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(Not for everyone, but definitely for most spiritual nerds here.) The problem with the PUA mindset is that whenever you act against who you really are, it is like swimming in a pond surrounded by frogs that are not even your species. If you are a nerd, I hate to break it to you, but the places you genuinely enjoy are probably where you are most likely to meet the right woman for you. Of course, you still need to expand your social opportunities within those fields. PUA can be useful for random encounters, but nothing lasting will come from it if you are constantly performing. You will not find someone who matches your frequency while acting in places and situations that do not match your own. I knew an intelligent, nerdy guy online who worked in financial consulting. He almost never went outside, yet he dated at least five women simply by talking shit with them online in chat rooms about crazy metascientific ideas and similar topics. So, if you are a nerd, meet women online. Forget the PUA stuff. And to be honest, I have kissed models in bars in Japan and met models in France. Okay, one of them only became a model after I met her. I do not even care that much about conventional beauty, but I assume that many of the people reading this do. I am fairly cute, and I have done plenty of “real-life” social stuff, so it is not as though I need some enormous amount of “game” either. But that lifestyle still feels completely out of step with who I am. I am chill and calm at home 98% of the time, unless I am raving once a month on a load of drugs before returning to my cave. Just be creative. Are you a tech nerd? Meet people through apps or attend events related to your actual interests: science, philosophy, meditation clubs, technology, gaming, or whatever genuinely attracts you. Do not simply approach random women in the street. Even when it works initially, it often fails in the long term for countless reasons. If you meet a woman in a nightclub, there is a relatively high chance that she genuinely enjoys clubbing. If you do not, then you may be beginning the relationship with a major incompatibility already built into it. The problem is not necessarily PUA itself. The problem is using it to become someone who is fundamentally not you. It means acting against your authentic self and attracting women to a version of yourself that you cannot sustain. If your natural lifestyle involves spending eight hours a day on your computer studying quantum physics, and you meet a woman who is obsessed with skiing because you approached her in the street, you may simply end up with someone who does not match you. Of course, if your goal is casual sex and simply getting your dick wet, go ahead. But you are unlikely to find your future wife by acting against your own passions. At best, you may gain a few skill points in street-level social interaction. But that is like learning archery when you are a computer engineer: a cool side skill, perhaps, but not your actual field.

I don't need to practice war to know that putting a bullet in a kid head is bad for you. (unless you're a psychopath, which is fine if you're one I suppose.) that sounds moral, but that's not the point here either.

No I don't think so. Yes exactly my point.

You do not necessarily need PUA. If the goal is simply to become comfortable approaching people and doing socially uncomfortable things, what you may need instead is greater detachment from your ego and from the abstract image of yourself that exists in your head. My original point was never about the morality of PUA. It was purely about efficiency. There was no moral judgment in my post, but several people interpreted it that way. I was not arguing that PUA is inherently wrong. I was arguing that, for many people here, it is an inefficient and suboptimal strategy for finding a compatible long-term partner. When someone rejects me, I do not necessarily interpret it as a judgment of my personal value. I see it more as a situation in which compatibility, attraction, or connection simply failed to emerge. Human interactions are shaped by countless factors that go far beyond the ego and its personal narratives.

which basically means people think what is "true" is what their memetic memories assume priors. huu well, alright going to do myself some cheese & bread.

I think this applies to a huge part of terminally online male, because it is filled with people who cannot even imagine being around a woman in a non-sexual context. Their brains are trapped inside that matrix. More than learning dating strategies, some guys should literally start by befriending women or simply spending time around them ( and I don't mean old lady, obviously the one you would still date ). That would help break the invisible wall that makes women seem like foreign beings. the problem is the whole constant society matrix frame of hyper-sexualization, like sure yeh, sex, boom, good, but like, if you can't see girl through another filter, you're just not flexible & mature enough. & of course, be proud to be sexual when you're in a flirt/relationship.

Overall, if you enjoy it even a little, then it is part of who you are, and it is completely valid to pursue it. I can clearly see that, for many people, this genuinely is the right path. That is especially true if part of you enjoys meeting someone very different from yourself, which again varies from person to person. Some nerds would absolutely enjoy being with a woman who is into skiing, because part of their personality genuinely likes being pulled outside their usual bubble. Overall, it's always case by cases. But also some people need to improve their social skills differently, PUA isn't a for everyone solution, it's one "good" strat among manies.

I think I should just edit the title to make it less bait-like and provocative. If you read the post without taking the title too literally, we basically agree. Overall, there is nothing wrong with learning how to cook if you are a soldier. On the contrary, cooking could help you in certain situations and improve your morale. Instead of eating shitty food, you might make something good that boosts your morale and ultimately makes you a better soldier. There is nothing inherently wrong with doing PUA. What matters in my title is the “for you” part. For most people here, it is probably not what they should primarily be doing. I never said, “Do not socialize, remain awkward, and do nothing to become more interesting because you are fine as you are.” No. Absolutely work on becoming socially skilled. Be funny. Become more attractive even physically/clothing wise if you can. Now, should you sometimes learn something outside your usual field, such as PUA, to become more comfortable in uncomfortable situations? Sure. Getting out of your comfort zone is useful. But that is not the same as saying you should build your entire dating strategy around something fundamentally disconnected from who you are, to some point, doing a lot of different things is good, especially to know that you shouldn't be doing that.

@LordFall There are plenty of ways to learn how not to be socially awkward, such as simply hanging out with a group of friends that is not exclusively male. The point of my post was basically this: find your own pond, then improve what you already know and what you are capable of doing within it. I never said, “Just be yourself.” I am familiar with that criticism, but I do not think it applies here. I was not being vague. But yes, you should be yourself, meaning the best version of yourself, one that has actively worked on improving itself. I was being clear. Reducing my point to the comic you posted would have been reductive, which my post was not. Also, it is a forum post. I was not writing a book. If you have questions, I am perfectly willing to add more layers and go into greater detail through an interactive exchange. You rather proved my point by talking about the comic con, nothing really worked before that, thank you.

If even trump won't touch it, it's "bad" lol.

the world always exist if you can witness "that" or maybe it doesn't . . well.

That works if all you care about is money. Many people want their work to be connected to their passions, and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, it is probably the best way to create sincere value. I’m sure Jeff Bezos, for instance, was not simply trying to make money. He was fascinated by engineering distribution systems, and that is how he built his fortune. It is difficult for pure artists, for example, to do anything other than art because money is not a strong enough motivation for them. So this tactic of testing products, like selling toothbrushes, is simply not going to work for most people.

For everyone, it is. But I’m sure you could genuinely become passionate about extending life. With Bryan, I feel like it isn’t even purely about becoming immortal. It seems more like a passion project he keeps pursuing. The man has done quite a lot of psychedelics and is probably at peace with death. I think everything is ego, ultimately. Even praising the opposite idea, that death is fine and inevitable, can be an ego-based coping mechanism used to justify itself. If you were to live for the next 500 years, maybe that would also make you a more conscious person who cares about sustaining a better planet for yourself. In that case, the ego could create a more positive outcome. I’m well aware of all the mainstream arguments for why pursuing immortality is supposedly wrong, or merely a form of ego, using the same definition of “ego” that you used in your answer here.

it could be something normal for everyone in 100 years, cringe is when you have a mindset or death is fine. I've both mindset.

Me and 'people' I meet. Words are pointing to something that's why they work. I m tired of little rabbit still stuck in primary langage post modernism belief too. If I tell you there is a steak in my plate, there is a fucking thing in it, whatever that might be.

wish more people were self aware of how much they are all generating realities.

Bernardo is convinced that free will does not exist at all. And he is right. I like to talk about how much we need to be conscious, self-aware, and responsible for ourselves, while knowing that I am being controlled by the universe to say all of this right now. I didn’t know he worked at ASML. That’s a god-tier company.

Do not worry about your health too much = no cognitive stress = more life

Pedro pascal doing every characters including the cyclops

who are you talking to?

everyone is a hero, not just to everybody !

they already kinda destroy Europe & the USA, won't need 50 years, by 2030 it's done & clear.

you're "infinite generative imagination." & solipsism is more imagination. people "exist"

Thanks, I hope so. I still need to improve the clarity of the “proposal.” For now, I know that things are still being built up, especially some of the text in certain sections, and it needs much more clarity. But I still feel like AI is crazy in certain areas. I don’t know how much this would have cost me otherwise, but probably more than €3,000, and it likely wouldn’t have been as good or as fast. That’s also why I don’t spend much time focusing on what I think the limits of AI are. I tried coding a game with Godot five months ago, and the amount of abuse I performed toward the AI to get it to be debugging the thing wasn’t worth it. With Claude’s credit system, it was hell. It’s better to know what you’re doing when you work on something like that. For a website like mine, though, AI is perfectly fine. There’s no complex PHP or heavy backend. It’s just straightforward and to the point.

i had it in orange at first . . so unsure, I just like purple. Even did a full video based on this color in fact. just bad luck on me if that's the case. https://x.com/VahnAeris/status/1946598205388476789