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For men I would say dating. For most us a love life won't just fall into place naturally, it will take effort. You can always figure something out career wise, if you are able bodied and have basic intelligence.

@Sandhu Cookies, milk and a gold star for you. Everyone look at me I am a good man.

I know homeless struggling artist types who go from women to women. If you are attractive, all the supposed rules and standards go out of the window.

Women actively approach and insert themselves into the lives of the most attractive men because they know competition is high. If you are not one of those guys who women initiate contact with, maybe it's better to not date and let women share and compete over those men which deep down if you read between the lines is what they really want. Obviously interacting with and dating an average man with no status is beneath women.

Go back to bed

Good luck

Everything you are doing for her that you think should be appreciated is now considered the bare minimum.

It's not wrong. Women have zero issues with putting their needs and desires first, why shouldn't men do the same.

No. There is someone for every woman but not for all men. I was just watching a podcast where a woman admitted to having sex with Chris Brown, then the podcast host admitted she and all her friends had also had sex with him despite his long history with domestic violence. Some men will literally attract millions of women, more than they could deal with while others attract zero. It has nothing to do with how good or kind of a man you are. Morality means nothing.

Looks matter the most in terms of raw attraction. Status matters in terms of being visible but the attraction will be completely conditioned on you maintaining that status. Money and confidence are overrated. Money can't buy real attraction and confidence will not do anything without being attractive or high status. Confidence will not make a short, unattractive man attractive despite what society wants to sell you.

Guys like you never learn. I don't blame women for taking advantage of easy targets, women are actually very honest if you judge them by their actions.

I remember at University there was this guy sitting across me in the library who looked like a skinhead neo-nazi's. He had the look; shaved head, tattoos, black boots, tense gaze, piercings, etc.......about 5 minutes later a black guy comes and sits next to him, they shake hands. I meet them a few weeks later and this honestly intimidating guy and it turns out this regular black dude are best friends from Germany (international students)

@CARDOZZO I am already in shape that has never been a problem. Apparently I am a horrible person.

Who has a bigger victim complex than women today. Do women see or embrace male vulnerability? Absolutely not. People will stay away from others for all kinds of irrational reasons that have nothing to do with a person's actual value and character. You seem to operate with a just world fallacy, where people mostly men get what they deserve. So if you are lonely, struggling etc you must be a bad person. I guess all those serial killers, pimps, drug dealers, thieves with wives and multiple girlfriends are wonderful.

Fascinating, I can only laugh. What you are really saying is "you said something I disagree with, therefore you are a bad person" It's disappointing and frankly pathetic, I never made a personal comment on your character. I am a potential emotional and physical danger because I provide insights and observations that make you and women like you uncomfortable. The truth is that none of this is really about vibe or character, you and other women have no great intuition for sussing out who a man really is in person or online.

Women are just as fuck centered for a small minority of men. Women love sex but only a very small percentage of men can really bring that raw, carnal side out.

So they are rejected for exuding red flags that scare women away but actually abusive, narcissistic men attract women with no problems. So why do these red flags not show up with one set of men but show up clearly with another? It comes across to me as vilifying unattractive men, so women don't feel guilt for not being attracted to them. It's nothing to do with actual red flags or vibes. The deciding factor in whether or not a man does well romantically is not how much of an asshole he is or his vibe.

It's very clear from everything I have seen and experienced that being a good man means absolutely nothing to women. If women care about the qualities they say do, they have a funny way of showing it.

@Emerald I have found a lot of value in your post on here and your youtube channel. However, you are not listening. There is a gap between how you explain attraction and what men are experiencing and your responses are becoming increasingly dismissive. You seem to assume the best of women and see every woman as some enlightened, intuitive, morally perfect person who can only make bad decisions when manipulated. What men are are saying, is even when we develop and become self aware, emotionally intelligent etc it doesn't change the fact that women actively choose the most attractive, narcissistic and sometimes abusive men while gaslighting regular men about what they are attracted to. If you spent one day as a man you would see how demoralizing this is. Every time a woman complains or has a problem it's because of something men are doing but when men share their experiences and struggles it's because they are thinking about things the wrong way. Do you not see how this is hypocrisy?

@Miguel1 Netherlands?

This. Nothing to with morality, kindness, emotional intelligence etc The gaslighting is hard to take seriously. Men have eyes and share experiences, we can see clearly a vast gap between what women say and how they act.

I share the experience. The more narcissistic and destructive you present as a man the more women seem to like you. Also, there is a vast gap between what women say they are attracted to and who they choose. The funny thing about all this toxic masculinity talk is that actually toxic men have zero issues attracting women, while regular guys are gaslighted into thinking there is something wrong with them. Maybe there is something wrong with women, maybe women are the ones that need to change, their preferences across demographics don't seem to be helping them.

I agree. The most positive experiences I have had with women, have come when they have showed initiative and active interest. Even then, the juice is not worth the squeeze. Always feels like your one word or step from doing something wrong but you get no communication from supposedly the better communicators.

Ideally, I would like to meet my other half and get married. This is what I daydream about. However, I never got to have my wild phase and sow my wild oats, so that would be nice. To be desired SEXUALLY by many women.

Put yourself first unapologetically. Detach your self image from the opinion of others. That's basically it.