Spiritual Warrior

He lives it by being in touch with his sexuality He understands what it means to be turned on He understands how to communicate his sexual desire for a woman (and not just in a verbal way, but non verbal as well, he knows how to use his body) He understands how to talk to women in a way that makes them feel comfortable He is always receptive to the "yield" and "stop" signs the girl gives him and responds accordingly He leads her in a direction but with conscious awareness of her safety and needs

What is a man that embodies non- creepiness? What are his qualities? What are his values? How does he live his life?

I had a breakthrough last night. When I was driving home from the salsa club, at one point, a thought popped into my head, "I was being a bitch." I was immediately triggered and felt emotional. I said out loud "stop talking to yourself like that," and not in a scolding way, but in a loving and compassionate way, as if I care about this character that I am, as if I actually want to love him, as if I want what's best for him, I want him to have love and be loved "I was being a bitch" has been a constant thought running through my head for years. A vision comes along with it of me failing to do something or being fearful. At the time, I didn't know that it was even possible to recondition my thoughts into ones that are more uplifting and empowering.

Self Love Entry #1 All of this pick up stuff and dating aspirations has gotten me to go down the path of self love. This is a necessary path if I am going to be able to express myself fully and authentically around women and be the best version of myself for them. Right now, I am not taking a hiatus from dating. According to the book The War of Art, you should not take breaks from things. Yes I do need to decompress and shift my mindset, but a break is not what's needed, it more of like a pendulum swinging back towards the other side. I opened myself up towards love, but I opened up too much. I was too invested and head over heels in love with people that I couldn't see straight. I was unhinged, doing wild things, seeking approval and validation constantly. After some mistakes with women, I have realized that I want to swing the pendulum back the other way and not care at all about people's perceptions of me and to be completely non needy from approval of others, especially women. This is what brings me down the path of self love. In order to not need anything from other people, to be completely independent of their approval or of their love for me, I will need to be able to give myself the love.

We're playing in the game now No longer sitting on the bench No one wants to ride the bench We'd rather fall deeper in love with life

Lmao you don't like to sugar coat things, huh?? I do appreciate the bluntness though. And you're right, girls just want to have fun, and I'm too worried about making sure she approves of me that I don't allow myself to just enjoy the experience. I'm needy for her approval, I know this. This hurts to hear.. but with truth comes pain.

@Parallax Mind will you be participating as well?

Creepiness is the showing of sexual interest towards a person in a selfish, manipulative, dishonest way. Men and women are both capable.

@Yimpa appreciate that man, thank you.

I did a speed dating event last night and it was a great experience. Now, I am waiting for my matches to come back, once I get that back, I'll be able to text the girls that came up as a match. How should I approach this? I've talked to these girls for 5 minutes.. Interest has been piqued on both sides and there was some next date talk sprinkled in to the conversations. When I text the girl, should I converse with her through text a little bit first, trying to be funny and playful... or can I just say something like " Hey _____, you seem like a lot of fun. Do you want to get a drink with me on Saturday night and go dancing? I can teach you some next level Zumba moves ;)" (The girl that I was most into learned to dance through Zumba) I'd appreciate any responses, thank you.

@steveee good luck

Number close- getting the girls number Date close- setting up a date Back to your place close- getting the girl to go back to your place or her place You always want to end the interaction with some kind of close that escalates the relationship in some way.

Zumba girl didn't match with me idk what her deal is

@Spiral @The0Self great advice, got two numbers, I had a short, playful text convo and then got straight to asking them " when are you free this week, I'd love to build on our stimulating 5 minute conversation." And boom, two dates set up. The nice thing about speed dating is that if the girl matches with you, then she is clearly interested to some degree. It's also much better than online because she is meeting you in person, therefore much more comfortable with you and more likely to agree to meet up. Wish me luck.

@Zest4Life I just finished watching this through, thank you for sharing! This is exactly what I'm talking about.

Yes, good point. I think what I meant is I got into enlightenment work too early, which is spirituality but an entirely different beast from what you've described above. I will always be striving to be a more loving human being, this is a lifelong endeavor.

I'm probably overly sensitive, but I always find these types of videos disturbing. Like do you really have to insult and bother people for clicks? I'm sure you could do something more creative and artistic with your channel.

Very inspiring, I hope to get there one day!

Damn dude.. very interesting. What is your plan moving forward, will you go all out down the spiritual path or take a step back and pursue material desires such as money, sex, relationships, etc.?

Yes, I like this. Spirituality wil always be a part of my life, I just cant devote all of my time to it right now... I'm having too much fun dreaming

Lmao I love it! We all deserve love.

I'm 28, age range for the event was 25-35.

Self love, he don't love himself, tryna love me ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Oh my, shes a long way from suburban towns Long way, really long way from suburbia

If you are what you say you are, a superstar Then have no fear, the camera's here And the microphones And they wanna know-oh-oh-oh, yeah This song speaks to me because yeah sure, we all want to be superstars, but what is the cost of putting yourself out there? Now there is a spotlight on you, people are watching, and they expect more and more and more from you... This is scary stuff... Be careful what you wish for... And if you really want to be a superstar, be prepared to surrender yourself to love because thats the only thing that you can do.

My mom can't feed me, my boyfriend beats me I have sex for money, the hood don't love me The cops wanna kill me, this nonsense built me And I got noooo place to gooo They bomb my village, they call us killers Took me off they welfare, can't afford they health care My teacher won't teach me, my master beats me And it huuurts meee soooul Yes, life is hard, but its all love, its all beautiful.