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@SaaraSabina Hi Saara! I wouldn't go as far as to say that it isn't a good match. I would even say that the person's behavior is completely irrelevant. What for you as a DA should definitely be the focus is taking every relationship as an opportunity to practice vulnerability and openness. How they respond, is up to them. If they don't appreciate it and make the relationship insufferable for you, that is all good and well and you can set your boundaries and potentially leave. If you make it your goal to be more open and more vulnerable with each interaction, you're making the focus the healing of your attachment style. If healing your attachment style is the most important thing, then individuals' responses to you are merely about them, and what they need to heal within themselves, which is always a matter of their journey, and nothing you have to worry about. The reason why I'm saying this is because ability to be vulnerable and open is its own reward, it is not a 'means to building a relationship', even though that can be a byproduct as well. Openness and emotional maturity is what over time cultivates fulfillment and happiness in your life, regardless of the conduct of others!

@Nahm @roopepa pleasure to serve and enrich the journeys of your transcendent surrender!!

It seems to be an eternal trend that all individuals on a spiritual and healing journey feel and know that surrender is a 'thing that should be done'. However as to why, how and when to surrender often eludes everyone's awareness. Should we surrender our thoughts and limiting beliefs? Or perhaps it is to surrender into the present moment. All such things can be said and known, but the effect isn't often tangible at all, nor does it provide the quality of spiritual expansion that we crave for. Before we engage in any surrendering, it is absolutely pivotal to answer the following question. What does it mean to surrender? To surrender is to acknowledge and anchor the realization, that everything that ever happens, only happens for the purpose of evolving me into my highest consciousness. Nothing is ever wrong, I can't mess anything up, and any perception of doing something wrong, is simply a part of me that I am capable of doing it wrong being healed. Now that we know what it means to surrender, the next step is to acknowledge how and when we surrender. This is simply because the ego will use any spiritual tool as a mechanism to keep itself in control and in charge. But surrender is the one thing the ego cannot do, the ego can only 'be surrendered'. And if it is being surrendered, the when, how, and why is never up to the ego, as it could never comprehend the cosmic eternal reality of its immaculate surrendered destiny. When we are trying to surrender, we are saying to the universe 'I wanna be in charge of this.' The better alternative is saying 'I surrender the idea of needing of having to surrender in any way, and therefore even my surrender is in the hands of the universe.' To anchor the energy of surrender in your nervous system, please read the following words (preferably out loud). It is simply through reading through all of this post that you will leave more surrendered than you were before, without anything about you or your experience needing to be different, simply because the energy within these words is channeled to do the surrendering on your behalf, which is the only way it can be done. Have a wonderful weekend, and as always let me know how you felt !

Sounds like it's a good thing the transmission has found you! Very glad you've been impacted in such positive way!!

@StarStruck It makes no difference to whom it is being posted, it's an offence to gay people. It's stigmatizing and disrespectful at best.

If a regular member posted this I'd report the post as offensive and demeaning. But it's Leo posting this... instructions unclear, toxic behavior demonstrated by the Spiritual Teacher?

@Psychventure Amen! Or as I like to say in more spiritual terms... fuck yeah !!

@seeking_brilliance sounds very heartfelt and sacred, thanks for the share

@28 cm unbuffed Every time you go for a smoke and maybe even every day when you wake up, just say to yourself 'I intend to support my body with what it needs from me to be the heathiest emotionally and physically.' That's it, nothing else, If you set this intention every time, I would be surprised if you'd be able to smoke after a week of doing this.

This is too true lol

Thanks for diagnosing my life’s problems ? What ? am I crazy or does this conversation make no sense.

I have no idea what you mean by that, I just didn’t like the misinformation regarding CBT, I’m not trying to be ‘right’ here.

There is an emotional and body sensation component in CBT as well, to say it deals with anxiety 'through thinking' is way too oversimplified and untrue, I'm also not too much fan of CBT as the entire concept is too technical, and doesn't give enough room for emotionality. Anxiety is never 'rooted in thinking', it is actually a symptom of 'too much thinking', and not enough feeling. Anxiety says 'there are things you need to feel, please be mindful of that'.

@paradiseengineering Here's something extra to allow yourself to heal from this dynamic.

Hey Paradise! When setting boundaries there is only one rule, make sure you're making it about what you feel and need, and not necessarily about trying to change the other person. An example of a boundary for your situation would be 'Dear mom, my entire life I have felt like a substitution for a man who would fulfill your emotional needs, in this way you made me take on the role of your caretaker and 'pretend partner', that I am absolutely not comfortable with, and thus I am setting this boundary with you. Please allow me to have a life independent of your influence, as a way of repairing the damage I have experienced in our relationship. Thank you. Goodbye!'

@FortisFortunaAdiuvat you’re right. Rationalization is a childhood coping strategy. The way it is adapted is by child seeing how bad it feels around it’s parents and how neglected and abandoned it gets, and to cope with the pain it starts rationalising why it is right that this had happened to them, they deserve the treatment they are receiving, and their parents are perfect who are doing everything right, therefore they ‘rationalize’ all misdeeds as if those were the right things to do. its a way of using the mind to emotionally manipulate yourself. the way out of this is admitting how deeply in pain you are and feel, and allowing yourself to feel through the complete powerlessness of it. Rationalising is merely there to avoid the feeling of helplessness. To make it somehow ‘right’, instead of cruel, unjust and unfair. the next step is to look at your childhood family dynamic and stop rationalising that, and confront all the toxic, emotionally neglectful and manipulative tendencies you’ve experienced and were ultimately traumatised by into somewhat disregarding and dismissing your emotions. Once you no longer dismiss your feelings through your mind, you become different then the past that had damaged you, and you allow healing to take place. We feel our way through the healing, and never think our way into or out of anything.

@Radament Hi Radament. What you're experiencing is simply a transition where you're moving from relying on an energetic or psychic phenomenon to be more of yourself, to being more of yourself without the 'crutch' of feeling your wings. While raising your angelic wings and moving them around is always a powerful practice, it is always to compliment the journey of evolution of becoming more of your infinite and expansive self in a human body. This means that instead of focusing on the 'lack of wings' you feel, merely bring to your awareness that your focus is always on becoming more of yourself, being more open and more relaxed and safe in your body than the moment before. Once you have aligned to this new intention, you can still try to move your wings around as a way of complimenting your journey of being yourself. You can anchor this newfound awareness by meeting any moment of an 'energetic low' or stress by saying to yourself 'I allow myself to be who I was born to be, without needing anything to be different.' This mantra stops the need to be reliant on seemingly external things for the permission of personal and emotional self-expression. Just be you, and all will come into place. Don't wait for the world or your spiritual experiences to give you this permission.

@SaaraSabina I'm very glad you've found value in knowing your attachment style. It's one of the most impactful things we can learn about regarding our growth that doesn't only affect our relatoinships, but allows us to be better and thrive in all areas of our lives as we become more emotionally free, healed and fulfilled! PS: If you do find it meaningful to work on your attachment style, I highly recommend sticking with the channel I sent you, she is probably by far the most helpful and advanced attachment style resource there is, even if you just go by her youtube channel and don't purchase any of the courses, the value she offers is incredible!

@TeaMasterDrinker Hi TeaMasterDrinker! Sexual problems tend to be related to how emotionally open and vulnerable we are able to be with ourselves and with others. This means that the solution to your sexual satisfaction is actually the best appraoched backwards. Find how to introduce deeply beautiful and intimate moments into your relationship. Go on a romantic walk holding hands and talking with each other about how you feel and how deeply you appreciate one another. Practice eye gazing with each other, and allow yourselves to be lost in your partners eyes. Do intimate massages and/or foootrubs. Take intimate and relaxing baths together. Introduce more vulnerability into the relationship, and allow the sex to be vulnerable. Once that becomes a new norm, your relationship will be transformed and will allow your girlfriend to be emotionally relaxed with you enough to actually be open during sex and allow herself to orgasm and to be pleasured by herself and in your presence. It is not a sexual problem, it is an intimacy issue.

To all the people here who are promoting DPD as a spiritual experience... I’m gently asking everyone not to do so, I’m speaking from personal experience where I’ve experienced 2+ years of depersonalisations, and I’m also someone who in my current awareness lives in a state of self-realisation and what many here call enlightenment. The two experiences have nothing in common. DPD should never be glorified as a spiritual experience, it should be seen as a symptom of resurfacing of trauma or intense emotional experiences. It can happen during spiritual awakening but it is a symptom of healing trauma, not a state of higher consciousness. saying DPD is a spiritual experience is misinformed at best, please take responsibility for the things you speak of just so individuals who experience the real terror of DPD don’t get confused and aren’t damaged in the process. If a mainstream therapist saw this they would probably flip out about the misinformation being conveyed here. Thank you kindly.

@Nate0068 @Vittorio Depersonalization is NOT enlightenment, it is an anxiety disorder and a response to intense trauma being processed within the nervous system. Please be careful when in such states, it is not a matter of keeping yourself depersonalized, but grounding back into the body. It has nothing to do with 'higher states of consciousness', it is a response to trauma.

Yeah... that sounds like a very harsh judgement. Ive also saw him say the advice of men struggling with dating and his go to statement tends to or used to be ‘Did you fuck her right’? ... all props to Leo for setting up a platform for self-development and creating a community based on spirituality and self-actualisation but I wouldn’t be taking his relationship advice to heart too much... It doesn’t sound the healthiest and in my personal opinion, it feels like Leo kinda tends to avoid that area of his life pretty extensively...

@aklacor727 oh when I said ‘you’ I didn’t mean you specifically I meant generally when someone’s avoiding the intimacy within the relationship through over intellectualising (not that Leo would ever do that haha)...

@aklacor727 Of course it will never work out. But not for the reason that they're in a different stage, it is because you've taken someone's individuality and intellectualized and compartmentalized it into a mind based system that actually because its so rooted in thinking and conceptualization kills the intimacy within that relationship. It is the eternal truth about relationships that true genuine and authentic relationships is where we go to allow our egos to dissolve. If we are insisting that a relationship won't work out because of some 'conceptual stage', we are actually not doing our part in the relationship, and not allowing our 'ego' (in this instance probably a spiritual ego) to be dissolved. Therefore saying 'it won't work out because we're at a different stage' is just a fear of intimacy pretending to be insightful. True intimacy says 'We may only grow as a result of this experience together, and no artificial stage could ever define the connection between us. May it come and go as we both grow and change as individuals, even if it means growing together, or growing apart, both are equally valid for our journey ahead, and in knowing this to be so, I can only thank you for the gifts of healing and expansion that I have and will receive in our relationship'.

@allyo2003 Hi ALlyo! The best sure way to deal with heartbreak of any kind is realising that the love you feel for another person can only purify and amplify whatever is within you and needs to be healed. Therefore, the promise of this is 'no matter the heartbreak I feel right now, I will not shutdown the love within my heart, and whether that is towards the person who broke my heart, or towards someone completely different, I will remain with an open heart, no matter anyone's rejection or anyone's experience of me. Simply because it is the will of my highest consciousness to awaken a love within me that is so powerful and unconditional, that cannot be stopped by any amount of heartbreak, and this love will be counter intuitively awakened, by being heartbroken all over again, but still not shutting own and remaining open in the aftermath of all the pain. Sending waves of love and compassionate support right into your heart! <3