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@Natasha Tori Maru Re sex & connection few things I noticed: Orgasms get better, deeper more intense with spiritual practices To orgasm, you really have to let go + being present and feel which is what you might call spirituality is mainly about More spiritual practice, the more I can feel other persons orgasms Never had anything remotely close to orgasm in meditation or with psychedelics, through For me it's less the merging it's more the communication, the exchange of everything you do and everything you are in this moment. Feeling the resonance of your partner @bazera Re Dating coaches, IMO the only advice should be: 1)become aware of who you are, 2) what you need/desire right now and how to do 1)+2) YOUR WAY. Not teaching some way, but how to make people create their own While I agree re the solo part in general, I believe some alignement re the things you mention (boundaries, needs, wants..) can only be advanced in direct interaction. Too much "solo" could be a artificial reason to ignore the need for connection. And it mustn't always be a "big relationship" - you can work through a lot in a day, a night or a weekend, two adults knowing that their time is limited and making best use of what is. Some steps are done in small romantic relationships until the one appears where you go deeper, for weeks, months, years...

I always wonder: how did humanity survive so far WITHOUT dating coaches? Agree on the subject/ object point. For me it's more and more a "ok interesting reflection of me" thing re any relationship, romantic or not.@Breakingthewall often talks about how reality has to be synchronized and that's how it feels for me. Alignement, allowing a free synchronisation is the main theme for me currently. You could call it removing barriers. Or you could call it dancing The romantic relationship just are deeper because of the sexual component as an additional level

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You women ruin every man you touch! Evil creatures that play with men's feelings like a lion toying with his prey. And this is all because [enter subjective experience projected on others and general ehmm "truth"] You women, literally of you equally do behavior [enter bad experience of myself in the past] to all men. But luckily, I intellectually solved this by [choose one of two: 1) modelling the world into monocausal explanation or 2) finding video of influencer X]. And soon, AI will able to cuddle me so I won't need any of you!

@Natasha Tori Maru & @bazera High quality discussion you are having IMO. Many things I silently nod while reading and thinking "that's 100% how I experienced it" Either re myself or observing in previous partners. But I don't think that your content aligns well with much other stuff in the dating section. What about we add some generalized statements where we blame one gender or the other, put labels on them and hide our own fear behind stories that sound nice while making real progress and growth more difficult? And let's talk a lot about society so that we can avoid talking and reflecting about ourselves. Re this "Ralston suggested satisfying yourself whatever love needs you have, without external source, as an ultimate solution. But I don't know how to do that yet. Is that even possible? I don't think it's possible over an extended time. For a while, yes. But at least for me there's no replacement for connection with other, be it intellectually, emotionally or physically. While I consider Ralston's highly competent re some things, he sometimes gives the appearance of a guy needing a hug lol

My point is that I believe there's no formula to be found

Realizing that the moment I "found" it, it's already the past and constantly changing and thus no longer valid. So I would stop looking for it and live my life, creating the best experience possible for me and others. And never again look for this theory. And then, I'll get myself a ☕ and a🍪

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From someone that repeatedly gives stories about extreme psychedelic experience, that's not as clear as you might think it is. And it doesn't seem the best way you communicate your point. If your intent is as you said to provide value by informing about risk of funnydosing, it could go like that: You might have fun experiences so far Even when doing it on a low dose that keeps you functioning in everyday stuff, be aware of risks XYZ because of ABC [Insert facts, best subjective experience that support your previous point to make others relate to your POV] Here's a way how to do it better

@vibv Ok thanks for elaborating

Ok thanks. Let's see if I get you right: To experience, we need separation. But separating brings pain and suffering. This pain feels unacceptable but there's no way around it. Yes ?

So the violence, aggression, dominance, crimes, wars, rape etc we do to each other from individual scale up to nations as a whole, yes? There was a user, don't remember who, he/she said sth like "if everything is one, where to go with these dark things? Nowhere to put it, nowhere to hide it because you can't hide from yourself". Curious if you're open to share more about your process. Bypassing meant not wanting to see it? And confronting meant accepting, acting out on it in some way?

Curious what you categorize as darkness?

Ok. Point taken. I assume that's what happened to you in some way?