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I have this weird habit for 10 years. I do not have any serious mental problem. I am biting the inside mouth surface till i make it bleed. Sometimes I tear off very small pieces from the inner surface of the mouth. If i bite it for days, my mouth hurts for about a week. I really want to stop biting my inside mouth but i can't. I bite the inside of my mouth completely consciosly. Sometimes I can't talk or eat or drink water because of the pain. I need your advices. This habit is ruining my life. Have a nice day!

UPDATE AFTER 6 MONTHS: I hadn't done it for a long time and it started again. But now I haven't been able to stop myself for a week and I continue to bite. I'm trying not to bite while writing this, but a very strange feeling is pushing me to bite the inside of my mouth. Damn, my 6-month streak is broken. It really sucks. I need to stop biting now but it's so hard. Damn. I've been so stressed out for the last 2-3 weeks and I can't control myself.

I realize the question is general. I would be happy if you could share general useful tips about this concept I don't like the idea of being alone and singular forever, and I hope i can change my situation. Even if I'm an introvert, I don't want to admit it Have a nice day!

There was a trigonometry exam on Wednesday. I hadn't studied all week and only revised for 15 minutes the evening before the exam. I got 80/100 in the exam. It was a good grade compared to not working at all. Getting above average grades for the first time in a long time created a very inner sense of satisfaction. I remember that I got 17/100 in mathematics last year Anyway, my next goal is to play for 1st place. I loved the feeling of satisfaction it created and will go back and remember that feeling.

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@Rigel what do you mean by "Give & receive. Never take." i didn't get what you mean. What is the difference between take and receive? You're right about being emotional. That's why talking with artificial intelligence is so unpleasant.

@Davino The example you gave is good. So I'm going to bite the bullet. But how can I overcome this: when I interact with people, I regret the things I did during that interaction for a long time. I wish I had said this or did he misunderstand me? Did he get a bad impression? etc.

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I have exams on Wednesday and I need to study tomorrow. I'm stressed for some reason but that's okay. I will meditate after writing this. then i will sleep. Normally I try to go to bed early, but today I couldn't go to bed early. If I study hard during these 2 days, I will probably get a good result in the exam. I think about writing here every day. Reviewing what I did all day will prevent me from losing control. Also, I haven't stepped out of the house for the last +72 hours, so I'll do a little run tomorrow morning. Sitting at home all the time and not going out for days makes me feel depressed. I will try to go out every day if possible.

I have been thinking about the issues of free will and determinism for a long time. Recently I started to think more about this issue and now everything is starting to make no sense. normally moral value judgments etc. I used to see it as meaningless, but this is different. Now I think about this before every action I take and it's starting to get scary. It's scary to have the rest of my life clearly defined but not being able to know or change it. Even writing these was actually predetermined. I feel more unmotivated and worse than I have felt in a long time. In fact, everything I have seen so far has been an illusion. How can I start thinking normally again? This comes to my mind every minute now and there hasn't been a single minute today that I haven't thought about it. Thinking about it right now just creates anxiety. If I really don't have free will, I don't want to know anything about it. It's scary to really know and be aware of this. It has gotten worse recently after I raised awareness against it. I want to think like before, but it doesn't work. There are only negative feelings. What should I do to make this go away? How can I face this? (probably there is no free-will but we cant just accept the fact) Have a nice day!

I vowed to improve myself in one area and began to do everything necessary to achieve this goal. I have blocked out almost all distractions on my electronic devices. Can you give examples of distractions that we are not aware of? Your advice is very important to me. Have a nice day!

I don't know what I'm doing when I study math. I just got into trigonometry and blew it. There are terms that sound weird even when pronouncing them and I don't even understand exactly what they do. This is a triangle topic, but suddenly the x,z coordinate system appears. I passed my first and second years of high school without studying mathematics or studying very little. But I'm in my third year of high school now and I'm aware that if I want to get into a good university in the future, I have to work. For example, I can learn any physics, chemistry or biology subject whenever I want by memorizing it and spending some time. But the same is not true for mathematics. I don't understand the point directly. I feel like an idiot when I don't understand the topic. I go to a relatively good high school, and it drives me crazy that even the stupidest kids around me understand math topics. If people who do not even have the intelligence to understand what is being said at once can do mathematics, this shows that mathematics has nothing to do with intelligence in the real sense. Since I am not mentally retarded, I should be able to do it. For example, I don't get bored with probability and geometry topics. I can easily understand and solve it. But I look confused at issues such as polynomials or functions. What the hell is this stupid trigonometry and sine cosine tangent? I started trigonometry for the first time today, but I seriously don't have even the slightest enlightenment in my mind. Am I unable to find someone who explains it properly or am I not studying correctly? Maybe what I do can't actually be called working. I can grasp the topics very well in a short time after I barely understand them a little. But it takes me a long time to learn that little bit. People learn a little at a time and gradually grasp it very well. But hours pass before I grasp the subject and sometimes I don't know the subject directly. This is how I spent my last year. How can I find where I made a mistake? Have a nice day

I had a classmate 2 years ago. I was in the same class with him for about a year. We were also sharing the same desk in class. At that time, we used to play Pubg all the time. We played a lot of Pubg in the summer of that year. One month before the end of the summer vacation, he suddenly stopped writing, did not log in to the game and was not active on WhatsApp. After a week, the messages showed as delivered but he did not respond. He even entered Pubg and started playing alone. He wrote on WhatsApp 7 days later. While we were talking, I asked him where he had been for a week, mixed with a joke. His internet was also down and that was weird. I just asked a question mixed with a joke, without judging. He said, "I can't talk about it, it's too confidential." In the next academic year, the classes were mixed completely and we were transferred to different classes. He slowly stopped talking and he didn't even say hello when i saw him at school. We didn't fight or anything bad happened. We didn't talk for about a month. I didn't ask him why he acted that way (it would have been too embarrassing. After all, it was his decision). Then one day, out of the blue, he texted me in the evening and we talked for a while. He talked about the new update coming to Pubg. Then he stopped talking again and we didn't talk. Even when we came together with mutual friends at school, we did not greet each other or even look at each other face to face. while talking to a boy with whom we were mutual friends, I learned that he treated him the same way. He said that he had changed a lot. This year, I was in the same environment with him at the opening ceremony on the first day of the new academic year. We did not greet or shake hands. Afterwards, there was a fake handshake session Then he asked another friend whose desk was empty in the class. The friend said, 1337's desk is empty, but if you want, ask him. There was a little silence and then he asked if he could sit next to my desk. I said yes, but I didn't think he would sit down. We came to the classroom and literally sat at the same desk (desks are for 2 people). Then there was a long silence and he spoke first. There was a little conversation. We have been sharing the same desktop together for 4 days now. We chat like we did 2 years ago. We still make the same jokes, we still talk about the events that happened 2 years ago. but I feel bad. He didn't even say why he acted like that. He acts as if nothing happened. I don't want to sit with him, but it's not possible to kick him out of the desk either. We've been friends before and I don't think he's a good friend. but I don't know what I should do. I don't have any friends at school, and if I sit alone, I probably won't do anything all day. I don't want to make enemies in class. It seems ridiculous to sit with him all year. I don't even think he's a trustworthy person. It's so ironic that he still acts as if nothing happened. Not even a facial expression moves while talking about last year. Last year, it wasn't a problem for him not to talk for no reason. but he was acting like an enemy. Also, if he's seriously acting like an enemy, why does he want to sit on my desk now? Still, would it be a mistake to continue sitting in the same desk with him? These thoughts are constantly floating around in my head. Also, I have no idea what happened to him for no reason last year. I don't know what I should do right now. Should I ask him why he's acting this way? After all, this is not a shameful thing. But even the idea of asking this seems scary. Am I thinking too much in my head? I've never had people around me act so unbalanced before. I'm waiting for your thoughts on the subject. I have often made wrong choices in social decisions before, and these affected the flow of my life. This is also a technically important decision. It looks like the decision I'm making right now will affect the continuation of my high school life(?) Have a nice day

@Schizophonia I didn't understand exactly what you meant. So our whole life is a distraction? So what are we hiding from? Is it death?

@Sandhu He's hiding a lot of things about himself. I'm sure he will avoid answering this question. If I ask him this question, he won't be the same. I'll just keep making small talk with him. He is not and will never be my friend. He probably thinks the same about me anyway. This is a very strange form of friendship. Neither side is actually friends, but they act like they are. I would love to ask him and find out the truth, but it is not possible. I don't know if such ridiculous things happen among adults too. But this is definitely the kind of nonsense immature people experience btw your profile picture is cool

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@Hojo I thought about whether to ask him this during free lessons today. But I think it's better to focus on my inner world. I worry too much about what other people think and why they do x. Also, the answer I will get will probably be very strange. I mean, this is a subject that I've been thinking about from time to time for the last year and I don't even have the slightest idea. I'm not sure I'll like his answer. So he probably won't give an honest answer anyway. If I ask him expecting an answer, I will have a dilemma about whether his answer is correct or not. Instead of dealing with this, I'll try sitting at another desk. I learned a little lesson from here. Have a nice day

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I realize the paragraphs are huge. It might be better if you skip it and read it. I just explained the situation and the process. Have a nice day.

@Judy2 Good suggestion but expensive. I get a weekly allowance of $15 from my family. Even if I agree with a 12th grader for a lesson, he will ask for at least 15 dollars per lesson I tried Khan Academy today. He explains it very well, I will finish the topics for now and solve a lot of questions. If I solve many questions, I will probably reinforce the topic. But still thanks for your suggestion. Have a nice day

@Leo Gura Thank you for the explanation. gif helped. I studied a little more today and I think I'm slowly starting to understand the subject. At least I don't look at the screen like an idiot anymore when I see trigonometry @Epikur I heard that trigonometry is also a part of geometry, but we never had to use it until now, and it was not in our curriculum. I think I opened this post in a bit of a hurry. Yesterday was the first day of school and I wanted this year to be epic in terms of classes. I was a little devastated when I came home and sat down to study mathematics first thing, and then found myself looking at strange terms that I didn't understand. Now I'm slowly starting to understand the issue. I felt like an idiot when I didn't understand it the first day. Everything is fine now, about trigonometry @Joshe Thanks for the link. As far as I can see, the course is free, right? For now, I will look at the trigonometry subject explanations in my native language, but thank you anyway. I have difficulty understanding subjects such as mathematics or physics when I listen to them in English. I always wanted to do this when I was little, but I didn't know how. If I leave the house, I will definitely try it But for now, I'd rather be equipped with theoretical knowledge and solve tests I don't like going out. But I'll try this tomorrow while I'm already out during lunch break at school. Yes, many of them make serious efforts at home, but they also seem to grasp the new topics covered in class very quickly. Maybe you're right, my ego might just be making excuses. There are general reasons why I say "less intelligent". I really don't judge people by calling them stupid. That would be childish. Probably anyone in the world can learn enough mathematics to get into a good university with enough study. While writing this, the idea that I was deceiving myself became more prevalent It's best to keep working. I wish you a good day.

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Greetings to everyone. I haven't had any irl friends for the last 3 years. I met someone on reddit 5 months ago. We talked on reddit for 2 months. By the beginning of the 2nd month, she wasn't writing much and seemed to have lost interest. She usually gave short answers and sometimes did not write for 2 days. So I closed my reddit account and stopped talking. I had no contact with anyone again for the next 3 months. I happened to look at her reddit account 3 days ago, and after I closed my account, she also stopped being active on reddit. Her last message was from 3 months ago. I wrote to her again from a new account, thinking that maybe we could chat like before again. Even though she had not been active for 3 months, she responded within 12 hours and we talked a lot. Then after a while our conversation got stuck again. She seemed to be brushing it off and I stopped talking. I feel like I'm empty right now. Maybe it was stupid of me to write to her again. But I thought maybe everything would be the same as before. She was the only person I talked to and I was having fun. I don't know what I should do now. My school is on summer break and I have hardly left the house for 2 months. I don't talk to anyone from school either. It feels very bad not to communicate with anyone. What do you think I should do now? What should my road map be? I feel like I'm in an impossible situation. I'll be in 11th grade next year and I don't want to be an antisocial person sitting in the back row all day.

@gambler I hope that in the future I will not be in the social situation you are in now. Internet friendships are like pornography, you don't want to be 45 and still watch porn, and this is similar. @bambi Your advices are very good, but in Turkey, platforms such as Meetup are only used by religious groups for missionary activities And chess clubs are also insincere organizations that aim for profit. Most general social groups are religious or sect-based. @Sugarcoat I used to have social anxiety, but I don't think I have it now. Now I can talk to people easily. But it seems like all friendships have been established within 2 years at school and people are not very open to making new friends. Still, I will try my luck when school starts this year. But I usually don't get along with people. Things that most people enjoy seem like suffering. @Raze I will watch the videos you linked (seriously). Thank you @Princess Arabia I don't have social anxiety (really). But I still don't like environments with too many people. But I think I can't get along with people. Even the things we laugh at with the people around me are different. Since I don't use social media, I don't understand most of the conversations. But the people around me generally talk about very empty things. @BlueOak Actually, the problem is that there is no group that I can invite or join to something new. There are almost 0 people around me right now. If I don't count my family, there are 0 people. I have hobbies that I do now, but they are all individual things. There is no community of people around me that I can join.

I am 173 cm tall and weigh almost 49 kilos now. 2 weeks ago I weighed 59 kilos and in the last 2 weeks I lost a lot of weight due to lack of appetite. I want to go up to the 65-70kg range. How should I eat? Some days I eat too little, some days I eat too much. How should I organize my meals? My eating habits are complete garbage. Can I gain 20 kilos in 3 months? It means I gain 40% weight I'm open to any advice.