Buck Edwards

"I've always been faithful to you... sort of." Did I hear that right?

Both need each other for romantic love. And sex of course. You wouldn't need a woman if you're gay. Most people are born straight as a pole.

@Princess Arabia then maybe you haven't been hurt enough to protect yourself. The body learns. The mind learns. When you are hurt in love, you will escape into self preservation self protection mode. Your worldview might become negative. But this negativity will protect you from hurt, pain and loss.

If you keep looking for love, you'll end up destroying yourself. Most people play games in the name of love. Don't crave love so hard, you'll end up attracting weird narcissistic individuals ready to hawk on your needs. Love is a serious illusion. In fact true love is like mental illness, you really have to be crazy enough to give all your love to a person on a mad level. And nobody does that. The love that you see is bland and boring, just people putting up smokescreen to look perfect together. Most people don't have the emotional capacity for true love because a lot of emotional labor goes into that. Attraction is nice and alluring but it's mostly temporary. Any love that is lasting is like companionship, yet it's not as romantic as you'd like to imagine, just companionship. These relationships are a representation of the mind's needs for attachment, neediness, stimulation, deprivation, comfort, excitement, passion. The right time to think about love is when you are actually in love. Ruminating about love is a waste of time when you don't have an actual partner. Also merely thinking about love is not enough. It's an intellectual gllue. It sticks and doesn't come off and perpetuates. Creating voids and holes and woundedness within. Just a recipe for depression, melancholia and further un-healing. You'll never get anything productive out of this. It's preoccupation and rumination of love. Also realize that people have suffered in love. They found someone, fell in love and attracted a lot of suffering. Betrayal, breakup, abandonment, cheating, rejection, discord, fights, damage, destructiin, volatility, coldness, chaos, failure. These are packages that come handy with the idea of love and romance. And it's immense emotional torment and suffering. Mental suffering. Emotional suffering. These are not easy to deal with and these people deserved fairness and justice. They didn't deserve hurt and pain. Heartbreak and heartache. So it's not all rosy and rainbows when you are in love. This needs to be realized. That companionship comes at a cost. Either the cost is compromise or it's pain. The gain is very little. The hurt can be too loud. If you feel so entitled to someone's love, then what do you feel about people who suffered after falling in love. Aren't they worse off than you? This world is a game of unfairness. Life is unfair. It will never be fair. It doesn't care about your desires and passions. This is not nihilism or pessimism of any kind. If you cannot take the torture of not being loved, you're in for a rude awakening, if you cannot take the disappointment of not getting or finding love, then you will be completely broken if someone breaks your heart and damages you in love or abruptly abandons you after years of emotional attachment, you'll completely fall apart and be in absolute shambles. You won't be able to deal with the pain, frustration and struggle of a damaging destructive relationship. What's the point of all this other than endless cycles of emotional damage and years of unhealing, uphill battles that countless single parents, warring couples, divorced partners, separated lovers have to go through and they barely scratch by everyday. They not only suffer loneliness and emptiness, lack of love but the added burdens of their past mistakes of bad relationships, toxic partners, sometimes legal issues, endless drama, mistakes and wrong partners they chose that now come to bite them and they not only come to regret them but also have to pay for the repercussions and consequences of these precious mistakes. Put yourself in their shoes and think for a second. Most likely love will not look so beautiful then. You're a dream chaser. You're looking at it with rose tinted glasses. Love is not easy and is often painful and distrustful and hopeless. It only looks nice when you want it. Not when you actually have it. It's like a mountain, looks nice from a distance, yet climbing it will make you bored and stressed. A healthy relationship is worth the hard work yet you can't be sure of its expiry. Then everything you put in is wasted. All effort, time, resources, emotional cost wasted. Love is the single biggest cause of despair in the world. It makes us crazy and excited yet it comes at a huge cost. If you turn your life into a mathematical equation of summation of costs and benefits, you'll benefit more that way. Apply mathematics to love. Right now the math is that you're not in love so thinking about it is "zero" benefit.

No. It's a bird called a woodcock that is known to bounce every time it walks that gives the impression that it dances.

@Sidra khan @lostingenosmaze

I was in a hurry and drew a snake during snake festival. That's my artistic skill. Didn't have time to draw Leo.. Just imagine Leo as a snake in the meantime.

I see. Peace.

Of course women come in all shapes and sizes and character. I did not generalize women at all. I never said all women. But you have to see the context in which it's written. It was a reply to a woman here who felt the need to explain herself and linguistically speaking, that's how it's said because the comment wasn't directed at her, so I had to set it apart by saying "a lot of women," which means "women other than you," if English is your first language, you'd have probably understood that, or I guess you just didn't care to read the entire context.

Explain.

The moment a woman starts with a twang, avoid them.

Why do you want those women? It reflects poor on you.

The best example A whole list of Karens.

You seem to be cool from the nature of your posts. But a lot of women can be toxic, mean. You'd know if you have bumped into them. The Karen kind.

I find that women who smile a lot and don't act bitchy are usually the ones who a guy can have an easy time with. It's all about vibe and energy. Connection is the key. A deeply interested woman will flirt, drop some signs. If a woman is acting "dry" don't even bother to lead her. She is mostly going to be a pain in the ass with time.

He was always a fool.

Don't quit your job.

@Ulax @Jehovah increases @martins name @FourCrossedWands ? @Schizophonia

I find it gross and materialistic when people flaunt their collection of luxury shoes and watches. I like to own a single pair of decent stuff, not necessarily some luxury brand. I see some people love to own a lot and flaunt it. I find it gross though.

If he doesn't respect your basic boundaries, he will most likely never forge a healthy bond with you. This is bad for you. Give it up. In the same space and time you can find someone healthy.

You act as though everyone is up for discrimination.

Mind boggling.

Can I have a kiss? To avoid unnecessary trouble.

Maybe you're an intense introvert like me. I generally avoid people as much as I can Because I find it draining. Yet intimate conversations don't tire me. The only solution is to embrace your nature. You can limit outside socializing. I've noticed that it not only drains me but is a huge waste of my personal resources, not wise to invest my time in it anyway. . Maybe you feel you're missing out on something but it's not real. Just social conditioning. Most people are drama and stress. Little gain, too much waste. Try expanding your circle gradually with 1 extra person per 3-6 months. Introverts sadly cannot handle a lot of people. You gotta do what's best for you. And going for something that's out of character for you is not a good long term strategy. You aren't cocooning yourself, trust me. There's enough social media already. We consume a mountain, we actually implement a molehill. You're good as you are. Just try exploring slightly a bit more than your typical niche zone but take it slow. And you're not wrong in feeling drained. It's exhausting even for out and out extroverts and like I said before not wise.

And there goes the comment of the centuries.