Baz

Thank you that's reassuring to see. I hope this doesn't make me become a loner

@bejapuskas I hear you, it's like I can predict the meaningless conversation even before meeting these people.

@K VIL I'll honestly can say that I most certainly don't want to get together with my farthers side of the family, so my cousins, uncles, and aunts, only on my father's side though because they are very fake. When it comes to my mother's side of the family they are ok however I still keep them at arms way. With my friends I've really closed the gap with regards to the amount I'm very very selective with which friends I spend time with now. I wouldn't say I've exhausted myself with organizing events I've just lost interest in it, I just feel as though I want to grow and self develop more and all these people whom have been around in my life for all these decades just don't have anything that can help or encourage me with my pursuit. @K VIL

I need to watch Leo's stage yellow SD again. So in your opinion you think it's because I'm maybe going deeper?

Ok so this one is a bit difficult for me to explain but I'll do my best so that you guys can understand and hopefully give me some feedback. So this is to do with relationships in my life, family and friends. I'm an outgoing person who has a lot of people around in my life I guess one could say, "I'm the one who normally organizes" social get togethers. Anyway over the past two years or so, maybe a little more I've lost interest and have kept myself distance from the regular people in my life, by the way these people I've known for decades. I've even had comments in the past from some people saying..... hey Baz we don't even see no more, or Baz never comes out. I live with my immediate family and that's all good no issues. When I'm mentioning family I'm more talking about cousins, uncles, and aunts. And when I mention friends I'm talking about friends I've known for decades. So lately I've just been contemplating/questioning myself about it, have I lost interest? Why am I distancing myself? Have not got anything in common anymore? I'm more conscious now in the past three years than I have ever been in my whole life maybe that's got something to do with it? Have I stopped following the herd? What really is going on? Any help, advise, suggestions would be really appreciated and if you have any questions on this to ask me so that you may understand it better please let me know.

Your most welcome, Leo has loads of videos on meditation I'd recommend you watch them and start a daily meditation practice. I've been meditating now daily for two and half years and it has transformed my life for the better I got into it from watching leo, leo said in one of his videos do meditation forever until you die that's how powerful and life transforming meditation can be. Mindfulness meditation is very powerful and so is learning how to read and listen to your body. Please note though you have to be very very serious and disciplined about it there is no point doing meditation half hearted you need to put in a daily practice. When I first started I set a timer for 10mins only until I mastered the 10mins and it took me a long time then only did I start to increase my time. I'm now meditating for one hour. Take your time be patient and like I mentioned before check out Leo's videos they are amazing to help you. Good luck and keep us posted on how your getting on.

Start doing a daily meditation practice it will solve your anxiety situation or at the least minimise it the bare minimum.

Greetings one and all. Been a while since I've been on here however I just wanted to let you all know it's been one and a half years since I started meditation on a daily basis I know it's just a mildston although it's truly amazing and life transforming. Thank you for all the help and advice. X

Yes I do. It ain't something that is just sweet sailing for me, it's hard for me and the only way I can over come it is like asking people on here and working on my psychological state to eliminate this approach anxiety situation. @shin - btw thank you for your sound advise its definitely helpful.

This is an amazing way of looking at it, I especially love the bit were you say.... "so why not scare the shit out of this one" Now I just need to put into practice!

Thank you!

Wow! Thank you so much guys. All amazing and very constructive feedback/advice. @Visionary - you make it sound so so simple. @Schmitzy - I don't flirt with women at all I tend to just keep it small talk and basic, like..... Hello how are you? Ars you up to much this weekend? Or how was your weekend? Very basic and bland convo. Part of me really really wants to ask "them out" and I visualize it all before hand but when it actually comes to the moment I just freeze and fail to execute. @STC - Do yo mean just go in there like a cold approach? @Axelk - You make a very interesting point, I guess after reading your reply and thinking about it I probably do put women up on a pedestal in my subconsciously. @Poimandres - That's correct I don't even approach because of the "approach anxiety"

I suffer from approach anxiety when it comes to approaching women, I am single and have been for about a decade. I see a beautiful women and I just freeze when it comes to going up to her either to ask her out or even just to give her a nice kind complement. I've watched Leo's vids on about this stuff, how to get a girlfriend etc etc, and still no progress. Any help and advise would be appreciated.

Thanx pal, I will be back with an update in due course in the mean time For those who are reading this and have just started my advice would be, give it time but more importantly give it your full commitment. Your garrenteed positive results. Peace out!

Just an update, I've been meditating now for six months (mindful meditation) to be exact. And wow what a life changing experience it is, obviously for the better that is. From reading all your advice and guidance thank you once again. I'm on an amazing meditation journey.