Whitney Edwards

Why am I on this forum? Fruitful conversations to add to my knowledge database.

I bought the book "the courage to be disliked."

Some men assume that aggression is a sign of strength. Can you reason with them?

Learning is observation. Observe your spouse, observe your gf, bf, your kids, coworkers. Observe news without judging. Observe society, culture, without judging it. Observe tribalism. Observe belief systems. Observe evil without judging it.

My current spiritual practice is to follow Sadhguru.

What psychedelics are you currently taking?

Woke up early morning. It's December 31st. Happy new year. Feeling a bit apprehensive.

Yes I have been diagnosed with autism and I have sensory sensitivity.

A hot woman can get away with a lot. She can get away with scamming a rich man. It's not like men can't be weak towards hot women. So men get blind in dating too, not just women. It's just the context is different. Women might be emotionally stimulated by a serial killer. Men are sexually stimulated by a hot woman. Men have weaknesses too. That was my point.

Right. And that women might be a criminal and they will still want to sleep with her. So your argument earlier was biased against women. It works both ways. Men also the do the same as women just in a different context, maybe not emotional stimulation but physical and sexual stimulation.

@Leo Gura it's not like men don't get emotionally stimulated by attractive women and men make bad dating choices too. Cmon..

So men sleep with saintly women all the time? Men sleep with toxic women so often not caring about her character or moral values, just because she is charming or hot. What do you have to say about that?

It's not so much about attraction but basic protection. Women like the leadership and protective instinct of the masculine. But in real situations I would actually be a bit worried if my man is involved in a fight. Because I don't want him harmed or physically injured in any way so I will discourage him from getting into fights and probably tell him to de-escalate and leave the scene for the sake of his safety. But I would definitely feel warm inside that he has the instinct to protect me, it would make me feel cared for.

I find a lot of guys struggle with this immensely. They want to be their best ideal masculine self and they are very dissatisfied and disappointed when they can't achieve that. Being oneself is always easy but that doesn't present a challenge and causes a lot of guys to be complacent to the point they might even begin to resent themselves. So I guess learning how to be the ideal masculine is quite important for a lot of men out there.

So what can make a man more masculine other than taking up leadership roles?

This is the absolute truth.

I've noticed that if you open too many tabs at a time, the laptop usually gets slower after a while.

A lot of men can't do it.

Are they powerful because they're evil or are they evil because they're powerful? Who gave them so much power? There's a saying that goes — The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. Much of evil that succeeds in the world is because of public stupidity. But for the general populace, evil has its consequences, they have to go to jail, evil pays no dividend for them, only punishment. Most powerful people who are evil are successful in continuation of their evil only because they have disproportionate amount of power, take the power away and they can do nothing. In a way, we're somewhat responsible for the structure of evil to exist in the world, partly because we don't do much about it, partly because we allow a disproportionate power structure to rule our lives.

I meant that karma will eventually take over. Even if they gain power and wealth by evil and unethical means, sooner or later karma will catch up. The reign of evil doesn't last long. By the way do you know concrete examples of someone who is extremely powerful and wealthy by being evil? I can't think of anyone right now. Don't give me historical examples.

And thank you for being one.

My dad was like that too. He used to always carry something. You have a great dad, cheers.

@MoonLanding thanks for sharing. I'm looking into something like this for 2025.

I like this about men, a part of me also deeply envies this part. So cute. Unbearably cute.