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Nothing matters unless you are physical attractive, emotional maturity and personality mean nothing unless you are are sexy on a physical level. Women will actually make excuses for violent, antisocial with terrible personalities if they are attractive enough. Developing spiritually as a man does nothing for you romantically, young men would be less resentful and disappointed if we stopped lying to them. We have to stop this myth that female attraction is somehow more noble and mysterious. For most of human history a minority of men mated, most got nothing. We had a couple of centuries of enforced monogamy where women had to attach themselves to a man but those days are over at least in the west. Women are free to really respond to their desires freely and it is clear that physical attraction is paramount. Men are now destroying their legs to get taller, doing cosmetic surgery whitening their skin this is not coming out of nowhere. Men are pragmatic. If being a spiritually evolved, kind, emotional person made them attractive we wouldn't be where we are in terms of the dating game.

Emotionally stable, high communication, empathy, knowledgeable, spiritual, funny. All great qualities nothing to do with attraction there are many men with these qualities but they never trigger desire enough to even get their foot in the door to show these qualities. The man in the video is tall, white and muscular, according to data that is a cheat code in the dating game. He would be attracting the same caliber of women if he had none of those traits while looking the way he looks. If you read between the lines what women are saying is that they want men they already find sexy and high status to have these qualities. The average man on the street gets nowhere with these traits. The difficult conversation we have to have in society is that most men are not sexy enough and will never be sexy enough to experience real desire from a woman.

You have to let go of your morality a little bit to give yourself a chance to experience certain things like sex and see that there is nothing wrong with sex and even lust. Until you get over that mental block you won't grow and evolve as well as you can. Unless you are willing to become like a monk or live like St Francis Assisi you will need to face the reality of sex and come to terms with your desires with no shame and judgement. I think a lot of young men are dealing with this mental block, explains a lot of the issues today. Let go of the idea of being a good, moral person and think more wholistically and you will see there is a place for lust, desire, sex and all manner of so called bad things.

Looks, Power & Status. Everything else is secondary. When you ask someone what they are attracted to they are usually answering from their 'ideal self' not who they really are and what actually triggers desire for them day to day. That is why you often hear the generic common answers; Kind, gentle, emotionally intelligent, social, spiritual etc. None of these actually move the needle and trigger desire, which is the most important thing. A great personality and spiritual development mean nothing if you can't arouse real desire in a women. Society has to stop lying to young men about this, you can't buy or meditate your way into a woman's heart. So focus on looking your best and gaining power and status in the context of your life whatever that may look like. This is the uncomfortable answer. People have beating the same generic messages about who men should be to attract women for the last decade and and clearly it is not working.

Lavender, Jasmine, Vanilla, Peppermint and Sandalwood are supposedly aphrodisiacs so maybe find scents based around these notes.

There have been cases in the UK of young men being arrested for talking to women on campus at university. It's unusual but believable in 2023. I find women today just avert their gaze dramatically if they have zero interest rather than making a scene.