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So not clear . I'll approach girls get a date . So here's what I do ( right ? ) plan is kiss the girl and then invite her ... Well I don't know . I don't have a chill area , I just have sort of a single bed . What activity would I invite her over to do , watch a film . I could ask about if she lives alone or with others and then through conversation there will be an activity I can suggest to do at hers ? What activity would I do at mine ? What's the best way to really do this . Is there a high rate as to girls that would sleep with you on the first date ? Is there something I am missing in terms of this whole situation and the way I think about it . Should I be going out on night outs instead to have more success rate since there is low success rate with this ? R.i.p.s.l.e.e.p Thanks for the help

-great in your life ? If I feel great in my life now , can I make lots more changes and then I will feel even greater on a regular consistent basis than I do consistently now ? Has that been the case for anyone here ? When life becomes more meaningful , that's the idea right ? I need ( I want ) to explore what it feels like to have such a profound level of meaning in my life . Is it the case that the experience of life gets better and better and better as life goes on ? For the most part .. if one is really focused on doing so . What are people's experiences of feeling great consistently on a regular basis , and the development of that through your timelines ?

@SimpleGuy I have this commitment system . If I say the word ' surrender ' to something then I am 100 percent commited . For example : tomroow can I surrender to not watching YouTube or eating no ultra processed foods ? Surrender . I just said the word and now it's happening because this is what that means when I say the word surrender . It means its happening . You have to surrender to something that you can actually really do , not something outlandish and really difficult , so that you can keep integrity with the system as much as possible . So if you were to take this on , what would be best to do ? No YouTube , or 30 minutes max ? You have to surrender the day before because then you'll be less attached and you'll be way more okay with not watching . I have lived a complete life of hedonism in the past . For me this system works like a dream and it's so worth it , when you are doing the best things you can do with your time instead .

Going outside my comfort zone . What would it do for my life ? What if can continually do it successfully . I don't even know what to say . Would it add to the quality of my life ? Recognise opportunity -> am I distracting myself . Going outside my comfort zone . I remember feeling very masculine in the past when I did so . ' way more masculine . Indeed . What Is my dating situation right now . Well it doesn't really exist , and you have been identifying as someone , who doesn't really take actions to go outside their comfort zone in terms of their dating life . So if you start going outside your comfort zone , it would be super easy to start actually getting results and actually being a guy who takes actions in terms of his dating life . Simple as . That's the value of it. Yes . That is . Okay well let's see what happens . What else is the value of going outside ones comfort zone ? Feeling very masculine . Hm . Wow . I mean how I am going to feel like if I go outside my comfort on a regular basis . Jeez . Wow. Damn . That will be something. We will see . We will see . What else would be the value ? Surely this is right . Yes . This is so fucking right . You need to do this . You need to do this . So right . So right . So right . So right . Yes . Yes . But what actually is the point of going outside your comfort . So there is an opportunity , but why do it , what's the point , what is it going to do for me ? Does it do anything ? Does it grow you ? Well perhaps the thing you are doing , will be less uncomfortable in the future right .

I don't know what the point of starting a journal is . But I am so passionate about personal development , so I end up spending my time using this very format that I am currently writing on to journal anyway . So I'll post this , and leave it as an open question as to what the point of sharing my personal life is in on here . Maybe it's interesting if people respond , and I can get different perspectives . Could be very useful . Yes . I don't particularly see the point on posting on the forum most of the time. Or engaging . Throwaway comment . Is there really a point ? Maybe . What have most have been the most powerful ways I have grown ? Glad you asked , and glad you care . 1. Going from my full hedonistic lifestyle to deciding the day before to surrender to a whole mental list of things that are banned. 2. Constantly asking what the best actions for me are . I feel like I am tapping into my intelligence . I feel amazing . From this , I have a very high self esteem , and it doesn't feel like it's in a egotistical way . I spend my time constantly asking what the best possible actions are , and that leads me to following what I think the best possible actions are for me . What does this mean ? The best possible actions . Well is it asking out of all the things I could do , what is the best thing for me to do right now ? That's the structure of my life . Out of all the things I could do , what is it the best thing I could do right now . As you can imagine that's very authentic , it's a clarity based approach . It's weird to be constantly asking what the best possible actions are . It's like I am constantly contemplating which seems different to how I would imagine other successful people structuring their day . Yes certainly . But maybe it's more similar than I think . The thing is , it's so fluid . It's not very routine based . It can be something different often . This is so rough , I don't know why anyone would want to read this . What is the point of posting this , I literally don't see the point . I want to share it anyway . So I guess I will .

I have this relationship to going outside my comfort zone . Not sure what it is . Is it the best thing for me to keep going outside my comfort zone . I don't know why it is ? I know it would probably make me feel great , but I just don't get why it is . Why . Why . Why . Why . Why . Does it grow you ? Does it ? I am not sure if I have seen that . Why do it . I could have today . Why do it . I don't get it . Why . Why . Why . Why . Why . Why . Why . Okay I feel fucking amazing when I do it . I feel fucking amazing . Right . Do you feel like a new person when you do it . Maybe I should change my relationship to it ? Going outside my comfort zone ... I don't see the point . I don't know if I'll feel amazing every time . What do I actually get out of it . What do I actually get out of it . Well listen you could start doing it and find out . What an excellent idea , but seriously do you need to learn how to do it . Do you need to learn how to do it ? Journaling is so powerful no doubt . How do I distinguish journaling and contemaplting . This is contemaplting . Come on it is , but you still distinguish them different in a way , maybe . Going outside my comfort zone . What is the point ? Okay you could start doing it . But could if you wanted to , that's the question . Could you actually if you wanted to . Do you keep fucking up . Is it that you are indecisive . Okay recognise when to go outside your comfort zone . Spot the opportunity to go outside your comfort zone . Step 1. Okay I see it . Step 2 . What is step 2 . Hm . At this point , does some bullshit happen ? This is the question , does some bullshit happen ? Well , obviously . Step 1 recognise an opportunity . Step 2 simply ask , can you surrender . Damn is it that I want to get distracted . Is it that I want to get distracted . It's like I can , wow it's like I can't just . Today there was the feeling , that it's like I just didn't want to sit with it , maybe I was resisting it , seems right ( classic resistance ) ( always at it ) yes so the same thing with the comfort zone . You just can't sit with actually fucking focusing . Well godam Howdy 🤠 🤠 . This is fucking it . Cracked . I swear Is self development so fucking easy or am I tripping . You just don't fucking focus . You just don't fucking focus Walla . Ah yes , so simply . Recognise opportunity , and then recognise when you aren't wanting to focus , just become aware of that. Hm mindfulness . Just become aware of that . That's all you need to do . That's all you need to do. Yes . That's all you need to do . Seriously . Just become aware of it . Yes . That's the distraction . Stop distracting yourself . Just stop it . Stop distracting yourself . Notice yourself distracting yourself. So will I do this tomorrow we will see . I am sure there will be an opportunity , and I am sure I will be aware of myself distracting myself , and I feel like I can be successful with this approach . I feel like I can . Simple as . Right . Wow that would be amazing to have figured this out . Literally amazing . Best possible action ? Maybe dress well in case your going to be cold approaching . Sounds like a good idea . Usually I present myself actually worse than the typical guy here in Germany. Should I change this maybe , but you should dress and present yourself nice tomroow when you are going out . Is self development easy . Hm . Well well . Maybe . Best possible action . Lets start getting ready for bed , byeeeee

I definitely imagine other people having fallen into this thinking . The subject is : One comes across actualized.org . One has a scope of possibility for what one can do with their life and when they self improve . The opportunities are endless for creation. But there are literally so many options for what to do . So many things that get put into the frame of : this is so important ( on actualized.org or otherwise ) . You have your own ideas for what might be great to do . However it's taken as second priority under all of the ideas of actualized.org framed as super important . ( Obviously one hasn't had the space to critically and consciously evaluate why these things are important , and also if they personally to oneself ) But there are many of these ideas . And it's a lot . And it seems like these massive ideas ( spirituality , life purpose , and truth ) for what to do can take up the span of one's entire life . Despite it not being absolute in ones mind that these thing will be what one will be doing in their life , it's the awareness of time passing and the seeing of all of these things taking up the almost entirety of life , that makes it seem like the opportunity of these super important things is being diminished . That's very much been my driver . Super driven because of it . Borderline workaholic in terms of self development but taking necessary and intuitive breaks .

@Cred @Sandroew @Artsy btw guys I am thinking March since Sandroew can't make it February

Hey , so me and my friend both live in Germany ( Köln and Karlsruhe ) . We are both knee deep into self development and we would love to meet people who are similar to us , specifically people who have been watching Leo for a while and ' doing the work ' . That would be amazing and fascinating speaking to people further along than us . We are from the UK ( England ) . So if you want to meet when we are back there , then definitely text . Hey Indi if you are reading this 🤣

So I have this amount. It's invested with ' medium risk ' . Free time is top asset . Work part time plus 3 percent takeout per year and I can have 5 days free a week . The money compounds less but it still compounds by quite a chunk and I also have the ability to live in cities I want to without being stuck living with my mum with that free time instead . Any thoughts on spending the money this way , or advice for how you would go about this . It's buys freedom of time for making more money though life purpose .

Fuck my life . That's quite a summary

Wow awesome guys . That makes me happy . I'll text you personally on here and then we can organise something . @Sandroew @Cred

For me it's been : What is the best possible action . Having the viewpoint on life that there is so much potential and so much to do can put you in a position where you are getting negatively reactionary over the lack of results . Which was the case for me , especially having watched lots of Leo . Lots of bigg things to potentially do . Through the lack of results I realised I wasn't actually following the best possible actions for me , so then my new approach became : why don't I just follow the best possible actions and then that's all I can do and then whatever happens will happen . Are you following the best possible actions ? I'm sure other people have had this arc in different words . What have been your most powerful questions and why ? My results have been , I am fucking vibing hard on a regular basis and it's seemed to be crazy successful . Everyday seems to be a good day . The basis for my life for now is becoming as aware as possible of the best possible action , and then the actions will follow through that .

@Hojo especially this one

Damn , I love these questions you gave . I need to come back here

The structure of my life is , always asking the same question about a million times per day . What is the best possible action ? I come up with what it is , and do it , if I don't know what it is , I contemplate it . Often at the moment I don't have a big project so what I end up doing is just contemplating questions relevant to what the best possible actions are in my life . I do that a lot . I have been for months . Any thoughts on this , ironically haha I haven't contemplated this subject at all . What are people thoughts and experiences spending so much time contemplating so much in their life for a period , and the reflection from having taken time away from that . Any insights of perspectives on the subject ? It feels good to finally make a post after having not really been involved and properly but just reading like a little perv for the last I don't know how many months loll It might be actually fun to join in !

@Split Subject I have been working on my dating life as well . This might be useful for you or not . My two methods . Cold aproaoch : if you were fully comfortable / fearless with women , what would your approaches look like ? How would you demeanor change , would it be much more attractive ? Genuine question how do you imagine it would look like ? . If you want this ability every single day , here's my method . focus everyday on surrendering one action that makes you feel uncomfortable in this area . E.g. surrender to giving someone a compliment . If you can't do that find something you can surrender that's doable . But everyday focus on surrendering to that part of you that resists being fully comfortable with women . What your doing actually is surrending being fully comfortable showing your nervous feelings or whatever attachments you have . -> when you surrender to being able to do that , it's the same as you stopping caring what they think right , being totally detached . So you focus on facing this everyday ( being totally detached ) this means momentum will be that you will be so comfortable doing whatever baldy approaches in front of whoever everyday . Max confidence . You can do more than one a day to get some more volume , but standard one a day . Also means you will have more ability to go outside your comfort zone , feel more masculine , feel more confident , and you will generally care less what people think of you because you are surrednering that everyday . Dating apps : you know what they say , it's about what you make the girl feel . My intent when opening is literally try and make her feel feelings and to be emotionally stimulating . Intuitively I'm sure you can come up with things yourself. I've definitely got more matches doing that . Also to be emotionally stimulating is my same method when cold aprooaching after number one principle , to stop resisting anything . E.i. be careless about the outcome first and foremost so you can be fully comfortable and confident .

@Elton I have also been in this cycle before . What worked for me. You have 4 problems : So , what worked for me is 1. Focus on changing one aspect of routine at a time 2. Be clear on why and if you actually want to live this better lifestyle over the current 3. You have to be prepared for massive resistance to be pulling you in , and you have to be decided that you will make the harder decision which will be the growth 4. Make yourself aware of these at the start of every day : 1. be clear on why 2. prepare for massive resistance and be decided .

@Basman @Basman @Basman Yes exactly right This is the thing , do you really think that because humans can do maths and they can play a guitar , they deserve to feel the sensation of having their throat slit any less than a human ? Genuinely ??

@Basman @Basman Animals are sentient obviously ? In terms of pain and feelings . Do you mean because humans can do maths ?

@Basman I have been looking for a genuine perspective for why , an baby chicken deserves to feel the sensation of having it's throat slit any more than a human toddler . Perhaps you weren't calling this specifically childish , but if you mean that in terms of this please share your perspective

@Basman @Basman 1 ) little steps turns into bigger and bigger progress overtime 2) think of veganism in the same lens of all the other ethical progressions we have made as a society . Feminism , racism .. this is one of the next ones

@Buck Edwards if you switch your lens to everything that's happening to animals , to seeing it happen to humans , you can understand much more the outrage and the shaming. Imagine your a human living in society , and you see everyone just causally okay with a baby holocaust by the millions every year , And if it's not a baby's it's killing millions and millions of humans just for the sake the pleasure . Not to mention the claustrophobic conditions and millions of the electrocutions not working so millions feel their throats getting cut each year , oh but your family and people around you , they don't really care so .. If you live in society and you see that , it makes sense that there is bound to be outrage or some passion on the subject .. so on the topic of privilege .. And also everyone was outraged about the the holocausts in WW2 weren't they ?

@Buck Edwards haha ain't now way plot twist . Mrs Buck Edwards congrats to you and Marcel

@shubhamsharma my current method is to keep a very tight focus on always following my deepest intuitions , for the best possible actions to take in my life for me to live an incredible life / a life I can't regret . Because what else can you do but take the best actions you believe are possible for yourself . I have learnt recently from my mistakes over the years is that , at least my belief really , is if you don't focus on tuning into the best decisions for the best life you can think of frequently , then you will naturally of course just go off track from that . So tuning into powerful vision daily , and making the best intuitive decisions . Number Uno principle for me