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@Sprinkles This will lead to surpression and will probably have a massive backlash in the long-run. (Been there, done that =D) If you deny negative emotion by "thinking positively", the emotion won't run its course, and won't leave your system, it will become a part of your surpressed emotional body. Same with thought patterns. If they get denied, they get stuck in the subconscious (along with the emotions, thoughts and emotions are working basically in a circle, one causes the other, and the other way around.)

@GTITurbolover Feel like there is just a clash of having a more compassionate approach, and being hard on one-self. Both can work, depending on the situation, I just gravitate towards compassion.

@Christian Hey man! Been there, done that. Realise that it is those traumas that are holding back your potential, and are the things that are standing between you and your authentic self. It is only when you accept them without judgement, you can let go of them. That means you've got some emotional labour in front of you. And you have every right to be angry. But don't cling to that anger, just let it flow freely. If you wanna cry, just cry it out, if you wanna smash things... well idk be careful with that. Point is, it is okay to "feel like the victim". Because tbh you were. You were a victim, being that little helpless child. So if you wanna get through this, it will involve some victimhood feelings, that are coming up from your subconscious. I like to compare this (when you are reliving past traumas) as "Listening to stories that your ego had to tell for a long time, but you never listened in the past, only now you are forced." You can try to stop it telling your stories by resistance, but it will only make it worse. Just... allow, and watch the magic happen! :-)

@Huz Also notice, that it is not necessary to completely ditch all culture. There are ways to do it. Yes, of course you can say "eeeeh fuck it... I will just go meditate in a cave for 30 years and fuck everyone and everything Im going into isolation" (nothing wrong with this, totally legit!) But another way would be.. "I will go, and I will totally enjoy all the pleasures and nice things my culture and my society has to offer, I will get an amazing wife, great kids, run an amazing business, have a wonderful career that is approved by my culture, drive amazing cars, have amazing friends and live an amazing life in the eyes of my culture." - You can still do this shit, and still be transcending culture. You just have to be conscious that whenever you do these "cultural" things, you are playing this game of pretend. My personal view is that Leo is kind of moving in the direction of ditching culture and going on his own, since he did mention that he is naturally introverted, but I might be just crazy wrong.

@Huz Nobody forbids you not to merge yourself with culture. There is nothing "wrong" with the culture. The problems come when you start attaching yourself to it. I have always kind of laughed at people who were saying shit like "I AM PROUD TO BE AMERICAN". How the fuck can you be proud of being born in a certain area of the world? What exactly are you proud of? Coming from a vagina in a specific place? What? =D That always seemed funny to me. There is nothing wrong with being American, but creating your ego around it, there comes the problem. There is nothing wrong with uni, but when you attach uni to your ego, it creates a problem.

Hiya! Some time ago when I found actualized.org, it did not take me long to buy the Life purpose course. I found my life purpose in psychology, counseling, coaching and psycho-therapy. Basically helping guide other people and dig into their psyches so to speak. And something has been on my mind for a very long time. I have started studying psychology and counseling on a uni this year, and with that came a huge shattering of my illusions of how actually therapists and counsellors think. It is very diverse, but many of them just go in the kind of "hopeless" direction of "if you're unhappy, here, take these pills, wink wink, maybe if you're lucky, they will work. The opinions on things like depression and anxiety and these kind of common mental problems vary, but again one of the poles that scares me is the "coping" approach. Which is basically CBT if not combined with deeper introspection. It is a development of coping strategies. Rarely it is spoken about curing, rather than coping and managing the conditions. And I have come into a conclusion, that self-actualization is almost mandatory, in order to be an effective counsellor/therapist/coach.... Only then can we offer warm and loving relationships to our clients, be constructive, very solution oriented and loving at the same time. With the deep understanding of ourselves we gain better understanding of problems of others. The counsellors and therapists should be pioneers of self-actualization, to connect more with our emotions and bring about more emotional awareness in our society. However... not many counsellors are walking in this direction. They... cope :(. Thoughts on this?

@Live Life Liam Dundee

@Live Life Liam I am a freshman in an undergrad psychology and counselling course. (Actually in Scotland! hehe, although I am Czech). I went for uni because first of all: Vast majority of all we learn is very relevant. Also it gives me a good idea what the current system is, and where the major pitfalls are. Another reason is, that past 3-4 months, I was going through a period I wouldn´t be afraid to call a dark night of the soul, and 4 years at a university gives me an amaying breather, to work out my emotional body and negative patterns, find my authentic self, and then dive deep into the world of counselling. I GOT A PLAN YALL, CHECK ME OUT, AREN´T I A STRATEGIC MOTHERFUCKER? =D. What are other routes of becoming a counsellor? I haven´t really spoted any, would you enlighten me pls?

@Leo Gura It does, honestly the potential is incredible, especially if holistic approaches are applied. Thanks sensei @Live Life Liam I started with the attitude of "I shall change all of you petty little victimized therapists". Then I managed to pop my bubble of arrogance, and developed an attitude of "well... there is a lot of progress that can be done in this field. Let's see to it". x) Good luck to you man.

Oh thanks guys, yeah the emoticon expressing my sadness about the situation is just pointless isn't it. Reality is there to be accepted and celebrated, not to be depressed about.

Holy fuck thanks you're right. Choosing my wording as "hate" was quite unfortunate. In the end though, what struck me was that he went in quite a depth to just prove how much Leo is projecting in his videos by setting various examples, and I was like... What the fuck =D. Like of course he is! The fuck do you expect? You don't need to be holier than thou to point out dysfunctional patterns. At the same time, it is healthy to be sceptical of what you learn from anyone, not just Leo. That being said (and this is just my personal view), criticizing (or rather going into so much depth with it) someone who himself promotes skepticism, and gives you loads of beautiful insights for fucking free, to do with them as you find fit, is a huge waste of time.

I won't even try to describe how many problems this will create in your life. What do you mean American and non-American... holy fuck How many things do you identify yourself with? =D Aw man, I love you. Hugs from me to wherever you are.

@electroBeam In what universe, it is of any importance how Leo is doing things himself in his personal life. He is providing value. That is all he is doing. He gives you information, and it is up to you what to do with it. It's not your place to argue with him, you may give suggestions, but go on full out hate mode like this, what the heck =D. Teachers give you information for free. How are you not infinitely grateful for such oportunities? edit: Pick what resonates with you, and leave out the things you don't find useful or interesting. Everyone resonates with different things, everyone has their own way, perspective and path. Don't ben an asshole who disrupts the paths of others just because your path seems different to you. edit2.: And the fact that he made this projection video regarding recent events with @Rali n stuff, only shows that he cares for us not to go into the wrong direction. If you see your child, fighting with it's sibling for some petty little reason, you might give him some lecture right there about what actually matters in life. The reason you did that in that moment was that he was fighting and doing nonsense. Does that diminsh the value of your lesson as a father to your son? No! Does that matter in the long run, let's say year, or 5 years from that moment? Hell no!

Heeyo everyone, gonna keep it short. Been meditating for almost 9 months I think, lately tons of subconscious trauma started coming out, now dealing with emotions that cause my legs to shake like crazy when I put them in a certain position (it reminds me a little of the restless leg syndrome). Any experience with that? I am aware that there won't be many shortcuts to releasing past trauma, however I have no experience with the emotions causing anything that "visible".