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I guess in the meantime I'll try to find solace in solitude since it's very hard for me to find such a person at this very moment.

@ALGUIMAR @Lorelle Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. People around me are telling me that I'm fully mature for a 25 year old man. Probably to my peers I am but deep inside I don't think I am. But when will I know that I'm ready ENOUGH to start again. I can't obviously be perfect at every aspect of self-developement? The endeavor is very daunting. Again thank you guys for your replies. It's good to know that I'm not the only one going through this

It has been a few months now since I watched Leo's video about how to deal with a breakup. And one of the main message of this video was to not go back with your ex because if you broke up it's probably because you have deeper issues to work on within yourself. Ever since, I started doing self development work. The thing is that I feel like I cant allow myself to be in a relationship without being sure that those issues are resolved. Since it's a never ending work, will I ever be ready to be in a relationship again?

Chris thank you so much for your insights. My problem is that I am new to self-developement work (less than a year) and I feel like who I'm becoming is not stable yet. I have taken so much joy in that work I don't want it to lose it all. It's not that I see my peers as " crabs" but I'm scared that I can't joggle with my new self and who they have been for 20 years. That's probably why I isolate myself or try to engage them in self-work conversations. The end result is that I'm kind of becoming a social recluse since I'm not fun to be around anymore. It's a vicious cycle where I'm protecting my new self and they are doing the same. Just like you said Chris. And I don't know how to break that cycle... I hope you understand a bit better. I don't hate them nor what they think is right. But I was expecting some support and understanding. I think it's part of the pyramid of needs. I can only hope it gets better with time. If not I can find solace in this forum with people like Nomad, Kevin or you Chris being so supportive. Thank you so much everyone for reading me out

Nomad your reply is very clear and well put together. I understand every paragraph and I could not have agreed more. You are right. It's all about perspective and I should not expect the world to be on the same path that I am right now. I guess I expected my peers to be understanding and respectful of the process that I'm going through. It was probably quite arrogant of mine since I'm the one changing. It's probably best if I keep a personal journal about those philosophical and self development things until I can share them with somebody interested or just put what I've learned to good use around me instead of bothering people. Nobody wants to be a party pooper. Hehe Again thank you Nomad for your answer!

Yes indeed. I need to master those tools and try acquiring more if necessary. Argh the emotional labor is real. Hehe. I'm grateful for that forum. It's like a global support community. Thank you for taking the time to reply. It is really appreciated.

The past 3 months I read: Emotional intelligence 2.0 . The six pillars of self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden. Also I'm an avid listener of TedTalks and some other philosophy podcasts. I have tried self-developement through awareness of people's behavior trying to go to parties and other social events but it quickly exhaust me since I'm highly introverted. So that's that...Why the question?

Thank you so much Nomad. I'll try to. The thing is I would have liked to talk to them about those ideas but it seems like everyone else is more interested in knowing what Beyoncé had for dinner last week. Those small talks are suffocating...

It has been 7 months since I've started watching Leo's video. He made quite an impression on me. So much so I made a commitment to self- development for the the rest of my life. And that's where it all started. Personal development requires a lot of dedication, and personally for me, huge quantities of alone time. It puts me in that state of constant change. And the consequence is that I can't no longer connect nor relate with my peers anymore. I have became a stranger to my family and friends and at some point to myself. It's like everyone, including me is watching me evolve without being able to recognize me. This constant state of change is quite uncomfortable and painful too. Is anyone here going through this feeling of loneliness?