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It really isn't though is it... If it were capable of anything, you'd think an elephant into existence and it would appear in front of you. But that doesn't happen does it. The trick isn't being infinite within your human psyche, the trick is being infinitely accepting of the limitations of your human psyche, only then will you be able to let go into the everything you've always wanted to be.

@DreamScape ALso I'd recommend watching this, you'll find great benefit in the energetic transmission, I actually thought of it just today!

The only reason you would say that is because there is a belief in you that is afraid of being human, and so you cling to the idea of being consciousness because being fully human is simply too painful, which is understandable. But please know the only thing dressed up as this pattern is a fear of commitment, which can only be healed over time. I remember having this vision when I was going through my awakening years ago, it was as if I was at the heaven's gates, holding onto the 'gates golden bars' while all the angels and god were pushing me down onto earth, and Id scream that I don't want to. You might feel like you wanna go home, you might feel like you dont like being here, you might even feel like youre not human, but all those are merely symptoms of your quickly awakening consciousness, and should never been seen as a replacement or a substitution of the necessity of having your emotional needs. You might feel and be ungrounded now, but have no fear, you will not be like that forever, and you will over time find joy in inhabitting your human body. Until that time, take it easy, relax, and love yourself until the fears of being here, dissolve in the presence of your most daring and honest self-love.

@DreamScape What's your point?

Umm guys??? Bentinho runs a cult with some pretty unhealthy behaviors.. Just saying.. please be a little careful

@Origins Listen here guy. No matter what you find ‘fiction or non fiction’, when you speak or write on a forum you transmit healing energy and just through reading the words people have the opportunity take in the healing that is so ever present coursing through your nervous system. i know this because I am the same, and I find it relevant for you to have this information because the healing energy is very pure and uplifting and beneficial for others to receive, so thank you dearly. And own the fact that you are a giant lightbulb illuminating humanity everywhere you go and with everything you share. i would imagine that the healing you’ve experienced must’ve been quite significant, because your nervous system needs to burn out and allow the necessary space for this much light to shine through. all the best and keep shining your light, thank you! ps: when I join in the light gets more amplifier and magnified as If the two lightbulbs joined and multiplied their voltage by joining together. This of course happens without effort as effort would be only our egos trying to have a say in what the divine had already orchestrated. keep rocking on ! ?❤️❤️

@Nahm I skimmed through it, felt the energy and then followed the inner guidance of my heart that said a gigantic ‘NOPE’, I hope that makes you feel more understood.

@Nahm I’m sorry what you’ve written is one huge rationalisation Im not going to read that because that’s just an attempt to defend yourself, but we’re not in conflict. all is well and all the best.

@Nahm Well it would make sense why most of your advice (and I'm just honestly trying to be real here and not mean anyhing in a disrespectful way, just an ultra-honest moment) is in the direction of avoiding the pain and trying to detach and 'focus on something different' etc. It is a pattern that is a childhood coping strategy that distracts you from the pain you experienced as a young child. Of course very painful and traumatic condition, it is very dangerous however, or unhelpful in the least, to try to help people grow emotionally and spiritually, simply because since you probably put a lot of pressure on yourself not to be in the pain you've been in as a small child, you're going to be putting the same kind of pressure on the people you help whether you're conscious of it or not. In this way your advice are actually a form of pressuring people not to be in pain, rather than helping them through the transmutation process of the pain that is meant to heal them. It is as if you were pulling people out of their haling journeys because you yet haven't dared to complete or fully commit to yours. Think of it this way, think of the relationship you had with your parents. Until those emotional patterns are resolved, you are recreating those relationships with the people you encounter, where most of the time you're relating to others in a similar way you were related to as a child, no matter whether you feel like you've transceded it or not, that doesn't necessarily matter, because those relationships are what is living in your nervous system, and as such cannot be transceded, can only be resolved and transformed through your ability to relive the pain you experienced. From a practical sense, this is what avoidant attachment is, it's not a spiritual insight, it is a childhood trauma response. And it's super common in spirituality too... because it 'acts' as if it were healthy dettachment, when in truth it is avoidance.

By the way love the topic, I wish it had gotten more attention!

Welcome to the club! Pleasure to meet you, this is 'enmeshed families anonymous', we have many many members... like... quite many I have had it very similarly as you are describing, my mom would be too dependent on my life to the point where living a life of my own became a struggle for me because it was as if I had to live two lives - the one that I have, and the one my mother pressured me to live, which was a little exhausting so that had to stop I also had an abusive father and an abusive sibling, that took a lot of trauma healing to overcome to a place where nowadays I'm very functional, generous and able to have my own boundaries in relationships. Im still healing through things, but they don't limit me to the degree where they would hugely impact the way I treat and receive others. Soo.. you used spirituality to cope with your childhood trauma, but never to heal and feel through all the neglect and pain? You know... that makes sense now But... If I were you I'd look into that, like... for realzies, this is a little bit of a red flag. Not to call you out or anything, but... I think I just did anyway.

Omg thanks! I blushed!!! The fact that you receive value and benefit from my posts means the world to me, thank you for taking them in !

@Gesundheit @Chives99 Right, I don't know if you've noticed but your reactions to me make absolutely no sense as if you weren't even reading what I posted, and you're being a little disrespectful while doing so which ain't that fun lol. So byebye fellas, treat others and yourselves a little better, I think that's the spiritual lesson here.

@Chives99 Well, then I hope my death will be terrifying, painful, excruciating and full of grief and pain. Because that will remind me how fully I allowed myself to live. I am someone who has psychologically died many many times, probably hundreds of times. And every death was a painful moment of grieiving all that I have gained, and all that I have lost. And it only allowed me to be more alive than ever before, only preparing me for the next level of death, and next level of rebirth. That is how you live without denial, and that is how enlightenment teaches you how to live your life. Not in a way that avoids pain, such as you are suggesting here. No thank you, no need to avoid anything or anyone at all. I will take all the pain, say thank you very much, and allow it to rip me to shreads over and over, until nothing but the light of my consciousness remains smiling at me, from the after life that has dawned before the dying of my phyisical body. Thank you death for allowing my consciousnesss to enter this lifetime more awakened and conscious than I've ever been. Thank you.

@Gesundheit Wow... I would not wanna be Your friend haha. You only say that because you don't like your life. People who aren't unhappy with their lives have no need to label themselves as illusory. Yeah... I wouldn't wanna be friends with you either haha, no offense of course but this is an extremely unhealthy attitude.

This is extremely toxic, we can't deny our emotional needs, if we do we are bound to end up in patterns of abuse, manipulation and denial. Please dread carefully when spreading this rhetoric. Again, sorry this cannot be done, it's like a fish pretending it's a bird, and since it's a bird it doesn't need water to exist. BUT IT WILL LOWKY DIE okay We are humans, humans have emotional needs, spirituality teaches us how to be most expressively and consciously human, not how to deny our humanity. Neediness is an insistence that our emotional needs MUST be met by others, and that important word there is the MUST. Healthy relationship with your needs is - Look I have needs, are there any people around who can meet them? No? Okay I can do it just as well as others! Are you feeling lonely? - love that part of you that feels loneliness. Are you feeling sad? - Love that part of you that feels sad Are you feeling disconnected? - Connect with the part of you in which disconnect is present. Are you feeling abandoned? - Make sure you are a good, present and thoughtful company to YOU! Love the parts of you that insist that others must be the source of your fulfillment, and watch the 'neediness' dissolve in the presence of your own self love. We don't love ourselves to become hyper-independent, we love-ourselves because that is often the only available way to meet our needs, not because we refuse love from others, but because we have been hardwired to think that our own love matters less than love from others, and until our own love matters just as much, the things others can give us won't be so fulfilling, because we will either not be able to take it in fully, or we will be waiting for the moment of connection and love to end and will imagine ourselves lacking that what we receive from others, before even taking it in fully. Love the you that feels like it is needy, for neediness deserves love, and may you be that love onto yourself, as your own divine parent bringing your inner child and your consciousness into a divine union of spirit and form, making your emotional needs the priority they were always waiting to be, regardless how overlooked or ignored by others you have ever felt. Permit yourself to love YOU, for you have the right to feel the fulfillment of your own love. You not only have the right, but it is something you have the utmost worthiness of, and are infinitely deserving of.

@somegirl I think there's a little oversimplified but overall true quote 'We accept the love we think we deserve.' Since your earliest upbringing, you've been primed with gallons of either positive reinforcement, or trauma, what a loving relationship is, and because your subconscious mind requires and needs to seek equilibrium, it recreates those experiences that it is familiar with.

Maybe because that's sexual abuse? What if it is the cruelty within you using survival as an excuse to keep itself from dissolving? Okay this is sleezy as hell what the ... Am I hallucinating this? Like....... What the hell.

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@Origins I wish you much energy and rejuvenation on your 9-hour adventure!

That is an impressive advice that I am not used to seeing here at all! I am stunned, yes it's anxious attachment, I love everything you said! Who are you! @creator20 As Origins said, you seem to be like an anxious attachment. What I will say on top of his advice is that with anxiously attached individuals, there tends to be this 'secondary gain' of something being wrong, and that is 'as long as there's something wrong with them, I can relate to them, because I don't know how to build a relationship with someone without something being wrong.' It is because at the deepest level you associate your ability to relate to someone with worry, and without the cortissol stress response you actually feel like you're being disconnected, which may bring up uncomfortable sensations of unsafety and abandonment. The way out of this is making peace with relaxation, and building a deeper relationship with yourself, rather than relying on anxiety to always keep you connected to others. All the best!

Glad you like it !!!

I really appreciate what you shared about an unhealthy relationship leading to your relapse to porn, as if porn was a way to cope with n unhealthy relationship. when guys watch prom what they’re coping with is an unhealthy relationship with themselves. Most of us are knee deep entrenched in a toxic borderline abusive dynamic. Only the toxic abuser lives in our heads, and is abusing our hearts. i think that’s a great teaching a out this type of stuff! Thanks again !

@Thestarguitarist14 makes you think about Leo’s dating advice being super pick-upy. For a guy who talks about divine love all day, this is some confusing stuff. The first rule of relationships is the relationship to yourself, not the chase towards or after sex and dating. Then there’s the porn debate we’ve been having in this sub forum. As if porn was a part of self-love and not a cover up for insecurity. Im glad you’ve posted this topic here, it’s been missing in this sub forum for a long time!

This is actually just illusion. The reason why you wanna get good with women is because it would ssubconsciously finally give you validation and the feeling of being liked and approved of, which is all that we want. But if we base the approval on our social success, we are forgetting that we are mingling with a bunch of insecure people who don't love themselves, therefore even they cannot really validate us. If we do find someone who loves themselves, they will not be into one-night stands most likely, because they're not chasing after validation. We have to learn how to be our own source of validation, then the desire for validation will fall off and a genuine connection will feel MUCH better, even though we never went through a phase of 'chasing after sex with girls'. Because remember, the sex is just to validate our existence, because we feel unworthy as we are.