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Last couple of nights I’ve been hitting the bars (very unusual for me) looking to get better at approaching beautiful women. I actually feel quite proud of myself as I approached about 6 women and some went alright actually. Found that dancing like a dickhead seemed to work. Didn’t manage to pull but hey first couple of nights I’ve been out on the trot in years. I am tea total all the way through no drinking I did notice though that the city was no where near as lively as it was a few years ago so I’m wondering if festivals are better? They usually get sold out pretty fast. With cost of living and people being more health conscious people perhaps aren’t going out drinking so much now so festivals I think are the way to go. I don’t live in a big city either which isn’t ideal also another question off topic, what do people think about hitting on the bar staff? Sometimes I find that easier to do. Also the waitresses in coffee houses
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@Sempiternity cool thanks for sharing these! Appreciate it Im going to one in called Timber which is pretty hippie/spiritual. There’s another called the Lost Village near me. New experience for me I’m going with some mates to the next one but what’s it like going alone if they can’t make it? Have you done that before?
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@Leo Gura okay keeping my options open in terms of training grounds. Looking for situations that create opportunities more naturally rather than brute forcing such as just cold approaching women on the street randomly. Maybe south beach miami that works better Will try to consistently go out on a Saturday night when I can. Something I have not really done since university about 10 years ago when I was much more insecure and less sure of myself. Great combination for attracting ladies! Also the festival and I will leverage my networks more now. Just gotta be more social now
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@Sempiternity cool I live in the Uk. Yes I am interested in the hippie style festivals as well connecting with nature
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@nerdspeak I believe there are styles of pick up that could be associated with being a scam but more holistically no I don’t think pick in itself is I’m not into cold approaching random women on the street but in more naturally occurring situations such as in a night club and you’re on the dance floor or at a festival where there is a shared experience with the music etc. Plenty of opportunity to hook up through this I just need to get better at it For me I’m developing being more intentional and honest with my emotions with women. I think we suppress a lot of our sexual desires because of society etc. it is not exactly PC to even talk about attracting on women but the ladies want you to be direct and intentional with your desires. To be uninhibited I want my 30s to be about becoming a more attractive man and to be more extroverted and social. I’ve had conscious shifts in my life making this feel right now. I was struck by Leo’s first few comments in his pick up series where he said you’re not being social enough and to get out of your fucking house lol. This is me but not anymore as I’m actively shifting as my priorities are changing Im keeping my options open so not just pick up, social circles as you’ve mentioned and those shit dating apps. Don’t get much on there. I have no idea how to use them but testing things out. I think just a light hearted funny comment followed by being direct about your intentions - to hook up basically Work is another domain but I mostly work remotely and even when I’m in the office there aren’t many single women in my dept. I’m also director so I have a lot of work commitments
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@Leo Gura Cool I think festivals are the way to go. Speaking with some mates planning on heading to one in July called Timber - has a hippie vibe That’s fair. I barely ever go out so not thinking long term in that respect but yeh need to consider that for bars and clubs. But let’s say during the day there’s less of a cliche to that even if you are hitting on the waitresses as women just don’t expect that. At night they’re more on their guard if not the waitresses during the day in a coffee house for instance how best to approach the other women? That’s tricky to navigate. I can only think that if you’re sat on the table opposite and there just so happens to be an attractive women talking about something that’s familiar to you then you could go along with the lines I couldn’t help but hear that you mentioned so and so. Something like that. Or perhaps when you’re in the queue and looking at what to buy and the cakes you could make some comment about that to her Unlike night game it seems harder to brute force an opportunity in those situations I just think you gotta see if the moment arises but then you could just be waiting around for the universe to hand it to you. Waitresses you can just call over. I chatted with this stunning waitress about the type of coffee they have - not that I really cared just chatting shit. I really should have gone further with that and asked for her number as she was dead keen but was just fucking around giving it a go as I’ve only just started dabbling in it What would you do in this situation to get results? Tricky to navigate
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I have done LSD and psilocybin but would like to try DMT as this seems to be the best for conscious development I’d want to start with just a micro dose to get a feel for it. We often hear about micro dosing LSD and shrooms but not DMT. What’s it like? What is the dosage for this?
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@What Am I yeh this is what I was thinking rather than micro dosing what is the experience with a Low dose, moderate dose and high dose. What is the dosage for these?
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@Jannes yeh have done both. Tbh I preferred the LSD just felt amazing on the highs though did have a very challenging experience once. Most of the insights have come from my more challenging trips. I haven’t tried DmT. This is something I want to explore
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Even Steve jobs wouldn’t let his kids use these things I’ve made so many changes in the last couple of years but here’s the next one. To sell my iPad. I have tendency to watch YouTube in bed and I just get the sense this is not in accordance with building a better me In fact too much YouTube as well. Will go to shit with this Ai anyway. I can listen to Leo on podcast! Just thought I’d share that. Sometimes the small unconscious things you have been doing for years need reevaluating
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Interesting that LSD is better for consciousness work based on the receptors than mushrooms. thought they were much the same I have been wondering about continuing with mushrooms or going back to LSD. This is making me think the latter now
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@Ramanujan A deep desire for something that energises and excites A quote from Marcus in Babylon 5 that I love: Touch passion when it comes your way. It’s rare enough as it is. Don’t walk away when it calls you by name
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@Basman Yeh thought about that but in the end just better to sell it completely. I have YouTube on the TV which feels more acceptable there rather than on an iPad on the bedside These things displace too much time. The Ai will become so mindless. I actually noticed some stuff yesterday before I decided on this that caught me out then realising oh wait that was just ai
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@Yimpa listen to podcasts, read and just sit quietly being mindful
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Chadders replied to Breakingthewall's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
@Ishanga I say that because the transcendent dimension goes beyond the limitation of form. When you are stuck in form you suffer. This is my direct experience of it To be human is a concept -
Chadders replied to Breakingthewall's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
To accept suffering completely is to ultimately transcend the limitations of your human form. You will suffer as long as you stay human -
@Buck Edwards they’re based on a very narrow form of intelligence based on our scientific and rationalistic orientation. There’s a deep bias. It’s why STEM subjects are often valued more than creative or emotional roles I don’t think these IQ tests account for emotional or creative intelligence so I wouldn’t read too much into it
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Chadders replied to Butters's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
@Butters If by mystical you mean a profound moment in time I would say yes they are For me these can be moments of deep connectedness with reality. They can also be challenging moments in time that lead to deep insights -
@rd5555 I think some are stage red given the kind of partners they seek. The kind of women that would seek guys like Andrew Tate are stage red because it’s just so low down in terms of connection. Very status driven Though it is unfair and a bit arrogant to assume they are all stage red. I would say many are definitely stage orange. Very materialistic but then the majority of people are actually
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@Davino I think you’ll do well I can feel that. Maturity and vulnerability in your question I find nature is the best way to feel grounded or just feeling deeply into the body. Changing perspective as well to recognise the inner turmoil is there for a reason. It is asking you to look deeper Infinite blessings to you 🙏
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Chadders replied to matoriii's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
@matoriii It’s a tricky one. Check to see if there are any yoga groups around. They’re pretty spiritual -
Chadders replied to Actualising's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
@Actualising Check out Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. It’s the first step into the eastern wisdom that’s wrapped within a therapeutic treatment model Bottom line is you are not your thoughts. If my mind wants to think of a purple elephant it just does. Hell I’m not in control of that, so who the hell am I? Awareness -
Tbf I get what Leo is saying though I get it. I’d personally actually rather not have a load of stock footage rolling constantly. It’s like with those inspiring speeches that have the dramatic music in the background. It’s just annoying. The person’s words are enough I do not need background music. I am not a child I most commonly consume Leo’s content on podcast anyway. I don’t see much value in watching Leo himself when I can just hear the words and take it in that way
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@matoriii Do what I do. Leave your phone at home and go for a walk or bike ride also remove news and social media apps
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Chadders replied to James123's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
@James123 Very interesting actually. I like it