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-healthy restaurant : I find atleast 95% of restaurants to be not healthy at all and to have a lot of nasty/tricky ways to maximize their profits. Big problem would be the marketing, since everyone is already doing the "we are healthy" marketing, even though their aren't. - Educational Games: learning by having fun, increasing skills in humans. - Design for homeless people: Designing very useful items, that can be produced cheaply to give to homeless people -Combining AI and Education: Learn environments that are adaptive to you. AI is in general can be combined with probably everything and will make good changes. Take a part of the change and lead it consciously. -Creating a poltical party, group, organisation, NGO, Think Tank, and push great political, conscious ideas, by going doing media appearances, gain followers, events, etc. -

I have heard a few time that pursuing enlightenment is a destructive process. It's believing nothing. But you can realize that believing nothing is also a constructive process. Going from All to Nothing is the same as going from Nothing to All. What are your thoughts?

@Serotoninluv Brother you are messing with my mind, with this insights ^^

I had this insight, that I wanted to share, but I don't understand it myself fully The insight is that: Balance is infinite. If you think of balance as something 1 dimensional you are not appreciating it. Balance is infinitely nuanced and can never be grasped. You can never hold true balance. The search for Balance and Nuance is never-ending and infinite. You can always find an more nuanced Balance than your current one. You are yourself infinitely nuanced / you have to become infinitely nuanced. An image I had in mind, was that of the nuanced personality. When someone is nuanced, we can explore the nuance in his personality for a very long time. Those are people, we can always discover new aspects of their personality and their personality will keep changing in our minds.

Really interesting to read all those experience reports with weed. I can relate very to all of your experiences. I find it funny because usually people don't talk about how weed is, they just say "weed is fun/chill/intense". If you want to use weed for spiritual growth you have to become mindfull of its effect. It makes you more sensible and creative, but no necessarily more mindful, that is your job. @Nak Khid Wow i Had exactly the same insight as you! I think you can recognize better how attachment works if you are high!

I have try'd out using canabis for spiritual and creativity the last month. The problem I encountered instantly is it's addictive property. So what happened is that the day after I smoked I wanted to smoke again. Furthermore I through the increased pleasure I got addicted to pleasures of all kind. BUT. I solved this problem by changing a few things. The biggest change was to switch to edibles. Since edibles wont start instantly you don't get this craving so much in the evening to consume them. Very different to smoking weed. I would even recommend to only have edibles at home and no weed itself. Then it is important to make pauses between your session, for example once a week and to respect them. The benefits from weed were that I can become very aware of thoughts and feelings. If the sensations are too strong I can happen to me to surpress thoughts and feelings. I usually write a lot of journal whilst I am high. I tried to meditate aswell and this was very interesting. Weed can help you break the hamster wheel you are in, bring fresh air into your thoughts, recognize problems (emotional, ideological). For creativity it is also interesting and you get really into being creative. Whilst high, DO: meditate, write journal, contemplate, do sport, stretching, yoga, do creative activities (drawing, painting, writing a poem, a story, etc) talk to people if you feel like it. DO NOT: watch series, play videogames (even though they will be even more fun), watch porn, eat unhealthy food I think weed has potential, but you have to do it right, otherwise it is only an addictive and addiction enhancing substance!

Being carefull with my words, thoughts and actions, whilst chatting with other people, makes me feel sad. When I am talking to people, I am uncertain about the ideas I say. I realize in the moment of speaking how limited ideas can be (even if they are much more progressive than mainstream ones). Being this uncertain makes me feel vulnerable. And it also stands in the way of social bounding, especially with those you strongly dislike uncertainty. But we all dislike uncertainty to a certain Degree, I would argue. The vulnerability of uncertainty can also help bounding, but only if the other can allow this degree of uncertainty. I think uncertainty is an essential component of growth. The ego prefers certainty, probably because it does not have to change if it is certain. Being uncertain is difficult. Being uncertain makes me want to cry. How do you guys handle the emotional toll of uncertainty? Do you think Humor is an effective way to get relief and to reenergize? Have you tried to portion your uncertainty (allowing unconsciousness)? Have you tried to be only as uncertain as the other can accept, when chatting with them?

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I also feel often overwhelmed. For me it's because of all my existential uncertainties and pressuring me to make the best out of live. I try to understand everything and consider all possibilities, but there is just to much to grasp it all. Minimizing your lifestyle could help you. Contemplating what exact thoughts and emotions are stressing you, is important I think. Are you comparing yourself a lot with others? Because that can lead to a lot of stress. Structuring your life just tiny bit more. Take one day a week, where you are not ought to do anything. Where you don't think about progressing. A day where you can do whatever you want, where you have nothing to do for a whole day. That is nice I find.

So I watched quit a lot of videos from tyler and julian. Aaaand I am not to sure about them either^^. I think they are fine. I enjoy how they transitioned from Pick up to more Spiritual, self-development concepts. I think tyler is a really good speaker. Some of his speeches are just so intense and raw. And he is a pursuer of mastery. He has a really good understanding of human psychology, which I learned a lot from. Buuut the fame, the money, his business, LA, the sex and the travel lifestyle corrupted them a little bit. They are biased towards that lifestyle.

Self Love just means to stop hating yourself, to accept what you are. Really not that hippie. I guess you really got bad starting conditions in life. And a lot of things people here are talking about will maybe be out of reach. You can think about what is shitty in your life, write it down. You have a lot of anger inside you. Why am I so unlucky? Why is life so shitty? Write all of this down in a journal or like you did right now in this forum. When you least expect life to be good, you will discover little nuggets of happiness. And be carefull about the internet because it is going to push your expectations of life to places that are not in reach (for now at least).

@Leo Gura But if nothing matters how can you care so much about politics? How care about a certain Life Purupose? How can you care about Spirituality? How can you care about changing the world if it was already perfect as it is? How can you do so much work and sweat and suffer, if all is the same? Thank you for your answer! I am so curious because that is where I have been stuck for the past years.

@Leo Gura I understand that the Truth will take everything, and you will have to let go of everything, but if that is the case, then why should you pursue that which you will eventually let go of. Are girls and Businesses worth anything? Why care about things in the short game if in the long games those don't matter?

I would like to know know how much you can relate to the following feelings: -a sense meaninglessness in life. Why do anything? -For Happiness? Does Happinness even exist or is it as an Illusion, an empty promise we chase? -For Enlightement? Why even pursue enlightenment? If death will ultimatly dissolve your egoic mind, can't you simply die to get fully enlightened? -Are we supposed live without a reason, out of the pure vital energy our survival machine produce? I guess the answer for all of this is love, but it feels so strange that the whole cycle of existence is made for love

@ivory Hey Ivory I am not well-read on existential philosophie, but I do know a little bit. I read Beckert" Waiting for Godot", but that's pretty much it. What wisdom have you drawn from that philosophy? Having no purposes is confusing me. Everyone I know and see, seems to follow a goal, to go somewhere. I mean even Leo seems to want certain things. If everything is meaningless I don't why I should want something. It has also to do with the hardship of life. Why struggle, why sweat, to achieve a goal - but every goal is meaningless.. That's is somewhat the thinking I have been having.

@ivory I do enjoy sex. But I enjoy it from my perspective. I don't enjoy if you have sex for example (I mean I don't care haha). If something is real only under on perspective it will fade if you let go of your perspective. I'm confused. What is your meaning or purpose in life? @VeganAwake Yes. So life has no meaning, cause everything is as it is. Life is not meaningless either, the idea of meaninglessness require the existence of meaning, which doesn't exist. Still would be happy, if there were some meaning to life.

@Thewritersunion For "finding meaning by being": I'm not sure, meaning is always relative, so how could it have to do something with being. @ivory I think this is good. But can enjoyment be real? I like this idea that the question does not arise anymore, I can maybe work with that. @Nahm I'm still trying to figure out what you are saying exactly, that's maybe a good sign. It will reread it tomorow hahah @luckieluuke Yes i can relate to being jealous of people having a fixed meaning in life, they live by and enjoying their time on the journey haha. I am not sure they actually enjoy it that much, but then again neither do I so much. Not sure if you meant this feeling. @Neorez I don't understand why I should choose meaning, if it is a lie or at least relative. I just can't do it. Happinness being our nature is interesting. Or Love being our nature. hmm. But we are Gods, we are limitless, Love being my nature feels limiting. I would say dying is also merging. It's the death of the boundary, so it makes you merge with the rest. Good Ideas bro, not really used to talk a lot about it with others, but it's refreshing to hear some other opinions! I think the reasons you "shouldn't" kill yourself to get enlightened, is that time doesn't exist either. So there is no "after your death". Death is not an escape. Just thoughts.

I got a challenge for you: Rank all Self Help theorys you know from most important to least important. On top of the list should be the theory, advice, principle or method, that had the biggest impact on YOUR life. At the bottom should be an advice sound that had no improving effect or maybe even had set you back on your journey. My list is: 1) Writing a journal 2) Take responsibility for your life! Don't be a victim. 3) EQ: be aware about your emotions 4) Awareness is the only way to improve 5) Self Love 6) Don't care about the opinion of others. The Disease to please. 7)Pick up Advice 8) meditation 9) You need to find a Life purpose (phrased it like this on purpose, because it had quite negativ effect I think on me) 10) Be present 11) The Ego

I don't know about you guys, but I came into contact with self help material (Pick up advice at the start) at a young age, and I don't think it did me any favours. I honestly just got addicted to those videos and lost touch with being. Have you ever felt like all this Self Help Theory is worthless? It sounds good but at the end of your day you stay the same. It is basicly just another distraction and all you need to know, you will learn it by yourself. I am curious if anyone also feels this way! Let me know!

@SOUL I know that it has to do with my behaviour. All I wanted is to state that this is a real problem for me, and one problem that is not fixed with more self help. Instead I think the solution is to distance one self with self help material and only focus on practical aspects for a while.

@Leo Gura I could not be a "on size fits all" solution, but I still think I would be really interesting to know. You could compare your list with similar lists to identify interesting theorys you may want to give a try. You could also observe patterns and how people at different stages have differents lists. I personally think it's really important to go through to all the hoops instead of skipping ahead in selfhelp. Those lists could help you assess your stage and thus the theorys you may want to keep for later on the journey.

Approval addiction and unstable Self-Worth Yesterday I went out with my friends, and once again at the end of the night I felt sad and worth less due to the lack of approval of others ( mostly women) . My problem is my Self-Worth is deeply linked to the approval of women and others. When a woman shows me that she likes me, I instantly feel worthy and thus more self confident. On the other hand when I do not succed at getting the Approval of the woman I begin to feel very unconfident and worth less. Consequently my objective when I am around other people (especially women) is to get their approval to feel good about myself. This very needy behavior makes it hard to even get a woman to like me. Furthermore my self-worth is very fragil, sometimes when everything goes well I get confident, I act less needy and I feel worthy, and sometimes things snowball the other way. My self-worth is almost random, I can hardly influences the way I feel at the end of the night (or day). I often heard about the concept that your Self-Worth should be linked to your own approval. This sounds good but I have difficulties to implement this in my life. This is why I made this post: I need help, knowledge and book recomendations about Self-Worth. I have already read the Diseas to Please by Harriet Braiker but I need a book which is more focused on Self-Worth. I am very gratefull for any given advice. This is truly a problem I have been carying my whole life.

Thanks for the advices @MonikaBcn As mentioned in my initial post my Self-Worth is linked to the approval of others, which means if I see people getting a lot of approval I think they have value. I do know that this is not healthy. My question is how do you change it, what do you have to do? @Bronsoval I see what you mean, but my real goal is to change my flaud way of thinking that my Self-Worth depends on the approval of others, not to get the approval by working on my confidence. @Keyblade Viking I think you are right that focusing on being more honest and authentic could help me because the approval I would get would be more real which helps to build some core confidence. One problem is, I simply do feel worthy when I get their approval and that not that easy to change, it is not like a lever I simply pull to change that. Deep inside of my I probably believe that I need the approval, the question why do I think that and how can I change it.

Approval addiction and unstable Self-Worth Yesterday I went out with my friends, and once again at the end of the night I felt sad and worth less due to the lack of approval of others ( mostly women) . My problem is my Self-Worth is deeply linked to the approval of women and others. When a woman shows me that she likes me, I instantly feel worthy and thus more self confident. On the other hand when I do not succed at getting the Approval of the woman I begin to feel very unconfident and worth less. Consequently my objective when I am around other people (especially women) is to get their approval to feel good about myself. This very needy behavior makes it hard to even get a woman to like me. Furthermore my self-worth is very fragil, sometimes when everything goes well I get confident, I act less needy and I feel worthy, and sometimes things snowball the other way. My self-worth is almost random, I can hardly influences the way I feel at the end of the night (or day). I often heard about the concept that your Self-Worth should be linked to your own approval. This sounds good but I have difficulties to implement this in my life. This is why I made this post: I need help, knowledge and book recomendations about Self-Worth. I have already read the Diseas to Please by Harriet Braiker but I need a book which is more focused on Self-Worth. I am very gratefull for any given advice. This is truly a problem I have been carying my whole life.