Buck Edwards

What is this (that you wanna say) regarding?

@charlie cho she probably has issues. You want a mad girlfriend who is hot? On you bro. Relationships need nurturing. She is not compatible with you since her behavior is obviously frustrating you. Find someone who you get along with. Someone who isn't being a headache. You can find girls who are average in looks yet decent in character and personality. Don't put up with low standards in behavior.

I don't know the big deal. If you don't like weird people just block them. It doesn't have to be extremely abusive or bad. People routinely block others for the simplest excuses. You can't find other girls who are cute, funny and never abnormal? I'm sure there are plenty. You don't need big reasons to drop a person. Your own boundaries. And how you manage them. Softer or stronger is on you. She'll probably find someone just as weird as her. You can move on.

Explain them that you won't be taking it. Tell them to explain their behavior. If nothing pans out, then block. This is an interpersonal issue, something that a forum cannot help you with, since we don't know that person, that person isn't here talking to us. Chances are if that person is here watching and responding to what you are writing, they would probably explain everything in a different way. It's he said she said type of a thing. There is nobody to defend her side of the story, the story itself is inadequate since you haven't said a single word about your part of the conversation which sets off as a red flag of narcissistic behavior as in most cases of narcissism, typical one sided story telling and twisting narrative and context and framing the other person as terrible is quite prevalent in observation. I'm getting similar vibes here. "she is psychotic." yet enough explanations weren't provided as to what might have set off this so called "psychotic person" who was apparently perfectly normal in real life. Doesn't that look suspicious already?

The context is important here. Why would you write that to me, unless I did something or said something to you that wasn't appropriate in the first place? I don't believe people who are usually normal just randomly go around giving death threats for nothing. There has to be a back and forth. Although death threats is a real bad thing, you've no idea how many times I have received those even casually from friends. But it's mostly for shits and giggles. I have had people tell me they will choke me to death. Because they were really angry in the moment. They will never actually do that. People generally say attention seeking things to get a reaction out of you, it's immature but it works. It's also their gullibility and vulnerability. Someone might not be in their best mental states when they say that and you could be a bit forgiving. Someone could be on drugs. Someone could be goofing around. Someone could be drunk. Give them space to apologize or make good out of something. Be chill in the moment but be careful. If someone writes like that to me, I would have a full conversation to see what went wrong and why they are angry/offended. I would explain them that's not an appropriate thing to say. I would have patience. I would let them know that I'm taking it seriously if they really mean it and I would tell them that it's a deal breaker and they can't say that again. I'd wait for them to take back what was said, change or apologize. I'd want to know their real intent and if it was just in words. If they continue the same behavior despite warnings, I'd discontinue the relationship as it borders on abusive and some psych issues. But If they are having a turnaround and want to work on their immaturity, then I would be willing to support them. Most often such threats aren't real and just attention seeking behavior underneath the veneer. On the flip side, if a person doesn't see their behavior as bad, never apologizes and fully mean what they say, then I would back the fuck off and be ready to call the cops on them or let them know that I would be filing restraining orders and block that person after getting to know their identity credentials. It's easy. Just block if you know their behavior is serious and unwarranted. If it's a temporary outburst, tell them to explain it. This depends on your own personal boundaries and what's tolerable to you. But context is always relative.

Yea that's weird, I get it. You could have laughed it off. Play it off. I'd do the same, in fact I already have on multiple occasions. It's no big deal. People have said the weirdest things to me directly and I have played along. It's a social skill. Not everyone you just meet is a psychopath. She ain't psychotic. She probably isn't. It seems you judge people too prematurely. The snowflake thing sort of.

What I meant is avoid uncomfortable texting at first if you wish to avoid getting bombarded by a triggered person. This is of course in the beginning of a relationship when intimacy is not yet fully established, the other person can detect any sign of profanity, even minor rude insults or words can be very triggering to strangers. Once you're deep into a relationship and quite intimate on a level, that's where what you say doesn't matter much and you can easily work through miscommunication. Don't expect this in the beginning though. Most people are uptight and keep a guard against someone they text the first couple of times and it can be a stressing situation making them wanna easily quit, block or even go on a massive rage text. Yes, anger issues probably. But a lot of people get out off or annoyed when they meet a rude stranger. Your first impression should be unequivocally empathetic to impeccable levels. Your outbursts or complaints can be reserved for later in the relationship when a certain comfort is reached on both ends. Don't jump at someone who could be unsuspecting. Judging from your text, you're easily triggered and cannot handle a critique. Don't take that same energy into your first dates and texts.

You shouldn't call someone weird. That can be insulting. I have met people who are strange in text. Yet I control my temptation to call them weird. It can easily hurt sentiments and is a direct attack on self esteem. Avoid all sorts of profanities in text, even minor, unless you're angry and rage texting which can be explained later. Just general thumb rule, avoid uncomfortable texting. Her behavior is fine. Lots of people talk about serial killers, gore etc. It's only "strange" when she is taking it too far to the the point of unbearable or overbearing. And there's too little you'll know about a person just through text. You gotta have more substance, like a compilation of six months conversations to be able to semi-accurately analyze a person's entire personality. A bunch of texts is never enough. Also it's the vibe you communicate. The same person who is being an asshole to you can be nice to many people. Too easy to jump to conclusions. The same persons offline are just normal and chill. Take it easy and be nice.

Dude, getting the first girlfriend is no big deal either way. Everyone gets their first at some point quite easily. It's hard when you have to find "the one that sticks." And why do you take Leo word to word. And yours is barely a week. How are you so confident?

@Schizophonia have you tried zoloft?

Omg. That's too much. I'm scared of the whole leatherface chainsaw. Imagine being chased down the street by someone with a chainsaw.

I once saw a UFO in my dream. It appearee like a big shining saucer that was wobbly mid air. I panicked lol.

Why will they torture you?

Online dating is a scam. People inflate themselves and you're mostly engaging with someone whose intentions aren't fully clear.

Who says they weren't?

You cayn't even cry.

Most narcissists will be diagnosed with NPD.

There are levels to narcissism and manipulation.

I'm a narcissist of the highest order.

Are we really looking forward to another debate between the two?

The polls are quite close. The possibility of someone becoming president still looms large. Even if not, such circumstances raise too many questions. Biden ahead of Trump by a meager 5 points. Yo. Boo! Trump nation once again honey boo boo.

I'm a narcissistic idiot. Score - 38/40

Something similar happened to me. Not comfortable discussing. I consider it sexual abuse. It can take years to heal. It can cause weird stuff. Messed up psyche. But eventually it gets ok.

Ironically Trump gives me hope. If he wins, I don't have to worry about evil anymore, every other evil isn't worth sweating over. Hillbilly smokes!