theleelajoker

IMO: These absolute rules, dogmatic and strategic behavioral guidelines, yes/no questions are one one the biggest mindfucks in the history of mankind. The answer is so obvious I can't believe you even ask this. But to answer the question: yes it's an incredible turn off, but only when the moon is in Saturn, when it's between 6:44 am and 8:54 pm, and only if the woman in case did wear a red shirt OR jacket within the last 4 and 2/5 days, and only is the range of your emotional intensity is bigger than 5/10 but not smaller than 2/10. It's an incredible turn on of the women did wear black or orange shoes OR green ear rings within the last 72.75 hours, if you jerked off at least once this day, if the moon is less then 3/4 full, if you ate between 1-3 croissant in the morning, at least one of those with Nutella. Watch out, if you put butter with Nutella, the croissant counts double. They should teach this in school. Seriously, not your fault for not knowing this.

I definitely went down the provocation road. I was bored on a train ride so it was fun occupation to write that post. However, I stand with the general points I made and I'm very critical re your big claims about reality and what you "know" and how the world is etc. IMO you are incredibly self-deceptive and project this on others. You seem to hide behind "knowing everything" and truth" and do not allow a potential any scratch on this identity. The thing is, I am quite open to teaching and learning. I am simply selective about teachers, their credibility and their personal agendas hidden behind seemingly righteous motives. Or let's say I'm critical about shitty teachers and their bullshit. Did you read "meditations" by Marcus Aurelius? He starts of with thanking many people for what he learned from them. I could easily come up with a lot of people that crossed my path where I do the same. I am incredibly thankful for all of them and I know the list simply gets longer the longer I live. The problem is not my attitude re teaching. It's the teacher. And here one pattern repeats itself again: instead of taking responsibility for you actions, you shift it again towards me. Zero accountability on your part. You are flawless, and it's my "fault" because the way I am, it's not only hard, it's "IMPOSSIBLE" to teach me something. Again, you make big claims with zero foundation. What kind of people, real life people, are close to you that might induce corrective behavior, Leo? Anyone? Or you live alone in your own bubble of "truth", and nobody truly understands you?

Ok. So, honestly the best way to calm someone else is in my experience exactly what @Ramasta9 said: Be calm yourself. Co-regulation works. Being calm without any intention about what the other person should do, no expectations. Just calm, accepting, loving, open presence.

Seriously? That's what you focus on?🤣🤣🤣 What about context, my next sentence: Ignoring that for what reason? I even pointed that out a second time in another post lol

Incredible way of doing things. Holy shit, I'm impressed. Let's see what I can learn here from you. Start with making claims. Big claims that show how you are seemingly superior. Then avoid clarifying and / or making arguments. Then tell others what they should know. Aha, here the first shift of responsibility to others and avoiding one's own. Awesome. "Not in business of convincing people", yes? So if I go through your quotes, blogs, forum I would not find you trying to convince people? You only teach by describing, and you don't want to convince people of anything, never? Not even convincing then with marketing and your webpage about stuff like life purpose, and your skills, methods, etc? Ok, so only self deception, yes yes no convincing only self deception..of others, of course. And then shifting the responsibility from oneself to others by making a generalized and meaningless statement that does nothing but create an artificial identity of ehm..."caring about truth" that you build your personality and self-value around. Because if other's have a different opinion than you, then they are - OF COURSE - not interested in truth or they are not conscious enough (of course you're not only the most conscious, you are also the one who can judge others!) or a combination of both. Ok, so how do I counter? Yes I know! Leo, you're right - I don't care about truth enough. I care about TRUTH! No, no even better - ABSOLUT TRUTH. Haha, yeah, and if you can't see that's what, then you are not conscious enough, you're not interested enough in ABSOLUTE TRUTH. Yes, you're both, not conscious enough, not interested enough in ABSOLUTE TRUTH, and you're full of self deception that I am only pointing out haha and...and you should know this by now. So how did I do? Learning your way framing and manipulation well? I'm kind proud of myself, because I'm the best and the greatest and the smartest and the only one that cares about truth....

Also thanks for contributing. Yes re less blocking and dropping, allowing instead. I also like your "what's next". Indeed it feels like first I have been trained (by life) and now I feel perfectly at the right place at the right time in the right state. With the right tasks, being perfectly competent and mature enough to master the challenges while also enjoying myself. Enough trust and confidence to move on and walk the path, but enough humbleness to stay grateful. So why should it be any different once this current "quest" is done? Will go wherever I'm sent.

Good for the cat 😺 And thanks for the post I already have the idea of getting ANY resonance haha. And yeah Iike your description, reality becomes more cooperative, more playful, more dancing. Curious what will follow.

Amazing how you managed to convince me that I'm wrong. So eloquently, so sharp and precise, so on point with your undeniable arguments. Can't believe how impressive that was. I definitely stay corrected. You are clearly a special little thing, nobody else knows but with this post you showed me that YOU DEFINITELY KNOW what's going on.

You mean: How can he know that no one knows? How can he say that nobody can make a claim such as "no individual person can make big metaphysical claims about enlightenment" while as an individual, he makes an generalized statement about others? Hehe yes that's a valid question 😎 And the answer is simple: others say "it's like this and that". They pretend to have "facts". I have subjective experiences and opinions. And my opinion: The maximum you can do is say "my experience is....XYZ" and that's about it. Fuck the rest you're just pretending to know to gain some false safety and security in this fluid world that you're continuously co-creating and changing 🌎

So many different ideas what enlightenment is, how it works, what the consequences are, what can or should or cannot and should not happen. Which basically brings me back to one major point I am personally convinced of. NOBODY TRULY KNOWS WTF HE/SHE IS TALKING ABOUT. All we can do is exchange and make sense of our subjective POVs. Enjoy the ride 🤣🤣🤣

While it's true, people don't have access to this incident(s) anymore. They can only access the generalized believe and idea. Plus, some stuff might be warranted. What I do depends on my situation and my intentions. No energy? No interest? I just ignore that or casually change the topic or stop talking to this person at all until she returns to sth else. And then there are infinite other scenarios how to react...

@Natasha Tori Maru Thx for replying! My question feels thoroughly answered;)

Funny. Nobody asks how women can make the conversation interesting for men. As if entertainment was a man's job only. The answer btw how women make conversation interesting for me is when women talk about things they really care about, when they are light and fun, or when they are emotional and show it (sad angry scared happy cheerful doesn't matter as long as its authentic and not victim mode) or when they are bold, when they teach me something new that is relevant for me, or when they ask me questions that I don't have an immediate answer for (love that one!), or when they genuinely listen, or when they genuinely want to get to know me, or when they make me laugh, or when they appreciate me for who I am, or when they pick up subtle little hints and pointers in my communication, or when they are witty, when they follow my lead in a conversation, or when they lead the conversation, or when they tease me playfully, or when they are courageous enough to express themselves fully, or when they are even more courageous and go into a conflict with me without being insecure, or righteous about it. You would have to ask the women that have been dating me, but my impression is that most or maybe all of the things above all are things that women find interesting as well @Natasha Tori Maru @Xonas Pitfall Curious if we can have a woman's opinion here. One of the best questions I got asked a while ago by a woman: "What was the last thing that inspired you?" That depth and interest was authentic and thus sexy as hell.

Re the "shallow" people: Alan Watt might say to this that there are more "inside" and more "outside" people. And isn't it amazing how well the outside people play their role? Instead of judging them, we should celebrate those people for playing their part so amazingly! Re OP: I would say four in total, three men and one woman (an ex). Real friends in a sense of "I know what's going on in their life and they know about mine" + we are in touch regularly. Two of those four live in another city, though. Some friends I see or talk to only every few months, and we talk about anything and everything, but we don't do stuff together often. Plus I don't feel we're involved enough into each other's daily life to call it "real" friends.

Of her orgasms? Well, that's one kind of a woman!