Spiritual Warrior

Make your mistakes and failures consciously, with full awareness

Having a really solid but lofty vision for yourself and reminding yourself of that vision everyday, as frequently as possible.

"I cant even roll in peace, everybody notice me" "Maybe I'm not your speed, maybe I'm out your league" The bravado, the arrogance, the "Its all about me" attitude

I would love to visit your Qigong channel if you have one. If you feel comfortable, can you post the link to it? Thanks

It does not come naturally to most men, you have to work at it, push yourself out of your comfort zone as much as humanly possible. Keep you head up, stay hopeful. You can get there. Use the affirmations to spur you into taking baby steps towards your goals with women. Those baby steps will compound and compound and compound until you are taking massive action and attracting beautiful women. The massive action doesn't have to be putting yourself out there and getting rejected over and over again. Start off by working on developing yourself into an attractive, caring, considerate, confident man.. one that you would want your daughter to date.

It wouldn't be possible to create content like what you see on actualized.org without being a stage two thinker. The depth that the videos go into, the interconnectedness between video to video, the impact that it has on a large group of people, the willingness to go into the spiritual and mystical domain. I look forward to making an impact like this on humanity one day.

I remember hearing the girl ask me "do you want to kiss me?" while we were dancing, I've heard this line before from women. This is a telltale sign that she is into you. The next move is to bring her over to a quiet spot and talk with her a bit to get to know her and find out if it's a good idea to kiss her. We are not kissing women left and right. We gauge the situation first and then decide if it is a good idea for both of us to escalate things intimately. We are thinking bigger picture than merely busting a nut or adding another notch to our belt. This is what PUAs from RSD and the Mystery gang were missing, they weren't doing this work with integrity.

I wish people knew how far I've come in this work. I feel like they'd be inspired. Anyways, I want to journal about what happened to me last night, I had quite an eventful night. I worked at the dance studio until 10 pm. Then my work buddy and I drank two car bombs, which are Guinness and Bailey's. Now I'm feeling myself so I head to a salsa dancing spot by myself to let lose. When I get there, I dance with a couple of older ladies to warm up. Then I approach a cute girl and ask her to dance. We are immediately vibing, getting super close to each other, sexual tension is prevalent. We're dancing for a solid 15 minutes. While we're dancing, I tell her that I really want to kiss her. She just smiles and looks away... We continue dancing. Eventually, I couldn't help myself and I give her a little peck on the cheek, she smiles but shakes her head. I'm honestly not sure how I feel towards myself doing this, she did make it clear that she didn't want me to kiss her and I did it anyways. I'm not respecting the boundaries that she set. I will try to do better next time. Eventually, she says that she needs water. I dance with other women while she's getting her water, and eventually I go up to her and try to talk to her some more, I am actually liking her and I want to get to know her better, but she's not giving me much in terms of responses so I walk away and continue dancing. I start dancing with this really cute Ukrainian girl. She is LOVING it. We are having a blast, dancing around for 15 minutes. She doesn't want to leave my side. Eventually, we make our way to the bar and we start talking a little bit. She is clearly attracted to me. I also think she's super cute and there's something about foreign girls that always gets me intrigued. I talk with her and her friend while we have a drink and eventually, we make it back out on the dance floor. There are 5 of us now, 3 girls and 2 guys, we have a little dance party between the 5 of us. Then we head back to the bar, exchange Instagram and we agree to meet back here next week at the same time. I'm looking forward to that! Now, this is where things get interesting in terms of integrity and honesty. I am going out on dates with two other girls right now. They BOTH know about each other, which is good, I have made this very clear. But I also told them that there weren't any other girls that I'm talking to, and that I am not currently pursuing anyone new. This was accurate at the time, but now it is not. I also agreed with one of the girls that we would make a tentative plan to hang out on Thursday because I can't hang over the weekend. If I bail on her to hang out with the new girl, this would not be very nice, I wouldn't want someone to do that to me. Is this work turning me into an asshole? Maybe. Maybe it is. However, I am not exclusively dating this girl and I can technically do whatever I want. I also want to hang out with this new girl. I'm sorry, but it's more exciting. I now understand why players do what they do. This game is fun as hell! By the way, I have worked my f****** ass off to get to this point in my life. This shit does not come easily to men.. and quite frankly I am just scratching the surface. The reality is that I want to settle down with one girl, but I have only been with a handful of women in my life. Right now, I want to date around and figure out what I want and like in terms of a relationship. This will actually set me up for an extremely healthy and high conscious relationship at the end of this journey. I also plan on making a positive and lasting impact on every girl that I date by treating them with integrity and love and compassion. Yes, you are dating a player, but a highly conscious, highly developed, high integrity player. This is the new wave. I will be completely honest and open with you, I will take your wants and needs into consideration, I will treat you as a sovereign consciousness, I will try to feel what you are going through because you are me and I am you.

Yes. My dating life has significantly improved after dropping it.

Thank you for sharing!

Principle 3: Decide What you Want Exercise: Write down 30 things that you want to have, want to do, and want to be. Here goes: 30 things I want to have: A big house with a big lawn, long driveway, fireplace, lots of room for entertainment An inground pool with a diving board, outdoor bar, and hot tub $2,000,000 in my bank account A beautiful, smart, funny, highly concscious girlfriend 6 pack abs, a chiseled chest, defined back, large thighs and calves A job that gives me the freedom to do whatever I want A wine cellar filled with natural, organic wines from Europe My own wine farm in the backyard A king sized bed A Shiba Inu puppy A library full of lots of books and tables and comfortable seats A housecleaner and maintenance guy to take care of my yard Reverse Osmosis Water Filtration System A cool, colorful gaming computer with a comfortable chair and sick gaming room 8 really nice expensive tailored suits A Tesla A ski house in Vermont or New Hampshire A rolex watch A full head of hair until I'm 60 A long, full beard like Rhett from Good Mythical Morning An emotionally mature, highly conscious, fulfilling intimate relationship An organized and clutter free home / living space 20 / 20 vision An unwavering drive to help humanity evolve A complete understanding of spiral dynamics and how to raise other people to the next stage A physical copy of every book on Leo's book list A highly conscious, highly ethical, high impact job A consistent sleep schedule A fulfilling sexual life and high sex drive A highly attractive face and body 30 things that I want to do: Make love in Mexico Salsa dance in Spain Make pasta in Italy Drink wine in Austria Win an award at a dance competition Own a highly ethical, high conscious, stage yellow or stage turquoise business Make an impact on people's lives Skydive Read all of the 5 star books on Leo's book list Fly in a helicopter Meditate on a mountain top for 10 days Do a Vipassana retreat Understand what death is Ride a horse Hunt - shoot an animal Eat street food in Japan See the needle in Seattle, Washington Fly first class Fly to Hawaii Do karaoke 10 times Have a one night stand Have sex 10,000 times Go to Antarctica Go into outer space Access infinity Take 5 Meo DMT Write a book Speak in front of thousands of people Have a three way Race in a tough mudder Do a shirtless photoshoot and post it on my Instagram Have a samadhi experience Donate $100,000 to charity Make an impact on the world before I die See the northern lights Throw lots of parties at my impressive houe 30 things that I want to be: Mature Intelligent Wise Funny Witty Clever Strong A body-numbing lover A caring, loving, emotionally strong boyfriend A caring, loving, emotionally strong friend Loving Compassionate Confident Free flowing Emotionally mature Emotionally available An attentive listener A professional dancer Charming Spritually Enlightened A stage turquoise thinker Playful Happy Content Stable Stoic God-realized Focused Organized International Dance / Dating Coach An attentive, caring, fun host Fun-loving

Getting Ready for the Leap Perfect that the last post is the first one on the second page. Okay, where do I go from here? That is the question of the day. Am I really ready to make the quantum leap or am I fooling myself? Also, does it have to be this transcendent experience? Maybe it just happens gradually... Thats no fun though, I want to make this symbolic and memorable. This to me is what makes life juicy, when you have milestones and pivotal moments that change the trajectory of your life forever. I'd like to share with you what I mean by being ready for the quantum leap, what changes have I seen in my own psyche that tells me that I'm ready for this? Ive been looking at my intimate relationships in terms of how can I assist you in your development as a woman. What role can I play that will help you. The selfishness in these relationships is still there, I have intimacy wants and needs, but they are not running the show anymore. I want to have a positive influence on you. I am not attached to you, you are free to leave if you'd like. Theres the door. I have seen the limitations of thinking selfishly about things, such as getting a lot of followers, being popular, showing off the beautiful women that I'm dating, these desires are all so shallow, I've tried them and they did not satisfy me. I want something bigger, something more. Much more interest in meditation. I am finally seeing the benefits that come with just sitting there and being. This is what it takes to make the quantum leap, to be able to let go and observe reality for what it is. Getting better at letting go of things, such as negative emotions or negative thought patterns. Starting to look at my life more strategically, how can I set my life up so that I can make the greatest impact on the world Starting to look at where I would like my life to be in 5, 10, 20 years. Long time horizons It is still rare for me, but I am sometimes able to sit into the flow of the universe, so that I do not overthink my actions, I allow the universe to carry me towards where I am meant to go. This is really a stage turquoise quality of being an effortless human, it requires you to be able to let go of the thinking mind.

The Quantum Leap into Stage Two Thinking I'm back with more spiral dynamics talk. In general, I've been focusing on stage orange type things, working a lot, getting really good at dancing, getting really good at talking and seducing women, and becoming more charming and charismatic. A month ago, I was talking to an impressive man within the dance community. I asked him what hes been up to lately, and to my amazement, he said that he is trying to look at things in terms of systems. "Wow," I thought, "Could this man really be a tier two thinker?" I had yet to meet one. This man also has this calm, chill demeanor to him, as if he knows something that no one else does. As if hes experienced something other worldy, that mere humans can't access, as if hes looked death in the face. He is in touch with energy fields. This is how he leads a dance. His energy is leading the woman into the moves that he wants her to do. He is a masterful lead. Now you might think that I just have a massive boner for this dude (which I do), but this meeting was a turning point for me. He inspired me to take a look at what I'm doing right now with my life. I started to contemplate where I'm heading and what kind of impact I would like to have on the world. And yesterday, I had a breakthrough. I was out in the woods smoking a joint and walking around as I like to do. I started to realize that I am preparing myself to take the quantum leap into stage two thinking. I can see very clearly the limitations of ALL of the tier one stages. Now this did not happen over night, I've been studying Spiral Dynamics casually for 3 years and seriously for about one. At first, it helped me to realize that all of my selfishness in this human body are natural and I just need to work through them before I can move onto something greater. This was comforting to realize. But now, things are getting serious. And I'm scared of what I will be losing in my life if I make this quantum leap. Of course, after my realization yesterday about being ready to make the jump, I went through an ego backlash, eating candy, jerking off, and binge watching instagram stories and TV shows. This is the next morning and I would like to gain some clarity as to what happened yesterday and where I'm going to be heading. Of course I'm excited, but I'm also scared. The transcendence into tier two requires you to give up many of the selfish behaviors and desires that have been running your life. A quote for each stage of the spiral: Stage Beige: "I am alive!" Stage Purple: "Nature is mysterious and magical" Stage Red: "I want to conquer and dominate you all" Stage Blue: "I devote myself to you, my dear Lord" Stage Orange: "I have money and cars and women and status" Stage Green: "Peace and love for all, we are all equal." Stage Yellow: "I want to make an impact on a large group of people" Stage Turquoise: "I'm an effortless human."

Lol I relate to this so much. I've also come a long way in this regard but this video reminds me that I still have a long way to go to be truly independent of others views of me. Best of luck to you.

Great question. A truly emotionally mature person is able to detach themselves or their ego from their emotions. A tall order. An emotionally mature partner is able to see things from your perspective, doesn't get too attached to you, and doesn't attempt to manipulate your emotions.

One of the couples from last week didn't show up to their lesson. During the previous lesson, we struggled to make much progress on any of the moves I was trying to teach them. I fear that because of how poorly the last lesson went, they felt like they are incapable of learning to dance. This is a dance instructors worst nightmare. I strongly believe that ANYONE can learn how to dance. If they don't think that they can dance, then it is MY FAULT. Whether they believe in themselves or not falls on my shoulders. I have to get them to feel like they can do it. That is the most important thing early on in their dance journey, just get them to believe in themselves.

Hi, I am a dance instructor. I will be journaling about insights that I have gotten in my dance instructor journey. My goal in life is to master the dynamic between the masculine and the feminine, I just so happen to dance.

Crazy that this was just a few days ago. Your progress in this work is rapid. Continue down the path.

I just learned that girl #1 has very little experience in terms of intimacy. I've also noticed that she is very closed off from physical touch. My role in this relationship is to help her to open her body up, open it up so that she can become intimate and allow a man to enter her. I am starting to look at these women in a detached way, in a tier two way of thinking, in which I can make an impact on these women without getting attached to them. The goal here is to help these women out in their development, whether or not the relationship lasts a few weeks, a year, two years, it doesn't matter. The only thing that really matters is that I am making a positive influence on them. Take your selfish desires out of the equation as much as possible and focus on what she needs.

Principle 2: What is your Life Purpose: My life purpose is to master the dynamic between the masculine and the feminine and to master the art of bodily movements through dance.

They're all great, especially videos from past 2-3 years, but this one I come back to most often:

Principle 3: Decide what you Want Be honest with yourself when contemplating what you want. Don't follow someone else's dreams, follow your own authentic path! Stop saying "I don't know, I don't care and it doesn't matter." It does matter, you have your own preferences, make them known to the world. Your wants and desires are important. Exercise: Make an "I want" list of 30 things your want to do, 30 things you want to have, and 30 things you want to be before you die.

Principle 2: Be Clear Why You're Here: Determine Your Life Purpose: What do I need to do to get on track with my life purpose New life purpose: I'd like to master the dynamic and relationship of the masculine and feminine and spread this knowledge with people through dance.

After hanging out or talking with girl #1, I feel more alive, more complete, more whole, I feel like my mood has been lifted After hanging out with girl #2, my stomach feels empty as if I'm sick and nauseous, I feel like a part of me is missing when she leaves This is a huge distinction that you should not take lightly Maybe your body is telling you something