with those close to you now, while you are all having this experience together.

It is all part of our experience here on earth, as @LastThursday said ''you need existing ideas to spark from''. ''Something'' always gets created from or through ''something'' else.

Maybe you just need to find a balance between the 2.

Everyone is capable of building new habits and replacing the old ones, it is a choice everyone has available to them. People who choose to endure the same routines even if it causes them stress see greater benefit in staying where they are due to fear of a worst circumstances arising from their decision to change something. People resist change although change of some kind is inevitable, the more and the longer they resist the harder it will become to change this. People try to change something, their plan doesn’t work out, they identify with the failure of the plan now believing they have failed when in reality is the method itself that was ineffective, not the person, and this creates self doubt , lack of confidence and fear, often they won’t try another approach. In saying all this , everyone has their own path to self discovery, some choose one way some another, but we all have the same capabilities.

With my mind's eye I see hellish, inhuman creatures. Sometimes angelic ones as well. And long consistent stories play off in my mind. For months (from December to July) a quest unraveled in my mind regarding me "catching" and understanding the fox. That’s some imagination you have. Ever thought of using it as a tool? If you believe the above it should be pretty easy for you to navigate and influence your reality and create thought forms, why not think only positive thoughts so you can create positive life flow? If it was this easy we all would be doing just that. It takes conscious effort to navigate your emotions, thoughts and feelings , to make choices on how you want to feel, to be even aware that you have a choice and full control over your own emotions, reactions, feeling etc. I agree that thought is a beginning of an idea, but without taking action on it , it is less likely to play out in your physical reality. Imagine every intrusive thought being a real event in your life , we wouldn’t live very long. I won’t question whether a single thought has its own consciousness and lives out somewhere outside of my physical reality, which I wouldn’t even know about because what’s important to me is a thought I take action on in the present moment.

Aww that’s fun, I saw purple and orange

I am assuming it is a tradition rather than binding agreement. 1. You could write an agreement in which you can offer him something for looking after you but not 3years in rent free living, that’s unreasonable. Get him to sign once you agree on terms, if he refuses at least you have a proof you tried to be reasonable, you could probably get some legal advice on this. 2. If he doesn’t accept the offer Move out to a smaller place elsewhere and cut your ties , or start advertising for a flat mate and ask him to move out. Maybe you can’t afford the place by yourself but you could find another tenant to replace the needed rent gap.

Change is happening all the time at all times, it’s a constant. Change isn’t caused by memory , memories direct your reaction to the experiances whatever is happening. In fact you can consciously influence change through whatever change happens within you. Here in reference to memories I mean past reactions to events , those form patterns , those patterns are stored within you and then used to filter new experiences. We usually don’t even notice those patterns or even that they repeat. We can change our reaction, attitude , opinions, values , rules etc and this influences changes , that’s already happening anyway, in our reality.

I am not sure who said this quote so can't give credit, but I have it saved in my notes and it goes like this: Being smart means intellectual ability; being wise means discernment. Smart people craft complex solutions; wise people choose simplicity Smart people claim credit; wise people share it. Smart people focus on being right; wise focus on getting it right. Smart people dissect failures; wise people grow from them.

It's called Mere exposure effect or in psychology a familiarity principle. Here's a link to wikipedia definitions : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect