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Honestly as hard as it is sometimes you can only be yourself and be authentic with how you feel. Of course a woman will want you to be a man. To take the lead and excite her but you will not be able to do that effectively if you are fighting your own feelings. I’ve learnt that the hard way You’re a man but it doesn’t mean you’re not also a bag of feelings. We all are. There’s a deep truth and connection in that so don’t hide that from her

@Jannes Lol it beggars belief. This guy is running for president and he peddles fucking NFTs

I have also noticed this but when taking LSD. I do not take large doses and tbh I don’t need to as I have quite a low tolerance to psychedelics. I only have theories on why this is the case. One theory is that because I feel more connected with love on the LSD it brings shadow pain out of suppression and into depressive feelings. When depressed I feel heavier but it does give you then an opportunity to work through it and release by being vulnerable. A more straightforward theory is that it exposes a contrast between where my state could be and where it is now in my current situation I’ve done LSD three weekends on the trot so I’m taking a break now and will probably go back to mushrooms which might be better for healing shadow elements

I think us guys can be tough on ourselves when it comes to women. Told not to not be needy but actually all you can do is own your neediness. You can’t switch it off and at least there’s an authenticity there. Like desire. Own it. Pitch your flag in the ground Something I need to integrate more in my life

Spot on brother

It’s an interesting analogy. I’m not so sure it’s directly comparable though

We are all vulnerable. By the very fact you can die means you are vulnerable and have needs. If I had no needs at all I’d either be a fucking sociopath or would have completely awakened. Neither are the case. It’s like girl I like you. I don’t know why but you make me feel like jelly And just to clarify, by showing your needs and desires I do not mean fucking grovelling It’s just being honest in the end because the other choice is you suppress it out of sight which will ironically make you more unsure of yourself and awkward. Better to own it and if someone can’t appreciate that sensitivity then it’s often down to maturity @NoSelfSelf If having emotions means you’re weak then that’s a pretty screwed up perspective. This is exactly the kind of advice people do not need

@Reciprocality If the neediness is there then what else can you do about it other than own it We all bullshit ourselves about how much we need each other. We need people in our lives more than we care to admit. It’s hardwired

@r0ckyreed someone mentioned starting with 1gram. I’d personally advise for something smaller if you’ve never done them before. You don’t know your tolerance and 1g is a lot for the first time. Start with .5g or less. You need to become familiar with the experience. Generally it’s like driving for the first time. It’s better to be on the cautious side than taking risks I get my mushrooms grinded into a powder then I use one of those to the milligram sensitive scales. I don’t soak them in anything they’re ready to go. If you can get psilocybin drops even better. You don’t get the nausea so much!

@Thought Art when I say old I mean ‘old age’ old. Your mental faculties will start to decline certainly past 70 Consciousness wise not necessarily so. IQ is basically how fast your mind can process information. Like a calculator in your head

@Ramanujan I feel you man. it’s harder if you’re not living in the western world to make a success career wise

Reflecting on my situation recently with my job and business. If by the end of the year we don’t get investment I will be selling my shares. Hopefully I’ll get between 50-60k Job wise I’ve had it with the corporate world. Corporate jobs are just fucking bullshit to me now. I’m at the end of the road and I’m not going back. Rather be a teacher All being well we will get investment but if not I want to go travelling. Get a fresh start and new outlook. Develop in areas of my life that I’ve neglected. I got sucked into the corporate machine Does anyone here have any advice for travelling? Considerations? Anything worth looking into? Bless

@Davino Interesting, thanks

@mmKay I do completely agree from my perspective. Technology is for the most part a burden on my connection with the divine however it is a good resource for new knowledge and perspectives like Actualized. It’s using it for the right reasons as you say It’s more likely to be a burden and hindrance if you are more right side brain like me. If you are very logical and rational you will likely feel more at home with technology I’ve noticed a lot of autistic people work in the technology field. Like Elon musk is right at home in that space

@Jowblob I’ve noticed LSD connects me with love mostly but I have noticed that there’s a come down over the following week where I feel quite depressed. It’s exposing a contrast for me. My deepest insights on love have been through it

@Will1125 indeed that is so

Insight dawned on me. When we think about loving ourselves we tend to only look at this inwardly but the inner and outer are one To love yourself is to allow yourself to not only feel (introverted side) but to express (extroverted side) Think about it. You are consciousness occupying this particular human entity. How best as consciousness can you help this person bring love into their lives. If you only allow them to feel but not express this is not truly loving yourself and vice versa So love yourself. You are your neighbour, you are your partner, you are the stranger in the street

@Clabber Girl I feel exactly the same way in my job. A job that you are not passionate about will drain you of your life energy even if you haven’t done much work. It’s actually quite horrible to put up with I would fuck the job off and do something else Im looking for a new role now. Need the change big time

@Buck Edwards eating junk on a day to day basis would do it. And getting old

@Davino Having enough light is a big one for me especially when WFH

@Inliytened1 But the point is loving others is actually loving yourself. There will be people and passions that you love from that outwardly perspective - this is still you Think of a beautiful woman Loving yourself from the inward perspective to me is allowing this human to deeply feel emotions. To allow the person to be vulnerable and be present with that. That to me is the greatest expression of love from the inward perspective

@Ben2204 Sounds like you had a pretty good bash of that. I have a mate that for one reason or another is a really good wingman. We both appreciate the beauty in women He knows a lot of women. Women feel safe around him lol I feel the fear with and without the wingman. For me it’s more of a mood thing. I’m in a higher state with my mate

@Leo Gura Cool. We need to reflect on the evolution of the human species and civilisation. Go beyond rampant dog eat dog capitalism and scientific reductionism

@Someone here One of the biggest causes of suicide is depression. You feel very numb in this space and life does not feel worth it

@Yimpa I think I would be quite delicious