ExploringReality

For fucks sake. Reasonably both parties can meet each other halfway and fulfill each other's needs in a very healthy way, but if one person is self-actualizing, learning and doing personal development, studying non-violent communication, spiral Dynamics, and other developmental models and also very empathetic and trying to see things from the other person's perspective, understanding double standards and biases etc but the other person is a covert vulnerable passive aggressive narcissist and has borderline personality disorder traits and you guys have kids together, that's a wild ride for sure. Radical acceptance that the other will not change, not taking anything personally and being stable within having a very firm solid sense of self and reality, getting all your ducks in a row and not feeding into their emotional dysregulation. It just sucks that we're not taught in schools growing up about mental disorders and narcissism, and ego development because it's hard to assess someone in the early stages of a relationship because everyone puts on this facade and this performance, some of them put on this performance to hide this very fractured fragile and distorted ego. I know we all have wants and needs but if someone has some personality disorder, ego distortions and retardation especially with emotional regulation then it's like feeding a vacuum and every time you don't perform, you're accused of not loving them and not being appreciative and they project everything on to you. It's important to not defend yourself and to not get triggered by their projections when you don't feel their needs. They idolize you, devalue you, and then they discard you

What if they have a mental disorder like narscissm and BPD?

@Leo Gura How the fuck am I suppose to get 5md in the US? It's difficult

Get a life

That's how you know you reached God mode, when you see their eyes are crossed

Lovely said. Leo! It. I can feel The prana moving through me, it's not that I'm just breathing very slowly. It activates the parasympathetic nervous system and puts you through meditative States. Also this helps with my sparring and boxing, because I'm totally oxygenated and energized, I'm just filled with vitality and vigor

@Leo Gura Please provide resources for making it

@Leo Gura Thank you. I will continue doing kriya pranayamas everyday. The practice itself is strong and really sets the tone throughout the day. Do you breathe in and out slowly while mentally Chanting while focusing on a specific spot, like a chakra point? Kriya seems to be a kind of still dance of consciousness, balancing many different poses at once, breath holds, mudras, body locks and inner chanting while being completely still. Tell me what specifically you are doing when you are doing kriya yoga. What is your recipe?

@Leo Gura It is said the point of kriya is to abide in the after effect of kriya, The Parvastha State. The kriyas are a means to an end and many people focus on doing kriyas for many years and get nowhere because they missed the point, which is Union with Self or Absolute Infinity. Can you clarify the importance between doing kriya for a period of time consistently and the importance of abiding in that after effect from kriya.

@Leo Gura Bro. Satana gamana has a YouTube channel he recently created and it's amazing. His energy, stream of words are so sync. He's definitely speaking from the absolute.

There's a difference between being a solipsist as an idea in your mind, a self image and actually conscious of solipsism.

Participation trophies. People intellectualize and philosophize non-dual teachings without directly being conscious or at least shifting their state of consciousness, and they learn the password of "there is no self" lol

Enlightenment karaoke, singing all the greatest hits "you're already it!" without writing any original music

Are you both standing on the same ground or are you guys standing on your own grounds that God exists? Have you asked her why she believes in Jesus, have you had conversations with her that question her beliefs? Kudos to @Natasha Tori Maru you're a gem out there in the world. You have a beautiful mind. you're quite hottie and feisty lol we went at each other's throats. That's interesting. How do you feel going to church with her really? Do you feel like you're turning away from yourself inside to subtly please her or maintain the image of the relationship? Would it matter to her if you said no? Not because you're not open but because you're sovereign, however I'm not telling you what you want to do. Whether you want to or not, I'm asking if whatever choice you make, is it true and integral to you? I'm not saying that you can't participate in other people's paradigms and there's no fun in that or it's not a big deal, but it's good to be honest with yourself about what your intrinsic boundaries are.

@Inliytened1 Hahaha. The irony right? Have you brought it up to her at all? And if so what was her response or reaction? Would you like to be with someone who shares more grounded open-mindedness, willing to look outside the edges of their worldview? To have really deep conversations that threatened the self and constructed psyche? Have you showed her Leo's channel? It can feel isolating when two people don't resonate internally but I suppose you can still share great experiences with another even if they don't suspect the world and it's double