aymane

I'm (24M) currently single, sometimes i feel like pursuing a relationship, meaning putting in the effort to find a woman who'd vibe with me. But at the same time I feel like that would be much work from my part and I'd spend a lot of energy and time on it, while I really want to focus on my life purpose now. What do you think? Do you have an experience with stopping relationships just to focus on your career goals? do you think it's a good idea?

You're right. After analyzing the pros and cons I just concluded I must go for it for at least 2 or 3 years just focus on my career and building my skills. Then maybe start pursuing a relationship. Just a note to other commentators, what im trying to really abstain from is the act of "pursuing" a relationship, as in approaching women, going to dates, etc. If something came by coincidence I wouldn't prevent it from happening. But the act of pursuing consumes a lot of precious energy that could be used somewhere else, I already don't have much time working a full time job, it's not doable to combine both at the moment.

Thanks for mentioning this. In my country that's not possible. So I always need to put effort to meet my partner if i get one. Also I feel like the process of trying to find a woman is already exhausting and time consuming. Let alone the energy needed at the beginning of the relationship to build a stronger connection. I'm not saying it's not worth it or it's not supposed to be this way, I just think that maybe sacrificing this side of life for some years in order to focus on my life purpose may be worth it. I hope more people give their insights on this.