theleelajoker

Think about it as a process, not as a fixed something

RE the first part: Yeah agree. I often spent too much time and energy labeling, thinking, trying to figure out reality and mind much more then just doing and being. So yes, I can see NOW that I wasn't there as much as I am now. And who knows how much potential there still is. The second part - I don't follow. We are referring to the same thing? I give an example what I mean: Instead of talking with people (direct experience), I thought about people and situation(not direct experience). Instead of expressing my wants, needs, desires etc (direct), I tried to figure out how life works in general and discussed it with other people (not direct). Instead of psychologically risking XYZ, I thought about strategies to reduce or eliminate that risk.

I like that you take it with a sense of humor

New nonverbal prompt: pour a bucket of cold water over each other ❄️ 🪣

Hmmm...can going for direct experience without labeling anything ever be bypassing?

Make it as simple for you and her as possible, that's what's I'm pointing at. It's hard to determine your course of action on your own without her and before the interaction. It's typically easier to observe the situation, feel how and where you and her are at the moment, and go with this in a dialogue. Similar to how you find the best prompts with AI. Sure you have an idea, an intention when you start. But then you need resonance to move on and find what works best

Good point about blueberries. Guess I should also add it were 42 grapes.

To grapes 🍇 They're awesome.

Sooo....so what?

Feel free to give me a better option Trust that you will now what to say then the time comes

Orgasms seems to be a pretty effective way

Yes let's go out and do stuff

I can resonate with the experience of what we typically call "shame" or "guilt" or "fear". I also understand where you're coming from regarding distinction guilt and shame. Deconstructing can have value in dealing with it. At the same time, the distinctions are also meaningless. Whatever we call it, it's always simply a feeling we feel within our perceived boundaries.

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Hmmm yeah I see. But it's different if I do that at a festival, in Nature or in a big city with traffic etc.