Spiritual Warrior

I am posting in here to address that I will be taking a break from spiritual enlightenment work. The truth is that I am having a lot of fun in the dream that I am in right now. I am having fun with my job as a dance instructor, I am having fun chasing women around and trying to get them on dates, I am having fun pursuing money and a better life, I am having fun connecting with people, all of this is a trip, I want to continue dreaming. I have a baseline understanding of what this spiritual work entails and what it is all about. I understand it conceptually. These things are important and I think that they will help me immensely in the long run as I will get sick of pursuing material desires at some point. That is when I'll dive back into the spiritual work, when I'm 35 or 40. Right now, I'm young and trying to make a name for myself, let this shit ride. This dream is fun, have fun in it. I don't want to wake up just yet. Dear future Ben, I will do whatever it takes to master the skills that I need to master early on so that you can focus on higher, lofty ideals when you are ready. I will work hard for you, with integrity and nobility and honesty. Good luck to you and everybody in this life. We all deserve to be happy and to have our dreams actualized. Every. Single. One. Of. Us.

Transcending the Spiral - Journal Entry #13 - Sun Oct 29th '23 : Music Stage Red: Fighting for survival, getting hyped, screaming, growling, hollering Stage Blue: Devotion, hard work, contributing to a higher cause or purpose Stage Orange: Flowey, smooth, bragadocious, charismatic, charming Stage Green: This song symbolizes a person reaching the breaking point of orange, the person has a quarter life crisis, realizes that all of this stuff that he or she has been striving for is all meaningless, he/ she does something radical like shaves his/her own head and is now ready to pursue something else, i.e. stage green, love, compassion, spirituality.

What do you think women in general want out of a long term relationship? Of course personalities and values vary and everyone's unique, but what are some patterns that you've found?

Hi all, I met a girl at a wedding last night, we danced all night and I would pull her to the side every once in a while and chat for a few minutes. I got her number at the end of the night. She is very reserved and quiet and shy. What is a good first date idea? She seems very into me so I know that she will answer positively, I'm just trying to figure out what kind of date would make her the most comfortable. She seems inexperienced and I don't want to overwhelm her. Should I try to go back to a salsa dancing club? This is my specialty, I'm a good dancer. I could also have a buddy come with me and bring a girl. Not sure if that would make her more or less comfortable though? I could go for a coffee date, but I feel like thats taking a step backwards as we were dancing very intimately on the dance floor. A coffee date is very casual, not really what I want to do anyway, so I think this one's out. I could take her to a bar and try to incorporate some hopping around, grab a bit here, grab a drink here, walk around for a little bit, etc. I could combine 1 and 3, take her out for a drink, maybe a bite, walk around a little bit so that we get some alone time and then make our way to meet up with my buddy and dance at the salsa club. I would love some input from any of you, thank you.

Don't you think spirituality makes you a more empathetic person? Which would make you a more compassionate and loving partner?

What is a "normie"?

I struggle to be genuinely happy for other people's success. For example, my best friend just got married and the whole time when they were doing their dance, I was thinking about this other girl that I wanted to ask to dance or how I looked in other people's eyes. I couldn't focus on the happiness that the couple shared with each other. Another example is, this girl is getting a lot of dance lessons and is doing a great job. Meanwhile, I still haven't been given my first lesson, I find it very difficult to be happy for her because I am jealous of her success. I understand conceptually that other people's success is the same as my own, but it sure as hell doesn't feel that way. I am able to feel genuinely happy for other people sometimes but I usually need to be doing well myself. For example, if I am playing well in my basketball game, things are flowing, then I am capable of being genuinely happy for the success of the other players. However, if I am not playing well then I am like fuck everyone else, I only care about myself. I think this is shining a light on how selfish I truly am and how much growing I still need to do. Of course I shouldn't beat myself up, this is just where I'm at, there's nothing wrong with it.

Sounds sick! I don't have any advice just want to wish you best of luck 🙂

This is stage Blue: hard work, discipline, no excuses

@Pav thanks for taking the time to write so much, I enjoyed hearing your perspective and you make some very good points. For me personally, I do still find use in the law of attraction, mainly in the sense that if I continually think "it sucks that i don't have a girlfriend" then I will continuously attract not having a girlfriend because I am focusing on that. If I can flip this pessimistic thought into an optimistic one like "I attract beautiful women into my life" whether through visualizations or affirmations, then my mind will find ways of making this a reality. That is what I get out of the law of attraction, focus on positivity and you will attract positivity, focus on negativity and you will attract negativity. Bottom line is that this works for me and it doesn't work for you. Nothing wrong with that, we are all different.

Leo is taking a break for personal well being reasons. I think he is working on a new course and his book on the side, but nothing will be coming out any time soon. We need to give him some space.

The law of attraction is like the prerequisite that you need to understand and embody prior to taking action. If I were to have negative thoughts (pessimism, anger, helplessness) about a situation that I am in then I will be discouraged from taking action, if I can have positive thoughts about a situation (hopefulness, optimism, positive expectations) then this will spur me into taking more action. I agree that you're recommendation to achieving success will work, but I think you should give the law of attraction some more attention. The universe will also find ways of helping you out if you set your intention on something, life isn't as mechanical as you think. Remember, life is like an infinite mind, everything is connected.

This is a story about a working man that has devoted his life to his family. His sole purpose is to make sure that they survive, to keep the wolves away. This is integrity, this is honor, this is nobility. The workin' man.

You will though. Things will get better. Think back to past hard times, things always get better.

I don't think there's anything wrong with believing that you are meant to be with one person... but that would mean that you'd have to accept the fact that every girl that doesn't work out isn't the one that you're meant to be with. If you can truly accept this, then you wouldn't be attached to the outcome of the relationship with one particular girl. If it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to work out... you lick your wounds and collect as many lessons as you can... and you trudge on.. The warrior has more demons to slay before he finds his princess.

Move on brother. Your next venture will be more fulfilling and exciting than anything she can give you. I've held onto my exes many times, hoping that some day it would work out... It never did. Holding onto an ex is a great way of distracting yourself from pursuing a new person or new venture... because that would be too scary. Find a way to embrace the unknown, become comfortable with it and move into it.. and on top of it.

@Sandhu thank you for sharing, I got value out of this. I like the idea of writing a letter to my mom expressing how I feel and then throwing it away

Might be using you to make someone else on social media feel jealous. I've unfortunately done that one before

If you're thinking about how she will respond then you will give off a needy vibe to her. This is something that I am working on myself, not being needy for the girls approval (or anyone's approval for that matter) while interacting with her. That is much more important than figuring out what the woman wants from you. Figure out how to not be needy, that is the real challenge, that is the root solution.

Nice share, it looks like in 2009, she finally started to see the limitations of green, I wonder if she ever tapped into yellow. From the Wikipedia page: "In an April 2009 interview,[26] Hill pondered what would come next for her: The tree-sit and action since created this very particular role that Julia Butterfly Hill fulfills. And, because I'm a person committed to growth, to looking for where my edge is, that role is now too narrow for me. But it's hard to figure out what's next because there's this entire reality that's been created around this role that I play. And I'm not discounting that role – I've been able to help communities that I love very much. And at the same time, I'm looking for what's next for me, and it's so easy to stay in that role that myself and this world co-created together. But I just know that there's aspects of it that need to shed."

Ron Artest changed his name to Metta World Peace after getting into meditation, zen, and Indian culture. The name change is Ron unconsciously saying that he has seen what he needed to see at stage orange and is now ready to transcend into green.

Looking for some validation that raising Kundalini energy can help with spiritual growth. Thanks.

I think that's fair, the other part of it though is that I'm just trying to connect a little more with this section of the forum. Asking questions is my way of comfortably putting my foot in the door

Fair answer. I plan on using a specific technique by either following a Kriya Yoga book or if I'm lucky an in person Kriya Yoga class. I want to see if other people have had success in doing this before I invest my time.

"There are two energies inside you: Architect (he) and Mystic (she). He needs to plan; he needs how and why of everything. She just watches things unfold; the universe shows her it's most mysterious and magical depths. She can accept him because human planning is just a small part of universal magic. But he feels threatened by her. So, she is asleep inside you." - Shunya