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addiction is exhausting

Porn is parasitic. I would eventually drink the kool-aid that they were attempting to feed us when we were hitting puberty. I removed the shame associated with it. Had the false belief that I could use it responsibly. Turned out it was all a lie. They lied to me. I was had. When I had feelings of shame around it, funny enough, I would use it "responsibly" and I was less interested in it. And hence used it way less. Like ridiculously less. Like once a month or two type of thing. Even went as far as 6 months one time. The omniscient all-encompassing boogeyman called repression was nowhere to be found. Does this boogeyman even exist? I don't even know. Seems like if you believe in him, he becomes real...

Are you Druze by any chance?

Surely this is a rare case, no?

It's a lot of reasons. The more easier reasons are straight forward. Being ghetto or rebellious as a teenager is cool. Hiphop, rap, whatever, glorifies and subsequently influences kids to act that way. Those older than them in the neighborhood acted that way and they looked up to them as made men, people of status and power. A group of people who live dangerous and exciting lives. They want to emulate that. And they probably come from broken homes too. So they have anger, restlessness, built-up resentment and bitterness too. Could've been sexually abused in their homes and/or victims of physical violence, so they act out in a way subconsciously that's meant to protect them.

Interesting. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insights with me.

Going back to what you said about having thoughts or explanations about a feeling, wouldn't it work the other way around too? If you feel sexual energy, you might have a thought that you're horny or explain to yourself that you need to fawk/masturbate. But you said words don't correlate to feelings right? Is it satanic to choose to detach from these constructions of the mind and let the feeling pass without attaching to it?

Well then, I guess I'll be Satan.

But having sex whenever you want is still ego?

Is there anything wrong with wanting a healthier ego? If you can feel anyway about having casual sex, wouldn't it be better to feel it has an element to it which can be problematic, such as the risk of addiction? If that's the case, what's wrong with choosing a path that emphasizes self-control and discipline, ultimately leading to more meaningful relationship and transcending the animal experience for a human experience?

how is it not correlated? When you feel hunger, a lot of times it's because you need to put fuel in your stomach. using a word to describe or explain that feeling is correlated to that feeling. If you really believe this, then I guess you'd be anti-trans then? because every feeling they get about gender dysphoria is not correlated to any of their thoughts or explanations they make up, they can just feel, as you say, anyway about this scenario if they detach from this construction.

Yea, she got divorced, went into the woods living in a trailer park or something with her son and came out of it being more reasonable. Good for her.

same with the gym-sistas?

Leo is based.

So if you have to blame a woman, blame the mother, but actually, the blame is on the father. Got it.

I'm 32 and a virgin. Though I do have Klienfelter syndrome. And while my physique looks much more masculine now thanks to weight lifting, and therefore no longer looks like the most extreme case of it (imagine a man with a 2007 Kim Kardashian-like physique), it still looks embarrassing. My testicles have never dropped and are the same size as when I was a child. My physique is some sort of male-female hybrid thing (mostly masculine now, but still looks off). I tried going to the doctor's to see how they could help me but they told me I would need to strip in front of a male doctor and I just don't have it in me to do that. Also some of my temperament is that of a female. For instance, I'm extremely neurotic. I have a need for having my feelings validated. And I want to talk about my feelings way more than I should. Anyways, you're not alone.

Is sexually assaulting a woman and making up ideas about feelings also ego?

Well if some mothers are failing raising their boys to be men, then fathers need to raise their boys. Maybe the feminization of the household, bringing the father down a notch from his traditional role to match an egalitarian one, the mother taking the leadership role, and early divorce is why a mother might have failed in raising a man. Into what people here describe as a whiny, weak, entitled, unattractive man.

They have a whole ideology, feminism, that they use as a shield for their complaints. Remember when Sweden was trying to socialize boys as girls and girls as boys? Going as far as having boys be advertised playing with dolls and girls with guns? That was denying and repressing boys of their nature. Shaming them for their masculinity and attempting to confine them to stereotypically feminine behaviors to please women. Because of their hatred, when it comes to male behavior, some women and men have used and continue to use power to attack it on a systemic level. As articulated by Warren Farrell, men in some instances are seen as human doings rather than human beings.

The ego on some modern day women has been inflated in my perception. Not all modern day women are insufferable. Probably most aren't. I regret using hyperbole.

Okay. I refuse to look at any gender as a collective when it comes to viewing them as a tribe. At that point, I disagree and hence, am interested in individuals instead. For instance, just because I'm a man doesn't make men my in-group. Outside of making them into a tribe and then praising them as a collective who somehow might have more in common with one another than people outside their "group", there is still something useful in generalizing people off gender. Like you can say women care about their looks. Men care about strength. Western woman care about freedom. Middle Eastern men care about honor. Etc.

My point exactly. That's why I won't.

Women are not amazing gifts. Neither are men. Neither are white people. Nor black people. Or any people in between. There are only good individuals. Amazing individuals. These people are the gifts. So as a man, when it comes to females, the only amazing gifts are my aunties, my mommy, my cousins, etc. Just like my uncles, my pops, my cousins, etc. I refuse to look at a gender as if they are a collective. They are not. My mom for instance has nothing to do with any woman on here. As if a middle eastern ultra-conservative mom has anything shared with any female here. She has more in common with me, she forms my in-group. So no, I don't agree with internalizing this mantra. And I'll resist looking at any collective that way. This is fetishization, and a form of worship. No thanks, I don't want that bias within me anymore. God forbid I play my role in inflating the already insufferable ego's of the modern day woman.

Of course. Everyone is drunk.

I have been to one. The atmosphere is off the chains. It's bananas. Best event I've ever been to, I highly recommend man. I wish I could attend all events to be honest. It's really that good.