Buck Edwards

When you're trying to explain a rat to your Buddhist

I'm always drawn to other beautiful things in life. Adventure, travel, reading, meeting people of different places, not so mundane stuff. Exploring, diving, spending time in nature. I've found that dating consumes significant time and is very time draining activity unless you're already with someone who you really consider a jewel, someone who is with you all along or has been your foundation rock The idea of dating, pickup, approach, dating sites, it doesn't look appealing to me. Seems like a delusional way of living and wasting time. I'm sure there's a lot to learn. But still. It looks like a high energy chase. Always giving it so much of your energy and time and then ending up feeling like it all went to shit. I mean it builds you socially. Where do you go next from there? I'm an introvert so maybe I feel it doesn't fulfill me. Yet I have tried being extremely social and the yield in terms of growth was good enough yet at some point I had to cut myself off of it because it got satured and I felt I wasn't getting anything new out of the same old grind. The same attitude, the same mindset, the same kind of people you run into. Nothing extra ordinary. Now for someone who is completely socially isolated this can work and be a boon. But once you've been out there and tasted the flavor of it, it gets old and you realize it's never going to be anything beyond mere entertainment and daily maundering. You gotta save some time before you waste anymore. And then I see other people constantly talk about their dating plans etc and it takes me back to the drawing board and I'm left wondering if I'm odd or a misfit sort that I don't like it want it as much as others do. What's the mystery? Is it only social pressure we endlessly succumb to? Is it craving we cannot put a lid on? Is it something so essential we cannot live without? I see it as a waste of time, time I could invest in developing myself and building my own body and mind and just enjoying the moments as they come. I'm not in a dilemma. But I don't want ANOTHER FICKING TRAP Thanks.

I won't agree with him wholesale but he has some nuggets like - expressing yourself without wanting social validation. He is a mixed bag - some good things and some shady shit. Had it not been for the wave of scandals rocking his boat, he would have made it really far, motivational speaker deals and probably a TV career or book deals. He was clearly very successful. He squandered his chances by deciding to compromise on illegal shit. He has an empathetic approach to his audience, less substance, more gimmicky but self assuring, this is great for those who looking for a short term dose of encouragement. I understand his appeal. It will work for traumatized people who think nobody cares about them. He is virtually their superman comfort guide. For an exceptionally tough person, his charm is unflattering and at best superficial.

Funny indeed.

That's why I called him feminine. His posture was feminine. He doesn't realize a dick is a dick at the end of the day. Most men replied woman woman woman. It's obvious. No heterosexual man would want to date a trans no matter how hot, it wouldn't make sense, he doesn't realize what he is talking, Megan fox with a dick is still a dick. That man made a perfect point, his advice regarding motivation is good, his advice regarding dating is immature at best.

Life is much cooler if you stop thinking about masculinity. Just go with the tide.

I want a solid connection. That's why I never engaged in weekly flings. I had an LTR some while ago that ate a lot of time and drained me. You have to put in a lot to keep the opposite gender happy. I came out of it feeling frustrated and not happy at all wasting time like that. All the fighting and highs and lows not worth it. The problem is I always look for long term. No hook ups. And even a solid relationship can fizzle and get lack luster or just not be worth it when the fighting phase begins. If it's not leading to a point of family making and a stable partner, it's not worth it just chasing and chasing and chasing happiness. A relationship maintenance consumes a humongous amount of time. The pressure is too much. I'm better off doing spiritual work.

I think there are more respectful ways to respond. I'm just being pleasant the way ive been taught.

Was I pleasing anyone? Who did I please exactly?

Leo appears quite masculine tbh. I don't know which parts appear feminine In fact Leo is quite blunt. I wonder if Leo is more masculine than Andrew Tate. Andrew Tate is sometimes feminine. He doesn't insult people. He is mostly polite. Leo can be quite downright and abrasive but whip you back to loving him. He appears non chalant but that's probably the most masculine trait of all. I wonder if there's a particular episode in which Leo appeared feminine. I guess not.

That made a shit load of practical sense. Thanks a ton.

I wasn't talking about manipulation.. God forbid if I take the name of Connor Murphy on this forum. But you need someone, especially for teenagers to look up to someone who tells you to toughen it out. In that sense, Connor Murphy is a good example if you remove the mental breakdown part from his videos. You can have charisma without manipulation or exploitation. Getting more money is not easy. And if you are not pushing yourself harder, you'll probably always remain poor like me. Would you want that for teenagers? Somewhere you find a balance between wanting to be your higher self but also catering to materialistic values necessary for survival. Getting it through manipulation is obviously wrong. But a psychopath can still teach you tips and tricks to effortlessly bold and effective in getting money through the system which are just usual tricks. It can be called being strategic, not necessarily manipulative. People who have been in the hustle of making money know it better. This is where you integrate Stage Red. You don't have to be a sinner for it. Just be well prepared and rounded Connor Murphy is a lighter version of Tate.

I think you could say Tate does teach ambition and some positive stage red values.

But it can measurably improve a person's life like @StarStruck said. Not ultimate success. Yet an improvement is still a satisfaction.

I didn't notice at all. What is it you said.

I guess what you mean is be savage, ruthless, etc. Cultivate tough love ruthlessness to life. I think it falls under the paradigm of mastery, skill set and having the Go Getter mentality. And not worry about social rules as it hinders masculinity and keeps you feeling you can't do things. This is more about David Goggins sort of stuff.

Can you discuss how we are supposed to integrate dark values? I still didn't get your idea and can you elaborate on how Tate helped you beat depression? I'm not understanding this integration of dark values to achieve mastery.

Are you talking about someone like Robinhood when you say integrating the dark values?

But Tate did exactly opposite of that. He did everything to suit his own ego and power.

And how are you gonna integrate it for starters?

This is true unfortunately yet this is only true to the psychopath. To an average teenager who is a "I wanna be tate so bad," if he decides to sell drugs for money and join a gang, he will be in enormous trouble, a nightmare in prison, losing his family and his entire life turned upside down and he might suicide not being able to handle it, he will lose his mind. To the average Joe, the machinations of a psychopath is like a child playing with acid, he will hurt himself really badly and not have the mental in-affectedness or psychopathic aptitude to deal with the loss and brutality. That's where Tate's line of thinking gets into the snakepit territory, good only for Tate, nightmare for others.

What do you think you're going to do with that dark shadow? You can weaponize dark values to your advantage. But it can be an a subtle invitation to the demons. You might not have experienced the paranormal, but this is possible, if you play with fire, then it engulfs your house at some point. Darkness looks cute in fantasy villain books. In real life it's not easy to be this dark 007 and not mess it up badly. You literally become a portal to the underworld. This energy is highly inflammable. Only to be dealt with utmost responsibility and maturity. One wrong move and the demon will attach to you to make you do more wrong things and then it's the depths of suffering unimaginable.

Tate is a perfect example of-when success comes to a pure mind, it turns it to gold. When success comes to a corrupt mind, it turns it to dust.

Tate is not a good example to emulate. His success is not possible to replicate for most people so you can say he got lucky. Such people become traps. People want to be them but never become like them. As a result they waste their time chasing empty dreams and losing sight of practical achievable goals. Some folks are inspired by Tate to get out of bed. Haha. I get that. Do you really need Tate to motivate you when there are other coaches and guides and sports personalities, motivational speakers who can do the same. Why Tate? Here is the crux. Tate appeals to masses of people who have a certain shadow in them, who think like him. They want someone relatable. Others are too sophisticated to be relatable. What are the consequences? Well. If it's not visible yet, to begin with, you could find yourself in a puddle of gigantic trouble if the circumstances of Tate were replicated, he has money, fame, lawyers, his immorality might not be a big thorn, this cannot be an ideal path for most, both socially and conscience-wise. Because either of them will get to you first. You would end up spending decades in prison, he is quite privileged, literally every famous person is obviously. That's why emulating Tate is more of a trap and less of a gift. He is an illusion that will either stay an illusion, or disappear into nothingness in a fraction of time. Only future will tell. Till then it's best to follow someone who is risk free and conscience friendly.

Try not to be weird. Keep it simple. Tiktok is full of weird shit, forget women, even teens don't wanna watch that, it's just 3rd grade rubbish. Starting a conversation on Tiktok is immature. Find something more interesting and mind blowing. Talk about your achievements. Play guitar. Show skillz. Girls love that. Be authentic. Nothing beats authenticity any day any age.