Buck Edwards

Is there something that bothers you?

I really don't know how to answer that one.

Hey I actually tried all that but my problems have changed ironically. I reduced my sleep to 3 hours through some of Sadhguru's practices and meditations. Now I don't understand how to increase it because I want more sleep now. I want to extend it to 6 hours on a minimum.. So please guide me how I can achieve that. Thanks.

@Razard86 I "has" been missing you. Make some posts man.

Share some of your psychedelic experiences.

A place can be so nice and comfy without it being green or blue. For example a cabin in the woods.

@Chives99 fighting them is not the solution. You simply have to not have them around. They always want something to hold on to.

What do you mean by that?

They make me groggy. And weight issues.

Why would it traumatize?

Who would you describe as mentally ill? What would constitute a mentally ill person in your eyes? I'm still working on this definition.

This is like the vegan edition. I don't kill plants.

Hey, which books are we referring to?

Cool. Even if I agree to disagree, it seems to be a problem of semantics, but also general attitudes. What is mentally ill to me might not be mentally ill to someone else. There are broader agreements but the finer details is where most people disagree. To me, a lot of behaviors including sociopathy can be categorized as "mentally ill behaviors" although the specific person born with such traits might not be distinctly mentally ill. I'd consider someone mentally ill if they have little control over emotions, act impulsively, lack cognition of circumstances and consequences of their actions, instability in behavior, patterns of behavior that are generally not found in the average population, presence of coping mechanisms, inability to adjust to normal social life, inability to function normally like the average population, sleep issues, dysregulation, excessive preoccupation and fragility.

Maybe he meant the OP. Just kidding.

So a sociopath is not mentally ill in your eyes? Also a couple of questions for ya- contemplate and answer each. How do you exactly know they're conscious, the one who is lying? How do you know they're calculating? What if they're delusional or exhibiting personality changes? A personality disorder is a mental illness as per dsm manuals!!!! What do you think? Lying is a co-morbid condition of several mental disorders too? I don't expect an urgent answer. Take your time.

It's your fault. You should have pre-arranged everything before the trip. Should have asked her if she was willing to pay right from the get go. Plan trips well in advance with people who you really trust will pay their shares. I never randomly plan trips with friends because I know they won't pay up as that has happened several times before even on petty stuff like weekend dinners. It was irresponsible on your side to trust random people and invite them over unless you're throwing a party and ready to bear all expenses upfront. This is a situation of personal responsibility, own it and don't repeat it.

I'm curious, what makes you not want to block her, despite her being so toxic to you. I'd be stressed as hell if someone sent me a barrage of texts and 30 emojis in a row. Most people block once you receive the 5th text in a row. There's simply no time or patience to handle that. It seems like you are needy for this girl's attention and live off of it. If you really felt threatened, you would have blocked her already. It's a toxic dynamic and there's nothing to gain. Except maybe just endless arguments and provoking each other.

Welcome Razard.

What is this (that you wanna say) regarding?

@charlie cho she probably has issues. You want a mad girlfriend who is hot? On you bro. Relationships need nurturing. She is not compatible with you since her behavior is obviously frustrating you. Find someone who you get along with. Someone who isn't being a headache. You can find girls who are average in looks yet decent in character and personality. Don't put up with low standards in behavior.

I don't know the big deal. If you don't like weird people just block them. It doesn't have to be extremely abusive or bad. People routinely block others for the simplest excuses. You can't find other girls who are cute, funny and never abnormal? I'm sure there are plenty. You don't need big reasons to drop a person. Your own boundaries. And how you manage them. Softer or stronger is on you. She'll probably find someone just as weird as her. You can move on.

Explain them that you won't be taking it. Tell them to explain their behavior. If nothing pans out, then block. This is an interpersonal issue, something that a forum cannot help you with, since we don't know that person, that person isn't here talking to us. Chances are if that person is here watching and responding to what you are writing, they would probably explain everything in a different way. It's he said she said type of a thing. There is nobody to defend her side of the story, the story itself is inadequate since you haven't said a single word about your part of the conversation which sets off as a red flag of narcissistic behavior as in most cases of narcissism, typical one sided story telling and twisting narrative and context and framing the other person as terrible is quite prevalent in observation. I'm getting similar vibes here. "she is psychotic." yet enough explanations weren't provided as to what might have set off this so called "psychotic person" who was apparently perfectly normal in real life. Doesn't that look suspicious already?

The context is important here. Why would you write that to me, unless I did something or said something to you that wasn't appropriate in the first place? I don't believe people who are usually normal just randomly go around giving death threats for nothing. There has to be a back and forth. Although death threats is a real bad thing, you've no idea how many times I have received those even casually from friends. But it's mostly for shits and giggles. I have had people tell me they will choke me to death. Because they were really angry in the moment. They will never actually do that. People generally say attention seeking things to get a reaction out of you, it's immature but it works. It's also their gullibility and vulnerability. Someone might not be in their best mental states when they say that and you could be a bit forgiving. Someone could be on drugs. Someone could be goofing around. Someone could be drunk. Give them space to apologize or make good out of something. Be chill in the moment but be careful. If someone writes like that to me, I would have a full conversation to see what went wrong and why they are angry/offended. I would explain them that's not an appropriate thing to say. I would have patience. I would let them know that I'm taking it seriously if they really mean it and I would tell them that it's a deal breaker and they can't say that again. I'd wait for them to take back what was said, change or apologize. I'd want to know their real intent and if it was just in words. If they continue the same behavior despite warnings, I'd discontinue the relationship as it borders on abusive and some psych issues. But If they are having a turnaround and want to work on their immaturity, then I would be willing to support them. Most often such threats aren't real and just attention seeking behavior underneath the veneer. On the flip side, if a person doesn't see their behavior as bad, never apologizes and fully mean what they say, then I would back the fuck off and be ready to call the cops on them or let them know that I would be filing restraining orders and block that person after getting to know their identity credentials. It's easy. Just block if you know their behavior is serious and unwarranted. If it's a temporary outburst, tell them to explain it. This depends on your own personal boundaries and what's tolerable to you. But context is always relative.

Yea that's weird, I get it. You could have laughed it off. Play it off. I'd do the same, in fact I already have on multiple occasions. It's no big deal. People have said the weirdest things to me directly and I have played along. It's a social skill. Not everyone you just meet is a psychopath. She ain't psychotic. She probably isn't. It seems you judge people too prematurely. The snowflake thing sort of.