Spiritual Warrior

I used Viagra twice and it completely desensitized by dick, I couldn't feel a thing. But it works very well if you want to last a while and get hard easily.

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It's important to integrate stage orange before doing serious spiritual work. If you pursue tier two without first becoming wealthy and developing a good work ethic, you're spiritual practices will be half baked. Understand that becoming wealthy is a natural part to a human beings evolution. Pursue money and sex, experience the limitations of both, then transcend into more selfless endeavors.

This is very untrue. Try to extract this limiting belief out of your system. Women are much more attracted to a mans masculine nature, his sense of humor, and his drive. The issue is that you cannot display these traits through a dating app, so a woman has nothing else to go on other than looks, so she picks the most attractive men to match with.

Yes, and it's only 40$

Talking to multiple girls is an emotionally taxing endeavor

That's fair. And you're right, I do not have children.

Interact with as many 9s and 10s that you possibly can. Eventually, you will become numb to their beauty and not be intimidated anymore.

I hate the terminology that you used, but I think I understand the distinction that you're trying to make The "pussy" is like a piece of string, always willing to be swayed and redirected in order to please his girl. The girl is able to play with him like a cat. The "dick" is like a broomstick, solid and stable. He has boundaries, respects his own self worth and his own needs. He cares about his woman deeply but he will not sacrifice these things for her. In conclusion, be a broomstick, not a piece of string.

The best path to take is to get mass experience with lots of girls first. At some point during this journey, you will fall in love with one girl and you'll want to make her your girlfriend. DO NOT game your girlfriend, that is terrible advice. Just love her.

With that attitude, you're right.. you will never find her.

I've been thinking the same thing for years. The best way to deal with pedophiles is with compassion and acceptance and a genuine intention to help. They are human beings just like you and me. As a matter of fact, they are you. And you are them.

Stage yellow The simple act of looking to integrate the lower stages of the spiral is a stage yellow behavior. You are zooming out and then setting your life up accordingly.

I have been thinking recently... Where are we all going? What is the point of this thing called life? We must be going somewhere... The answer to this question lies within the spiral of spiral dynamics. The goal for all of us is to climb up the spiral and fully integrate each stage on the way up. The higher you climb, the closer to God and truth that you get. I want to help my friends move up the spiral. I don't want to manipulate the people within the friend group for my selfish gains, I want to manipulate the entire system, so that they all, individually move up the spiral at their own pace. This requires me to understand where each person is at and what they need to do in order to fully integrate a stage and then transcend it. I will also need to develop myself along the spiral simultaneously so that I can better help them. This plan also requires me to start tapping into stage yellow. In order for me to change a system, I will need to understand how a system works. I am talking about a single human being as a system here, and also the friend group itself as a system, which I will have to understand more clearly in order for there to be real change. I need to first understand where each player is at on the spiral. Do they have any red? Orange? Blue? Green? Any yellow? What does each person embody? What do they enjoy doing? What are they working on or need to work on? (I am not using their real names for privacy) For reference, we are all about 27 / 28 years old right now. Listed below are the main players within the friend group. There is a hierarchy to this. I am going to put Pablo at the top. He hosts the most, is very close with all of the top players of the friend group. I would consider myself his right hand man. (its possible that I am being biased here, I will try to more consciously look at this matter) I am the best at schmoozing with everyone. I am the closest with the people at the bottom of the friend group. He is closest with the people at the top. My role is to make them feel included. His role is to plan and organize things. I trigger stage green empathy and stage orange charisma for this, he triggers stage orange planning and also has the best sense of humor, probably also a stage orange trait. Pablo - Has fully integrated red at a young age. He got into a fight in high school while standing up for what he believed was right, and has had several altercations with authority figures in which he was standing up for what he believed in. I feel safe while he is around. Has integrated blue very nicely as well, he has strong family values, strong loyalty, has self-discipline (although could maybe use a little work), he does tend to engage in "white lies" but he has improved upon this over the years. (White lies show lack of empathy and a willingness to manipulate other people) Has not fully integrated orange yet, he does have a house, a nice car, and seems to be well off. But he is still a penny pincher. This means that he is not living in abundance with his finances. Its as if he has been stagnant financially ever since he bought his house a couple of years ago. Green - Not a big hugger, eye contact is good. Has never done yoga. Does not eat healthy. Does show empathy towards others, but mainly kids, women, and the elderly. Struggles to give out love and empathy towards other men. Summary on Pablo: Seems to have nicely integrated red and blue and is done with those two. He is now stagnant at orange, needs to work that out. Honestly, I think that getting him to dive right into green would be very beneficial to him. Get him to a yoga class. That's the first step. Myself - Red- Has not fully integrated red yet. He is still small, has not worked out enough to build real muscles. Does not always say how he feels so that he will get approval from other people. Blue - Has not fully integrated blue either - Work ethic and self - discipline are not great. Is fairly loyal towards his friends and family. Orange - is not financially independent, is in credit card debt, does not have a house or even an apartment, does not have a serious girlfriend or a nice car. Green - Has integrated green nicely. Was a vegan for 2.5 years. Goes to yoga. Eats healthy food. Has done psychedelics. Gives out a fair amount of hugs. Is triggered by ugly stage red antics, such as animal abuse and racial inequality. Yellow - Has ambitions to integrate yellow's systems thinking, but I'd say does that have any integration of yellow just yet. Summary of myself: Although I have a lot of work to do on the red/blue/orange front. While I am working out those kinks, I will be able to simultaneously show my friends what stage green is all about - I want to get them to engage in these activities, such as hiking, yoga, healthy food, psychedelics, and being more loving towards others. Ant - Red - I know that in his rugby days in college and football days before that, he must have had to trigger red at times. I also know that he would have these crazy drinking and fighting competitions in college at his rugby parties. This screams red to me. I know he has also kicked people out of his parties in college, is also a big dude, definitely worked out for a while in his hay day. He shoved one of our other friends to the ground one time for "crossing a line" - It was controversial, but this shows that he is willing to trigger red and assert his dominance. (this was like 4 years ago) I think he's fully integrated red and transcended it. Blue - Has to wake up every morning at the same time. Has good loyalty and good family values. Orange - does have a house, a nice car, has fixed up the house, makes good money, shows good charisma, Green - Does have a good amount of green. Uses the word love a lot. Asks me if I need a hug sometimes. (I never do that) Is very caring and empathetic to the feelings of his friends, although I do notice that he misses the cues of his girlfriend when she is upset. Has never gone to yoga. Eats somewhat healthy. Drinks kombucha sometimes. Does still drink alcohol a lot. Summary for Ant: He seems very well integrated on all fronts. Am I missing something or is he ready to start moving over to yellow? He actually may have integrated more green than myself. I am unsure how to handle him. Paco - Definitely some red. His fighting history and interest in the UFC and the WWE is evidence of this. Does he have enough red? Yes. Does he have enough blue? No. I think he could use an increase in his self-discipline and work ethic. He is inconsistent and tends to slack off, not wake up on time. He is lazy in soccer, does not get back on defense, which is evidence towards not being a team player. Does he have enough orange? No. He is living with his parents right now and therefore not financially independent. He has orange-like traits in his money grabbing and ego-centric ways. His charisma and strategic thinking could use some work. Does not have very much green. Not that into hugging and is just very eco centered. He cares about his friends and loved ones, but doesn't care about strangers. Not very accepting of the transgender community. Still uses homophobic slurs. Summary - He is way too ego centric. He will have to integrate the more communal and loving stages of blue and green. If I can introduce him to stage green more, I think that will go a long way. Hug more, invite him to yoga, etc. Overall summary: Several other people within the friend group will need to be analyzed, but this is a good start. What can I do right now to help these folks? Get them to go to yoga with you. Or go on a hike, be more loving, flash green in front of them, get your hands on some psychedelics.

This song is a masterpiece It's about a young man growing up in Compton, California, a stage red environment. It's very dangerous. Everyone is struggling just to survive. At the end of the song, there is a skit in which the young man is angry and holding a gun. The wise mother talks him down and points him to the direction of God. The young man calms down and starts to pray. This is the transcendence of red to blue. Skit Son: Fuck, I'm tired of fuckin running... Mother: Young man, come talk to me... Is that what I think that is (looking at the gun in her son's hand)... I know that's not what I think that is. Why are you so angry? See you young men are dying of thirst. Do you know what that means? That means, you need water, holy water. You need to be baptized with the spirit of the lord. Do you want to receive God as your personal savior? Okay repeat after me... Everyone: Lord god, I come to you a sinner. And I humbly repent for my sins. I Believe that Jesus is lord. I believe you raised him from the dead. I will ask that Jesus come into my life to be my lord and savior. I receive Jesus to take control of my life. And that I may live for him from this day forward. Thank you lord Jesus for saving me with your precious blood. In Jesus' name, Amen. Mother: Alright now, remember this day. The start of a new life. Your real life. Think about this from the young mans perspective The young man sees death all around him, his friends and family have died from gang violence, all he knows is survival, survival at all cost. He is capable of love, but his own survival comes first, he has to be selfish in order to survive, very selfish. Now his mother comes to him and offers a different path, the path of God. The young man decides to put his faith into God, he intuits that there is something to this religion thing. It makes him feel good about his situation.

Just because you see the limitations of stage red does not mean that you are ready to transcend it. Again, you can't move around the stages, you must move through them, embrace it, surrender to it.

What the fuck happened to this idea. This was back in March. Im no where close to being ready for the quantum leap, it's funny you thought you were. I still have so much to learn and do and have. I want to master my finances. I want to master my dance. I want to master my teachings. I want to master my relationships. I want to master my sexuality. I will be grinding on these things for the next 10 years. Then I'll be ready to transcend. Don't rush your way to the top. Take in every stage as if you're sipping red wine. Savior it, let it marinate in your mouth.

What is spiral dynamics on a sexual level? Red is overcome with sexual desire. Sex is everything to red. Orange enjoys sex and has broadened its horizons enough to not be overcome by it like red. Green is able to be very feminine but does still enjoy the more animalistic sex. Green starts using sex for its own general wellbeing. Yellow uses sex to improve its health. Turquoise doesn't need sex.

This is total bullshit. I was very selfish in my relationship I had selfish desires I wanted to have more sex I wanted to have sex with other people I wanted my freedom back I want to focus my full attention on my dancing and I saw her as a distraction I had selfless intentions as well I always wanted her to feel protected and safe I wanted her to feel good I wanted her to enjoy herself I wanted her to accomplish anything that she wanted in life I respected her as an individual I cared about her emotions

There is this girl at my work that is the most beautiful creature I have ever met in my life. I cannot act normally around her and I'm constantly thinking about where she is in the room, if she's looking at me, etc... I'm honestly not interested in this girl as a romantic partner, all I want to do is act normally around her so that I feel more comfortable at work. If I am constantly thinking about her looking at me, then I must really care about what she thinks about me. That must be the root issue, but I'm just not sure how to deal with it. Any advice?

I could also frame this as I am integrating my full masculinity as well. Masculinity embodies domination and conquering, being assertive, to be willing to sacrifice, to be willing to face fear in the faith and say bring it the fuck on.

Integrating Stage Red This is not stage orange, I'm not calm. Im mad. Im very passionate. I'm very motivated. I feel like an animal. And I want to feel like an animal. What people don't understand is that this is a normal feeling for a human being to go through. This is what spiral dynamics teaches us. I want to dominate. I want to conquer. And that is natural. I love it right now. I do not care what others think of me. I do not care what others think of me. Engrain this into your brain. My ultimate goal is to fully transcend into tier two, stage yellow. This will happen when I own my own dance studio, then I will have to look at the dance studio as a system. But first, in order to be able to transcend into stage yellow, I have to first exhaust all of my material desires at the lower stages, mainly sex and money for now. Then I will have to check out stage blue again and stage green again to see if I missed anything there. It's about being a fully integrated human being at this point for me.

I'm not lost, this is how a stage red character thinks and at this stage of my life, I want to integrate this stage fully. I've been deprived of sex for 29 years of my life. Now I want to dominate and conquer this issue. A healthy stage red is able to tackles his goals while still abiding by morals and ethics that do not intend on hurting others. Eventually, of course I will transcend this but as of right now, this is the path that I must take.

The feminine wants to have beautiful things, it wants to be happy, it wants beauty, it wants love. The feminine desires to surrender to the masculine. The masculine wants to have things, it wants to hunt, it wants to gather, it wants to fight, it wants to dominate, it wants to conquer. The masculine desires to surrender to the feminine.