toasty7718

What are some ways to "live life" while in college?

Update: I decided to end my relationship with her. She wants marriage. I don't. She wants kids. I don't. She wants marriage before sex. I don't. Now I can really go out into the world & focus on practice instead of theory.

I remember one of Leo's videos talked about balancing theory vs. practice. How do you personally balance the two?

Hey, This is gonna be some ranting, so here goes. Basically, I'm just asking for some practical life advice that would bring me closer to self-actualization for where I'm at right now. This is basically what my journal entries would look life if they're made public. Where I'm at: I am no stranger to Leo's content. Having been exposed to his ideas from an early age and having delved (only briefly) into the work of Ken Wilber and Daniel Schmachtenberger has made me think that I am an intellectual beyond my years---where in actuality, I think on some level that I am a pseudo-intellectual. As such, I'm looking for some practical life advice. I have acquired so much theory over the years that applying it often falls short. I have a commonplace book with thousands of entries and I barely go back and read them. I have Daniel Schmachtenberger's entire book list downloaded on my kindle yet I'm only halfway through A Brief History of Everything. I am still aggorant about religion and have a bit of an athiestic-superioirity complex while also realizing that I am god (from psychedelics). Where I was: All in all, my life hasn't really been as full of life as I would want it to be. Throughout highschool I struggled to make friends because everybody just seemed so distant from me on some level. Sometimes it was intellectual, other times emotional, a lot of it was cultural (growing up in the bible belt), but nearing the end of highschool I completely stopped giving a shit. I internalized my Uncle's advice of "Who gives a shit?" and stopped caring what any of these clowns thought of me. Graduating was an incredibly freeing experience because I was never going to see any of these people ever again. Afterall, isn't INFJ the rarest personality type? I recently started at a college that's two hours away from home & it's great, but not all that prestigious (it's R2 university in the state of NC). I'm planning on transferring to an engineering college in my state (R1 university) next year because this school does not offer any engineering programs whatsoever. My plan is to become a civil engineer and work on sustainable, walkable infrastructure and study Synergetics by Buckminster Fuller (a 2,000 page systems-thinking geometrical book that Daniel Schmachtenberger read when he was 5) and eventually reach a stage-yellow understanding of life, universe, and humanity by the time I'm 30. The salary for licensed PEs here in the states can oftentimes exceed $150,000 if you count bonuses & stay in the same company. Romantically: Also, romantically, things have been interesting. Having never had a girlfriend up until this point in my life, having a girl reach out to me on a college social-media app was surprising. She asked me "wait, you're also an INFJ?" because it said so in my profile and we just kicked off. This girl was absolutely beautiful too, and I was questioning why she was talking to someone like me in the first place. I ask for her actual number after a while and we start talking on telegram, and this is where we start to get really close. She confides her past & emotions & experiences to me and I hold presence like I have never before. I start to become her emotionally-supportive boy friend and she starts to get attached to me emotionally. Eventually, when we both go to college like 1 month later, we meet up and of course it's a little awkward at first. She's socially anxious & shy and doesn't really open up to people. But for some reason, because I listen to her unlike anyone else ever has for her, and understand her emotions (or at least try to), and see her as this beautiful, amazing human being--a verb instead of a noun, a process of becoming--I start to fall in love with her, and she does the same for me. I hold her for hours on some days and tell her how beautiful she is how amazing of a human being she is how i’ve never met someone like her how she’s irreplacable how i’ve never met someone with her heart how I love her how I love her so much how I care about her how I never want to violate her boundaries or make her uncomfortable how I want to be here for her on this journey she’s on how I only want for her what’s beautiful & enriching how I care so deeply about her how I’m so lucky to have her as my friend how I couldn’t have asked for a better friend than her how she makes me a better person how I love every part of her, including her emotions, her wounded heart, her hair, her eyes, her artistic taste, her love of pink—but most importantly, just her being herself, and her being open and vulnerable with me. etc. and right now we're in a good place, but the "falling in love" has worn off and we're just best friends, who are still exploring being romantically involved with each other. My biggest struggle is balancing her along with my studies. I'm talking Calc 3, Analytical Physics 1 (calc-based physics), Environmental Ethics (philosophy class), and Introduction to Research (honors college seminar, because I was invited to join the honors college), and the courseload is no joke. It's doable, it's just time consuming. I don't really have a social life at this college because I know I'm never going to see these people ever again after next year because I'm transferring. Also, it's in the middle of Appalachia, and Christianity is ubiquitous wherever you look. It's my least favorite part about this university by far. Organized religion just viscerally disgusts me. My diet has still been plant based, but it's processed dining hall food that's of questionable health benefit. I go to the gym two or three times a week and do a brief 30-40 minute exercise, along with walking to all my classes. Health wise I can definitely see some improvements. But with this girl...I think I have grown distant from the initial love, and now I tease her jokingly as my best friend but still show intimacy...but should I show more true intimacy like we had before? Now with understanding where I'm at, what would you say I should do in my life?

I'm interested

no. how much does it cost?

True to some extent... But you can't "feel" the plaque growing in your arteries

I think it would be a good idea personally to watch some debates between carnivore diet gurus and people who actually know what they're talking about. It's actually a wake up call to many of them to step out of their echo chambers, and it reveals all manner of logical contradictions and fallacies. Anthony Chaffee is a resident and honestly I’ve heard some things that make me suspect he may not even be able to complete residency, but it’s mostly hearsay from people who went to school with him along with the fact that it’s virtually impossible for a neurosurgery resident to have time for his coaching business and all the interviews/social media. In his debates it's made clear than he has no idea what he's talking about most the time and doesn't even read the studies he cites.

@undeather @Unlimited

The last president that was for the people.

Show some more sensitivity man. People literally died from this.

@Scholar your replies are always meaningful, so your contribution here would help a lot

Hey all, It's been a while since I've been active on the forum. I've been incredibly busy with my senior year of high school and the free-time that I had prior that usually was invested in reading entries here or reading books from Daniel Schmachtenberger's reading list...goes towards deliberate study. 12 credit hours of dual enrollment college courses is no joke! (Especially when you only have 4 hours to dedicate to it a day if you have other commitments.) A personal synopsis of what's going on: That aside--I feel like my life has been gradually getting better. I'm reaching virtually 100% of my micronutrient & macronutrient targets on cronometer on a organic whole food plant based vegan diet. I'm hitting the gym 4+ days a week. I'm experimenting with nootropics like Qualia Mind Blend and pour-over coffee, and my sleep patterns are pretty good. However...I'm severely lacking in other areas of my life that require that should be spent towards study. For one, I just haven't had the determination to meditate everyday. Is there any recommendations on how I can slowly build and sustain a meditation habit? My routine is as follows: wake up at 6:40 or 6:50 AM, make my lunch & coffee, wash face. get to school at 7:50 AM get out of school at 3:00 PM gym until 4:00-4:30 cook/eat for an hour (WFPB vegan diet...needs lots of time spent towards eating lol) start study/homework at 5:30 get to bed by 10:00, maybe 11:00 I'm also wondering...how can I make friends at school better? It's my senior year, so naturally I've stopped caring about what other people's opinions about me are. So that inherently means that I'm not actively trying to be a more friendly, sociable, and better person overall. I'm just...a weird fucking guy. That's how a lot of people describe me as. Weird, but also somehow intelligent...and sometimes funny. But I don't share any real interests or hobbies with anyone I know at my school, so making friends based off that isn't going to happen. The next question builds atop this: how do I get a girlfriend in highschool? Caffeine helps a ton with having actual energy to allocate to humor and "rizz," but I don't feel like this is my authentic self. It's so hard to be my natural, authentic self when it gets shut down from others so much...so, what do I do? Is there a mindset shift I can adopt where I cultivate more stage orange to be less weird (natural self) and be a more likable, charming, but not-authentic individual, or is me trying to be this just an extension of my natural self's path of development? Thanks in advance.