Whitney Edwards

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  1. Advice I gave in the dating section. Try playful teasing. Complimenting. Playful banter. Even teasing. Try getting her attention to make her think a bit more about the conversation. In my case most of my past relationships happened with men giving me subtle hints here and there, begging my attention, acting offended, calling me a pig or something similar, negging (look it up), guilting me, teasing me in quirky ways (like one guy said he wants to open my brain and see inside). Things like that. It made me laugh, feel amused, entertained and often I would end up giving my attention to the guy. He wouldn't make his intentions very clear, just keeping it mysterious and flirty, slightly nudging me to think about him. Guys are more attractive and hot and fun when they keep it mysterious and keep the woman guessing. Don't make it so direct like "I love you"..... Don't come across as desperate, needy and or explicit about sex directly. Romantic extroversion is appreciated by most women, but explicit sexual behavior is a big turn off. Most men get turned down in the conversation because they talk or open about sex directly and generally women feel uncomfortable and weirded by that. We want that part to be mysterious and subtle, not explicit. And just in general come across as someone who has boundaries, integrity and woman-friendly. Then you're good to go.
  2. Try playful teasing. Complimenting. Playful banter. Even teasing. Try getting her attention to make her think a bit more about the conversation. In my case most of my past relationships happened with men giving me subtle hints here and there, begging my attention, acting offended, calling me a pig or something similar, negging (look it up), guilting me, teasing me in quirky ways (like one guy said he wants to open my brain and see inside). Things like that. It made me laugh, feel amused, entertained and often I would end up giving my attention to the guy. He wouldn't make his intentions very clear, just keeping it mysterious and flirty, slightly nudging me to think about him. Guys are more attractive and hot and fun when they keep it mysterious and keep the woman guessing. Don't make it so direct like "I love you"..... Don't come across as desperate, needy and or explicit about sex directly. Romantic extroversion is appreciated by most women, but explicit sexual behavior is a big turn off. Most men get turned down in the conversation because they talk or open about sex directly and generally women feel uncomfortable and weirded by that. We want that part to be mysterious and subtle, not explicit. And just in general come across as someone who has boundaries, integrity and woman-friendly. Then you're good to go.
  3. In Tantra the word for penis is Vajra a Sanskrit word meaning both Thunderbolt and Diamond. The female equivalent is called yoni.
  4. Ok
  5. Yea.
  6. Do you sometimes think from your heart too?
  7. I want to feel more comfortable and confident around men. I usually feel a bit scared of men. Also because my past experiences and relationships with men were dangerous and complicated. So I felt subdued and dominated by men all my life. This definitely caused me to fear men most of my life. But I don't want to think that all men are dangerous. That's a stereotype. I want to feel safe around men generally. My past with men is gone. I am married now to a man who makes me feel safe. Although my past still haunts me. At the same time if a man acts like a jerk with me and causes me trouble, it's not my fault. I just can't feel safe in that situation. This is not my responsibility. I simply have to remove myself from that situation. I am lucky that I have a partner who makes me feel safe. My past boyfriends were terrible. It's not like women don't have issues with dating. They do. Their issues are quite different from those of men. That's the only difference. I was cheated on in a past relationship and that's a terrible thing to deal with. Nevertheless I dealt with everything with absolute grace and to the best of my ability. I sometimes wonder about my own psyche as a woman. I think women can be very forgiving. That's why they get into relationships with toxic men.
  8. I'm a woman and I don't understand(fully) the difference between pickup and game. Would be nice if some man explained it to me directly in words. I understand a little bit about pickup, although it's none of my business, but at least I try to. So far my understanding is (correct me if I'm wrong) — Reasons why men do pickup To get a girlfriend To have a stable relationship To get better with people in general To be able to get casual sex, hookup To be able to please women To get desirable women To enjoy female attention and validation To be charming to women To enjoy the companionship of women To master female psychology To understand women better To get a better woman/person To have a healthy marriage To get a long term relationship or LTR To get a friends with benefits or FWB To master dating To find a more compatible partner to prevent compatibility issues in the future To screen women To develop confidence around women To develop social skills in general To develop social confidence To be better than other men in social environment For ego reasons To screen for a healthy potential partner To avoid dating traps and potential relationship issues. Thats all I can think of off the top of my head right now. ChatGPT Game vs pickup In the context of dating or relationships, "game" and "pickup" have different connotations, even though they both deal with attracting romantic or sexual partners. Here's a breakdown: Game • Definition: Refers to the overall skills, confidence, and social ability someone has to connect with and attract others. • Focus: Building rapport, understanding social dynamics, and developing an authentic or charismatic personality. • Long-term: It often emphasizes improving oneself holistically (appearance, communication, mindset) to naturally attract others. • Example: Being able to hold a great conversation, read someone's body language, and make a genuine connection. Pickup • Definition: A more specific and often tactical approach to meeting and attracting someone, typically for short-term encounters. • Focus: Using specific techniques or lines to create attraction quickly. • Short-term: Often associated with one-night stands or casual flings, sometimes criticized for being manipulative. • Example: Using pre-rehearsed lines or routines to spark interest and escalate interaction. Key Difference: "Game" is broader and can be applied to different contexts, including long-term relationships, while "pickup" is narrower and often aimed at quick success. Okay this is the defintion of pickup I gathered from the internet - A "cold approach" is when you initiate contact with someone you don't know at all, with the goal of starting a conversation or building a relationship, typically in a social setting like a public place or party, where there's no prior connection or familiarity between the two people; essentially, approaching a complete stranger. So pickup is approach. And game is building charisma. In short.
  9. Love and romance after all is all about needs and happiness and companionship. We feel lonely and we feel like we want someone. Of course there are deeper survival and biological drives and instincts that make us crave deep relationships, emotional needs as well. Everyone wants a family because family is where we originate from. I don't think this can be uprooted from our system. It's quite deep.
  10. The core problem is that most men and women are hard wired biologically. This is their brain wired since thousands and thousands of years. The way a man thinks, he can't be blamed for it. Men traditionally viewed women as a resource for reproduction and pleasure. I mean when a man thinks about a woman, he is fundamentally aroused by her. It will be highly unfair to tell a man to forget this, he just can't. He gets horny, not on purpose, it's his biological desire, function and inclination. He simply cannot skip or change it. He gets frustrated when his sexual needs are not met in a healthy way and or if he cannot find the right kind of woman for himself. Also men (in an evolutionarily sense) wanted to expand their progeny so they would have sex with multiple women. This was a natural historical instinct in men. They have to control their own masculine instincts these days to remain faithful to their wives. Although it must be a struggle to be that way. It requires too much integrity on a man's part to say no to sex or turn down a woman especially if she is attractive in his eyes. So this is essentially a man's tribalism. He can develop but such development puts a lot of pressure on his own biological wiring and a lot of men simply can't do that. It's like telling a man to act more feminine. He will simply feel handicapped. And how men view women is not entirely wrong either although it may appear sexist in the modern context. Like Leo said people are losing basic wisdom in the post modern era where they have even forgotten who a woman is. How men viewed women historically and traditionally was highly beneficial for social development, it was necessary for men to be horny and have sex with maximum number of women because that would mean the best chance at fertility and survival of the population. So it's tribal for sure, but it's logical too.
  11. Generally a high value man doesn't need to be nice in my opinion. They aren't actually. Because women are attracted to them just naturally. They have many options. They want to have the comfort of women wanting and liking them. If I were a man and a high value one, it would be against my ego to approach women. I would look down on it. I would want women to flirt with me, I would want them to be begging my validation and in fact I would be less interested in women in general. I just imagine it that way. There's a euphoria that comes with a lot of money and fame in life. You automatically feel full of yourself, it's difficult to resist the high that comes from fame and money. I would want a woman who is very playful and makes me feel like a friend, a companion and I would simply flirt with other women for the sake of fidelity. It sounds weird but that's how I imagine myself in the shoes of a high value man (someone with money, fame, integrity, looks and success). Now when I think from the above perspective, men chasing or approaching women sounds so pathetic. Sorry guys.
  12. When my peers are successful in their careers, it makes me jealous. I don't feel inspired by them. Rather it discourages me that I'm not as successful as them. Sure I would want career success just like them but that would mean a ton of hard work that I can't do. I don't want to feel like a failure. I want a middle path. Where I can be happy with whatever little money I make.
  13. Yea I'll use that. Thanks.
  14. I'm not going to engage much on the forum. It's unnecessarily confrontational and too much debatey. It's not like I haven't known already. Shame on me. Starting new year I should also login and logout of the forum sometimes. https://i.imgflip.com/9facdc.gif https://i.imgflip.com/9fajeo.gif https://i.imgflip.com/9famdc.gif https://i.imgflip.com/9fambm.gif https://i.imgflip.com/9fam7z.gif https://i.imgflip.com/9faqjs.gif
  15. It's not that simple. People who are successful appear happier. Why would they chase success otherwise? Also more success means more money and that translates to a better life overall. Who doesn't want that? I respect your opinion but I disagree. Success is the fruit of hard work. I don't see them as miserable people. I see them gloating and celebrating their success online and offline. And I feel like a failure when they do it. It might feel like a chase or a hustle or a rat race. But if they were truly not deriving anything from it, they wouldn't do it in the first place.
  16. We are socially conditioned to always look beautiful by men. This is unnecessary social pressure that many women fall victim to. Then they get plastic surgeries and spend loads of money to look good to impress men. Stop. My message to such women is that you should look beyond your own beauty please. A woman's worth extends far beyond her appearance. In a world obsessed with filters and unrealistic standards, it's easy to get caught up in the idea that a woman's value is tied to her physical appearance. But the truth is, beauty is so much more than just skin deep.True beauty radiates from within. It's about confidence. Believing in yourself and your abilities, flaws and all. True beauty radiates from kindness.Having a compassionate heart and treating others with respect. True beauty radiates from strength. Overcoming challenges and standing up for what you believe in. True beauty radiates from intelligence. Cultivating curiosity and a thirst for knowledge. Your passion makes you truly beautiful. Pursuing your dreams with enthusiasm and dedication. These qualities shine brighter than any makeup or perfectly curated Instagram feed. They make you unique, inspiring, and truly beautiful. So, let's celebrate the women who are changing the world with their intelligence, their strength, and their unwavering spirit. Let's redefine beauty as something that goes beyond the superficial and embraces the incredible power within each and every woman. Beauty standards don't matter, they were created by men. Focus on inner beauty and reject harmful stereotypes. Be liberated as a woman.
  17. When I read your posts, I find you extremely intelligent. You have high self awareness and understanding. If someone doesn't appreciate it, it's really their own loss. It's great that you are now able to comfortably communicate. I appreciate that about your partner as well that he supports you. Relationships are about creating that unique beauty through mutual understanding and growth. That fine balance. I resonate so much with your experience, I grew up with an argumentative mother and a silent father and it honed in me that I should always keep my mouth shut and not argue too much. I saw the distress of my dad. So that obviously impacted my dating life too. In hindsight I was probably dating the wrong guy because I don't like drama, although I can argue, but drama adds a lot of stress to my life and I have autism on top of that, so it can get overwhelming for me to deal with someone who is dancing all around the place. I'm grateful and happy with my current partner, no fights at all and zero drama. It's the opposite image of my chaotic childhood and I feel very peaceful and joyous. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I think Teal has a video on childhood and dating patterns. I can't find it. But I found this.
  18. The link didn't take me to your channel. I searched for lions heart, it didn't show up. Can you post a video from your channel so I can see it.
  19. I want to share a bit of my own experience which some of you might find absurd. I often feel conflicted inside because of this experience. This is about my ex. He was initially attracted to me. Within a few months of the relationship he said that he had lost attraction for me. He was attracted to this girl online. He used to chat with her a lot. He said that I was more beautiful than her but she was more exciting to him. He told me that he is attracted to women who love drama and who are spicy. He told me that I wasn't spicy enough for him, that i was a plain Jane in comparison to the woman he was attracted to online. He liked her because she would be dramatic, start fights and make him chase her. She would play hard to get and he liked it about her. He told me that he doesn't like the fact that I'm always cool and never start a fight, I don't give him the chase. I felt humiliated and I dumped him. He also told me that I was an exceptionally good woman but he would have liked me more if I had the spicy personality of that woman he was attracted to. I feel very confused about men after this. I'm not sure if this is an isolated experience. I always thought that men are attracted to women who are straightforward, no drama and maintain a cool temperament. They say they don't like "drama" woman and they hate women who bring that energy. They also say they want a good woman. And they often say they don't like a woman who plays hard to get. I think in my situation, he didn't really love me or like me. He probably likes the chase more than the woman. It's like the more she is "unattainable" the more he is attracted to her. In my relationship with him, he got progressively more hateful and abusive and he would start fights, act like a jerk and provoke me for nothing. It's like he loved the stimulation of drama, fighting, tension, conflict. I finally found my wholesome man who loves and appreciates me being peaceful with him. To this day that experience with my ex has left me confused about men. Men say women are attracted to bad boys. Is my experience the male version of it? Maybe even men are attracted to toxic women, they probably find good women boring no matter how beautiful she might be. At least that's the gist I got from that experience. Or maybe it was a toxic dating experience. And I shouldn't base men off of that experience.
  20. I felt shy and sexually deeply repressed when I joined this forum in March 2023. I felt awkward almost scared to enter a male dominated forum like this. I remember having a formidable presence. How could a shy girl like me exist on here? It was merely impossible in my mind. I decided to take up a male username of Buck Edwards and somehow survive on this forum as a man and pretend to be a man. I thought this would be a safer Idea. I wouldn't get much attention or lousy messages from men leering at me. Neither would I have to constantly defend my position as a woman. It felt freeing. It felt I could do this. I did well and thrived for over a year. It felt non threatening. Over time I got tired of role playing as a man and it didn't suit me. I was fed up. I couldn't keep up the facade anymore. I just love being a woman and wouldn't want otherwise. My deepest feelings couldn't have been expressed role playing as a man. So I gave up. My husband was by my side. I felt hopeful and confident. That day I stopped that facade and came to my normal self. Yes it was an identity crisis I was battling with.. It was hard on me. I had my insecurities as a woman. I felt like I would get a torrent of messages from men. I have felt shy all my life. Even boarding a bus full of men frightens me. I can feel awkward around men. It's just how I feel and have been raised. I mostly grew up around females. My dad was the only male member in my family. My dad was a sturdy figure for me. Finally in July I felt liberated. My male pseudo name I adopted for this forum is stuck and that's alright. My name is Whitney.
  21. Yesterday I watched this video by Teal Swan. I must say she has exceptional insights on woman's behavior and psyche and thank God she exists. The video dispels a lot of myths about beautiful women and I relate to it a 100%. Most insightful video I saw so far. A lot of these myths are actually created and spread by men, one such example is your post. Maybe you should watch this video too. Give it a try if you care.
  22. This reminds of the quote: "You won’t find a good wife at a bar or club, but in libraries and universities“ Or men want a woman who is hot and attractive like a porn star but faithful as a good wife. Madonna whore complex that a lot of men suffer from where they begin to pigeonhole women a bit too much. Just like a woman cannot get a great loving husband and a bad boy wrapped into one, a man cannot get everything he wants in a woman. You want a woman that twerks like a porn star but is working in wall Street and has the solemness of a librarian. I mean you want everything in a woman. That's impossible. I have seen women who are intelligent, in academia and very well mannered but they aren't highly sexually attractive, they don't drink at a bar. I mean life can't be that romantic. You men fantasize too much. Maybe Hollywood corrupted you a bit. I blame pop culture for this.
  23. @trenton I think you should share a lot, a lot, a lot as long as you are anonymous This is your only opportunity to grow. Trust me.