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As much as it pains me to admit it, I do feel a lot of similarities between myself and what she describes in this video. I've always felt "nice", and not very close to the usual image of men ever since I was a child. I've obviously thought about non-binarity, but, as much as I admire women, I also don't feel close to their way of thinking (obviously, I'm talking about averages here, of what men and women are in society) I'm not young and I'm not sure how to fix this. Should I just tend to become more manly, as in, whatever society expects for men (I'm not talking about looks or whatever superficial aspects)? It doesn't feel right to me, and in fact we often laugh with my wife at how I do sometimes stand or act feminine in some cases, and how she does seem to take the more masculine place in the couple. But I do feel weak. I really am. I break and panic easily. When talking about men here, 'm thinking more about the positive qualities usually associated with men. But I'm not sure how to get there (or if I should try. Or what to actually change). I'm quite sensitive, empathic, not very real-world smart... (That being said, growing older, I at least avoid now the trap of being so nice I don't have an opinion. I actually like having contrarian opinions and voicing them, looking for balance and debate, not trolling)

So we're considering aliens are real (which was pretty obvious for me, but I was still taking into consideration the opinion suggesting this was distraction or whatever), but in that case, it doesn't explain why higher ups that hid official informations about aliens for all these years are suddenly deciding to let this guy talk. If so, what triggered this for them?

I've been married for some years so I don't think it has to do with sex, which is good. The book you posted looks interesting btw ------------------- To be honest I think I might confuse the nice guy situations for something else after thinking about it_ I was recognizing myself in the parts where she described the man making schemes (consciously or not) to sabotage some things or be lazy Or when she talks about undirect ways to express your frustration and making her feel I'm not ok even tho I say I'm ok, maybe even more. Some people are talking about white knighting, but I definitely don't think I'm a white knight nowadays, these times are over for me

Thanks What about this one ? "A Systematic Course in the Ancient Tantric Techniques of Yoga and Kriya" https://www.amazon.com/Systematic-Course-Ancient-Tantric-Techniques/dp/8185787085/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=kriya+yoga&qid=1690751845&sr=8-1 Almost 1000 pages seems abit daunting, so asking for general opinions around here before considering it

Why kill? Imagine if there was an infinitely more powerful being than us that could kill us that easily. You'd be happy if they had some consideration and empathy right? As a vegetarian I'm biased, but honestly I don't think we need to kill at all to survive. So please try to avoid it and focus your energy on constructing mor than destructing.

You gotta enjoy your work at some point otherwise you're doing something wrong. But yes, I tend to feel like I sucked the whole substance of it at some point in the process, and usually can't appreciate or listen again up until a few weeks, or months later depending on what it is. It's totally ok to just release and forget/move on. You can find your sense of discovery and wonder in other's creations, and get fueled by it. Just leave you creation live their life in the head of the public.

There is a lot of posts in this topic, so exceptionally, I'll risk asking being spoonfed : are there some ressources, book or videos, that are commonly admitted to be good for total beginners? (if so, I would suggets maybe adding them at the beginning of this topic or something, so people donc't always ask the same things like I'm doing here)

Is this implying shapeshifting or something? Are you just guessing here, or what would lead you to this conclusion? If you do have specific sources you're getting those ideas from, could you please share them? You probably consider a lot humans smart and we still make mistakes? ------------- And to people thinking we are smart and know what the limits of space travel or whatnot are...seriously? I'm not a science guy at all, but can't you see the huge misconceptions human science have had not that long ago? What says we aren't at 0.1% of the understanding of what science actually is? Maybe we're omitting such huge things, that other civilizations might understand (the universe is so old, there is possibly VERY old alien civilizations, right? We might as well just be bacterias to them. Sure, from our point of view, we're advanced and understand the world, but so does every "less intelligent" species than us do.

There's something I don't get. People say this is all a distraction. Firstly, a distraction form what? The world going to shit in so many different ways? Yeah, everybody knows, no need for distraction. Then, let's admit this IS a distraction. Does whoever is trying to distract think people have such a small brain they can't read about 2 events a once? What they gonna go, make an alien mockumentary until the planet burns? This doesn't even seem like a good strategy to distract the public from whatever. Now the other things I don't understand : if this is all true. Those informations have been and should be very well protected. Then how even are those guys allowed to reveal them in such a public setup? Doesn't the higher ups have enough power to erase all of this, shut them up? If they're indeed hiding informations about aliens, it must be because it could be super dangerous if revealed. Then how come they'd be considering it's ok to let one man live or just talk so easily?

Thanks, will watch as soon as I can

So I used to do this a bit with music and I started making a few tiny sales, but that was enough for me to be happy, just the fact that somebody wanted to pay me for it back in the day (low self esteem, anxiety, etc) At some point I stopped for various reasons, now thinking about getting back into it, but honestly, the amount of people wanting to pay for illustrations or music is just gonna go down a lot, right? With AI. Not sure if it's worth the hustle or doing fast, poorly paid art jobs at this point. Maybe I should just keep art as a personal thing?

Sounds good enough to me (I'd change some things but it's your music not mine) But don't ask me. Go out there and offer your music to people who need it. Even if you gotta start with very low-level projects, just join a team for a game jam, being part of a finished project is satisfying and will make you level up. Or you can just start setting up gigs on Fiverr. Or both ?

Sound like wise and honest words, thank you. To be honest I don't feel the need to have a baby, at some point I even thought men didn't really have a strong need for this compared to women (from what I see and hear at least). But maybe they do. And maybe it's my anxiety and other flaws they stop me from wanting one. I still don't know if I'm normal. I know nowadays it's safeto say you just don't want babies. But part of seem to think I should want one? Because it's what human do and if you don't want to do what humans always did,but might be because you're weak and unsure of yourself? I know it sounds stupid and I could just get away with signing on the child free movement. This would be the easier way for me. But something doesn't feel right. Not sure what.

Oh no. clickbaity title. Maybe a bit strong. But consider this : if I want to read books for information (stories are another point that could be debated in different terms by opposing it to its other counterparts like movies, comics or whatnot), is there anything wrong in not reading books, and instead, watch videos or read shorter online content about the subject I'm looking for? So far, it has done no harm to me. After all, information is information. This point alone seems fair enough to me to say that we don't need books and it should just be one mean of learning amongst others. If you like the way it feels go for it, if not, books, shouldn't be as sacralized as they are. I might be wrong, but those are just my thoughts. My personal bias tho, is that I'm having more trouble picking up and keep on reading a book regularly (I used to love to before), and focusing on longer content. As most humans do nowadays. But isn't it just evolution if we learn in different ways? Does information need to go through a book?

Just composing (aimed at video games and movies, well I just did a trailer in movies case but anyway) I have absolutely no music theory, I just do everything by ear and play drums, and a but of piano and guitar/bass but I'm really baby level Look if you can find a niche maybe, really avoid super popular stuff like hip hop beats, unless it's your passion Take a look at how new sellers that already did a few sales set up their profile and what prices they're at (don't necessarily go for the lowest of the lowest prices, but keep in mind you can't aim for super high prices when you have no reputation ; just make wahtever cheap work first to gather ratings and contacts, and then go up from here You cna also do unpaid work like Game jams on itch.io if you want to build a portfolio and have no paid work atm For now...honestly I'm expecting full movies in less than 10 years ? At least short movies. And music will certainly get decent too. Most people won't care that there's no heart or personality in it. It's already the case with some human made mainstream products, so... I guess it's still a thing right now yes...might as well set up my page again

In terms of time, what I like in videos is that people I trust have digested a lot of content and took the important points out of whatever sources they learned from. So I don't think a video is always a waste of time. Now about depth...that's probably right. To be honest, and that's entirely a personal problem, maybe my ADHD brain hopping from content to content doesn't need to go that in depth on topics in general. But maybe if I did need to dive deep, online content would make me plateau at some time.

I was litterally in your situation, around the same age. There's not bullshiting this. Honesty. Just say it's your first time. It will feel bad but let it out. At least she'll know. It might surprise her a bit. but if she's a decent person, she'll just help you. And don't stress over the first time. Go slowly. Feel. You will miss things. It's ok. Just feel and share a good vibe.

If drugs gave you panic attacks, then maybe you don't need them. Don't force it. (I would even ask, why do we need those in general, but the general mindset on this forum does not go in this direction, no offense, it's just how things are) There are many opinions about druges and mental disorders, but I think you might want to consider this one. For the people that are happy and reaching awakening through drugs, it's cool. But they can't understand how it would affect some other people with problems they don't have. So don't force it. Work on everything else. There's more than enough work to do for everyone.

So I'm listening at this podcast on satanism, that break stereotypes and details the different forms of satanism And I was like "oh this one sounds good. Maybe I could become part of this church" or whatever. But them I just thought. Why am I even listening to this? Why do I need to bother with such figures to put words on my values and my acts? I'm pretty sure they're just stories now (can't explain why, I just feel it as I'm growing older). Stories are col. I fucking love movies, books, etc. But do I need to subscribe to some sort of larping fan club? Basically...all due respect, cause everyone needs its own path and all of them are valid cause it depends on the individual : I think stories taken seriously about gods and religions are useless. If I want inspiration or a mirror, any type of writing can do. Any movies has as much value than any religion. They're all just humans communicating in the end. On one end I love the surnatural and the idea of discovering mysterious new things, and I fear just become some sort of materialist as thing goes. But is this a bad thing? I think it's just fear that would make me think it's not. All of this supernatural thinking is just a distraction from death. Which I totally fear, I'll admit. My closed ones even more than mine, probably.

Not GOD Gods. The big beaded man, the greek, indian, whatever gods. Often sorta humanoids. Because it's reassuring? Because it's interesting as whatever other made-up fantasy story would be? Do you believe in them, one, another, or all of them? If so, why are you trusting a man or woman far far away in the past that wrote those stories? We can't trust most people nowadays, they can't trust themselves, how was it different in the past? Manipulation and insanity certainly did exist too. How do we have proof the persons did not imagine this, and not have contact themselves with those greater forces? So considering all of this, what are gods for you? Are they something that exist? If not, I guess it's probably just like some magic stuff where some practicionners do know and admit that it's all just stories and fake tools, that help them find guidance in real life and unravel their psychological problems.

Thing is....if we become useless at some point, then what do we become? One could say AI would find ways to make all the work and makie it so everyone can get a decent living, so we can just chill and do whatever we want? But then, what do humans become? I guess just artists, sportsmen or people chilling. Which doesn't sound bad? Thing is, AI will be used to make more money by people that are "smarter" than most, and they probably won't use it to make people more equal.

I'm pretty sure it would have been beneficial to obsess over safety many times in the past.

I hate to say that but I don't see how it could be otherwise for long. If you're smarter (society smarts, not smart smart), you just control the others and get more energy/money from them. If it's not smart then it's strong. Whatever is used to rule just puts you above other people and you benefit about it so you'll be more rich/have more goods than them. Now maybe we could evolve to a selfless/collective mind...but I don't think that's how humans work. Sometimes we think too highly of ourselves. Who says we have the will and energy to ascend and maintain a mental status where we help each other? Some people don't want to evolve. Those some people will probably always be the norm.

It took me 40 years to realize how much time I spend on screens. I mean, obviously I knew. But I realized, looking from afar, how much of a zombie I look like. Clearly I'm doing things on those screens. Learning, communicating, playing, watching, etc. But I feel like maybe...maybe they might be part of my depression? What do you think about how we use screens? The easy way would be "uuur screens bad nature good", but I think it would be missing the point. Screens and what goes through them are part of life and society. I'm not saying we need them, clearly, you could be an hermit and survive and be happy. But...I don't know, I can't find the right balance for me. I'm just too hooked up on screens. I used to love reading so much....and I still do! Everytime I start I do. But it's so HARD to start. Sorry, not even sure what I'm trying to convey exactly here. Not sure if it's a cry for help (and the only practical answer would probably be "just get disciplined and spend less time on screens, or at least do it to accomplish things"), or an actual debate on how healthy it is to live the way we do with screens.

Yeah I know about most dumphones, I've studied the subject a bit. I was so close to buy one, even an odler looking time with a small sreen and very basic internet and apps you know? But then I wondered...wait, can't you just keep you more convenient phone where tasks are faster, and learn not to be so much on it? (even tho, to be fair, I'm waaay more on PC screens than phones)