Buck Edwards

I see tendencies of depression here. Mood fluctuations which are quite common in situations of a narcissistic parent. You have anger issues to work on. Maybe punch a pillow next time you get violent thoughts.

That was a thorough explanation. It's exemplary that just a few sentences was all that was needed to decode the entire context.

Here's news. Twitter replaces blue bird logo with doge meme. And we've officially entered the Apocalypse.

Wouldn't it be extreme to say that people would be ostracized for it?

Autism is often the inability to understand social cues and social dynamics. With narcissism, there's a deliberate attempt to put oneself on the pedestal to get a higher reward. Autism can cause an individual to sometimes say mindless things yet it's not a deliberate attempt and is often mixed up with narcissism.

I could've never been more eloquent than you.

Indirectly it is. It's a form of a push. It's positive when the person is being supported in their efforts, when they're pushed to achieve what they think is desirable and negative motivation when they're being disciplined, reprimanded so that they feel stressed enough to actually do something about the problem. Whether or not if any of these systems are going to be fully effective depends entirely on the way it's perceived and received by the person receiving the motivation.

Fat shaming is sometimes considered an example of negative motivation.

Sexuality should not have anything to do with this.

Negative motivation doesn't work for everyone.

I often use AI for ideas and creativity but then I infuse my own stuff into it. So it's both. I try not to rely completely on AI. Yet it's a great tool. Helps me work harder and smarter. I'm going to have a disclosure in my posts something along the lines of - - - disclosure - partially generated AI content. If that's okay? Asking in advance to mods.

The ability to control a situation and turn it in your favor. Very little power can make you oppressed. Too much power can make you corrupt. A healthy balance is where power has been used functionally for both self gain and bettering of the environment.

Tiktok is capable of doing massive harm especially to teens, the influence is stronger than a drug. It has great potential in terms of income, but it has the potential to radicalize people. Although the same could be said for literally any social media out there. There can be safer alternatives.

You've to understand that survival is primarily rooted in selfishness. It simply couldn't be otherwise. The reason why you think selfishness is brutal is partially because your shadow is busy moralizing human virtues. If you think that vices and bad habits are equally a part of the human existence, you won't have such a hard time embracing the bad parts of it. Selfishness on an absolute plane is indeed harmful, no doubt. But you have to think of it from a relative perspective. We aren't spiritual creatures floating through space. We've needs too. Be careful to not demonize these needs, they serve a purpose. Try being slightly selfish. And don't look it like that. Think of it as self care. Nothing wrong if you try fulfilling yourself(not in a glutinous way).

The only substance which can never be meaningless is LSD!

I don't like the idea of local storage because I never know when a device might blow up. So for me, it's cloud storage all the way. One Note is cumbersome with it's folder style, very 1990ish. Obsidian is way too overloaded with structures. I like Evernote.

I read this quote once- ”Zen is not effort. Effort is tension, effort is work, effort is to achieve something. Zen is not something to achieve. You are already that. Just relax, relax so deeply that you become a revelation to yourself.”

Wouldn't it be like a solipsistic resonance when we completely detach from something and compound on nihilistic virtues and would this look like another illusion or game we're playing? What's the end game in the pursuit of such bliss?

A few months ago when I first started getting serious about personal development, I did some emotional release exercises, I identified my no.1 feeling as ‘appreciated’. A little further down the line, I started recognizing my need to move away from approval seeking (surely a necessary move for self-esteem, self-reliance, and personal development in general). I’ve been aware of the dissonance between these two goals for a while, but am now ready to tackle it. I feel that building myself up so that I don’t rely on validation by others is a hugely positive and important thing. However, I’m a little reticent to abandon my goal of seeking it as I’ve identified it as the time when I am most happy in life. There are two strands of my thinking here: If the alternative to external validation is self-validation, I suppose the idea is that with enough self-esteem you can match or even trump the happiness you get from feeling valued by friends and family, with the added benefit of complete control. I have pretty healthy self-esteem (although it’s got its defects, I’m ironing out the creases), but it’s hard to imagine ever not getting a boost when I feel appreciated. Someone abandoning approval seeking doesn’t need to reject socially-gained positive emotions, they just don’t actively seek it. This logic suggests that I should keep an open heart to enjoy the pleasures of social appreciation, but take it off my list and abandon the chase for it. However, keeping proactive in my pursuit of it isn’t just about behaving needily/ neurotically in my social life - there are subtler ways of engineering my life to feel appreciated more, like making sure I have lots of time for socializing. But I guess this is still approval seeking? This raises the question: if you abandon approval seeking entirely, why would you socialize at all? Is it as simple as a wants vs needs attitude, or does being excessively self-reliant risk missing out on some forms of happiness?

Don't you think it's escaping reality? I'm not saying that detaching from reality doesn't have it's benefits. But you do it in a loving manner or you do it in a nihilistic way, both lead to the same conclusion. How about embracing reality?

Your perspective on pick up should be the one that focuses on growth. It improves your confidence naturally.