Chadders

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  1. Okay I need feedback that is specific to the points I made and whether they are better or not Just for context the convo about if someone is a psycho due to nurture or nature was just a way to involve her in the conversation and get things moving. Of course it went on to various different things but I can’t explain an entire what she said what I said thing
  2. Went out Friday night and chatted one of the waitresses up. Was pretty happy with the outcome even though it didn’t lead to anything. I know it’s one of the staff but she was hot and I was attracted to her. It’s practise for me Basically I was chatting with my mate about psychology stuff and whether a psychopath is born or made. Just as she walked by I got her attention and asked for her opinion on it and we just got chatting from there I was pretty strong with the eye contact and one thing led to another and I ended up telling her that she was beautiful and asked for her number. She was flattered but said she wasn’t really dating atm. A bs response but still the interaction was decent and I felt good and so did she In hindsight I feel that this could have improved the outcome: More intense sexual eye contact (I was pretty decent but still looked away on the odd occasion when considering the next thing to talk about or speaking with my mate bringing him in so it could have been more intense - I am practising this) Rather than tell her she was beautiful maybe I could have said she was sexy - dial up the sexual tension more instead of asking for her number I should have either arranged an instant date or said I’m heading to this place tomorrow it’s amazing and I’d like you to come with me - was also thinking I should have asked her are you a spontaneous person in the lead up to that. I think that by saying specifically you wanna take her out somewhere like tomorrow it’s concrete and has a sense of adventure and spontaneity rather than just what’s your number I’d like to meet you in some unspecified time in the future I did no physical escalation. I was sat down and she was stood up so I think it would have been a good opportunity to have done like a palm read on her hand This is just some reflections on it. I’m getting better. My state was pretty decent as well at the time which isn’t always the case. Mostly meh because of my current situation as I mentioned in a previous post on here. I am breaking out of my introverted style so getting out more to be social. Tbf I’m pretty confident and can be very social in a good state. Really enjoyed the Friday night probs the most I have any night out for a long time Anyway, feedback from people who are genuinely successful at game would be appreciated especially with those points I mentioned in hindsight - am I right or wrong?@Leo Gura your feedback would be good here Again I know she was one of the staff so more likely to be nice and accommodating but still it’s practise for me! I was happy with it. The city I live in the night life is just not what it was so I’ll take the opportunity when it comes and she was very, god dayuuumm
  3. I had an insight recently on LSD but I feel it is incomplete We can pretty much all agree that the past and future is imagined since it is only in the form of thought and thought is ultimately a product of mostly unconscious manifestation that is illusionary However, I feel there is a difference in quality and understanding between saying that the past doesn’t exist and the past never existed. So I never actually went out to the shops a moment ago. It literally did not happen This was along the lines of the insight that I was getting but again it wasn’t complete as I was coming down from the trip. Because on the one hand your life is infinite moments so in this respect, that moment did exist as a moment? Or did it if as my insight seem to be eluding to, that actually that moment never even existed. Perhaps it’s like saying it may as well never have existed because it only remains as a thought but that is different from saying it actually never happened Hope this makes some sense. Spiritual guidance from the wise needed
  4. Some useful perspectives to digest. Thanks
  5. @josemar Vast bulk of people who trade lose money. Making money on stocks I can’t even imagine is that satisfying as you have not added value to anybody or anything. I can’t stand trading ads it’s all based on the premise of easy money but you gotta work for it unless you get lucky I’m fine for money yoof
  6. @Basman because drinking is social and if you are not drinking it spoils people’s fun
  7. @FlyingLotus amazing yoof
  8. @Ima Freeman Energy is deeply intertwined with all things. To cultivate more energy is by giving your body more life force and capability ultimately by living well Though there is another way and that is to release existing energy within. We suppress so much that we have pent up energy that manifests as anxiety. There’s a resistance then diminishing your energy potential. It’s being able to freely liberate that energy that is the greater challenge. This is personally a thing that I am working on. To let go of inhibitions. I’m quite a high energy person when connected with the divine
  9. @Dodo In my eyes crypto is bullshit. You’re not creating value in the world just making bets on artificial nothingness I would extend that to stock trading more generally which is mostly bs too. I have a very low approval of the whole trading game. It’s all bullshit. Share prices are at an all time high and it has nothing to do with the actual real world economy but the people fawn over it
  10. @Ramanujan it’s hard unless you a real playa
  11. @Ryan M Trump would ban it and keep it all to himself the seedy bastard
  12. @Evelyna Quite a profound insight. I like dogs but have only ever had cats! You’re right about that though. Dogs are very in the moment and have a deep emotive connection with their human owners. We can all be more dog
  13. It’ll be the book to end all books if Leo publishes
  14. @cjoseph90 If you watch a lot of YouTube and hate mindless ads then yes. You get YT music as well though I prefer Apple so not much use for me
  15. @Unlimited I have had an awareness that most of my life is outside of my control so in that sense yes it is mostly predetermined. You didn’t choose where you were born, where you went to school, who your parents are, the people you met, experiences that changed you. You didn’t plan any of that it just happens This is where the concept of letting go ultimately comes from and not resisting what the universe throws at you. Being in the flow with it all You can’t connect the dots moving forward, only by looking back it makes sense Saying all of this, from a place of God consciousness this will be completely different I can only imagine. You will be in control of your infinite creation of mind. I have not had an experience of this though
  16. In my experience karma is definitely real. When I am out of alignment with the divine the world will respond with pain. That is just part of the journey of life and the learning process I’m not sure about the concept of a past life and that impacting you now - that is not something I consider in my experience of the universe and where I am right now. However there is generational trauma that gets past down from our parents and this goes back thousands of years from the point that civilisation was created off the back of violence and conflict. We have to try and unfuck ourselves by connecting with the divine
  17. @Dodo I recently had an insight on love The key issue is a fear of rejection. Rejection is ultimately the felt experience of the ego. What it means to us personally as an identity if someone says no. How we reconcile that with ourselves in other words But the expression of true love and affection for someone needs no reciprocation. To express love for someone honestly and authentically is a reward in and of itself. Why? Because it feels good to be authentically and unashamedly true to your emotions, but also because it makes the person in receipt of that love feel good, even if they say no. It doesn’t matter To be able to express love in your own unique way without the need for positive reciprocation is not easy. I believe it’s on a spectrum unless you are in a very conscious place. There will always be a percentage of you that is expressing love for someone with the hope of positive reciprocation, but the aim is to lower that percentage as much as you can so it is from a place of purity. This is where I believe your own state is EVERYTHING. When you are in a high state you will not care about rejection so much and will love with more purity. Of course with a low state your ego starts calling the shots and needs that validation
  18. @Someone here I also have deep seated attachments though it fluctuates depending on my state and connectedness to the divine. The more connected to love the less attached to what the world has to offer One thing I have managed to do is break much of my attachment to material wealth. Used to be more driven by that but now I do not care. I find so much satisfaction in the simple things. This is basically the snake oil that we are sold with capitalism. That to be happy you need more money and more things! Buy buy buy I do believe it is fine however, to want the goodies life offers, but to need it is the problem. I mean who would say no to a million cash in the bank? Of course you would want that if someone offered but if they changed their mind, that’s okay too. Perhaps that’s the question to contemplate on a trip. Do I really need this to be happy? I can want it for sure, but if the universe says no, then can I be okay with that? In terms of smart phone attachment I often go for long bike rides and walks and leave my phone at home. I can be out for hours with no device on hand. Give that a go Bless you on your spiritual journey 🙏
  19. @integral People will just lap up any old shit he says because they have no idea what is actually going on in the world. What he says sounds good so it must be good! The people are so easily manipulated and led astray. I’m of the opinion that if people want to vote Trump, let them vote Trump. I actually don’t get too hung up on that even though it’ll be bad for the US and the rest of the world. People gotta face the karma of their own decisions. Life satisfaction is pretty low across the western world and Trump ain’t gunna change that. Tax the rich, redistribute and bring about conscious shifts by helping people connect with the divine. This is the only way
  20. @mac99 Nothing wrong with lust - shows you have a healthy libido. It’s channeling that lust into sexual intent and intimacy with women rather than expelling it on porn
  21. Yes well put More chance you end up bumping up against one another and conflict arising. Like with traffic on the roads. The more traffic the more road rage
  22. With the population having surpassed 8 billion I do believe that this is a simply unsustainable figure given our current conscious development to have proper social cohesion and a healthy relationship with the planets biodiversity and ecosystem. We are obviously on a very turbulent path with many moving parts that become more fragile and run the risk of great catastrophe with higher population levels. This whole topic though is very controversial to even discuss but I do not believe humanity is consciously developed yet to live in harmony and deal with our shit at this population scale. Dealing with the worlds problems is a hell of a lot harder with massive populations that are increasingly disconnected from each other and nature. I don’t necessarily think population controls are the right way forward as forcing its application I believe to be unethical. Perhaps we need a new social paradigm and contract with the people to shift social norms and to bring population levels down so we can live in greater harmony and balance with the planet. This goes hand in hand with challenging this growth narrative which is obviously unsustainable I do totally get the argument that as societies develop birth rates naturally fall so this is part of the solution but maybe that’s not enough and won’t be as impactful? The time lines I don’t think work as we move closer to environmental breakdown leading to a shopping list of problems for humankind. I personally don’t see why the above as a topic should be controversial when put in the proper context. It’s a bit like assisted suicide. Why is that so controversial? It shouldn’t be if people who have chronic health conditions want to die peacefully allow them to rather than suffer on Anyway curious to see what people think about this - is the population simply unmanageable? If so how best to respond?
  23. @BlessedLion honestly that sounds like you have the perfect set up. Access to women but able to maintain a life of mostly solitude. I’m finding that I can’t have the former if I keep too much of the latter! Unless the universe changes its mind for me
  24. @KenDo I have only been doing psychedelics for a couple of years now and consider myself barely dipping my toe in the absolute potential of psychedelics Good that you are starting with mushrooms. That is sensible because the duration is not too long and you can easily dose. You don’t know your tolerance yet so the key is to become more familiar with a change in consciousness. That is ultimately what happens. You’re consciousness changes and if you take too much too soon it’ll freak you out. When I started I only microdosed to get a feel for what I was getting myself into. On mushrooms that is around 100mg though again it varies depending on your tolerance. Personally I would start there and work your way up. In terms of sourcing that is often the hard part. When I really wanted to get into psychedelics I had no connect and couldn’t source. A couple of leads I had went flat. I literally took myself to the Peak District which is a local national park where liberty caps grow and I picked them myself! Obviously be very sensible here but at the time I had no source so that’s what I did. I do now have a reliable and trustworthy source. Through a friend of a friend. Reach out to your networks and see if there are any connections is the best bet. I wouldn’t do anything with the dark web. Fuck that.
  25. I have not done radically high doses but even for the highest dose I did I did not experience visuals. Just divine connectedness with reality and intense perception changes