
theleelajoker
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@Schizophonia Man, you have complex thoughts and I discover something new and interesting in pretty much every post of you. But also, I agree with @Sugarcoat that it's hard for me to follow your thought process and post above. I think you gained a skill in analyzing the psyche, but it's also a skill to simplify stuff again. A good exercise I do for myself or others is "Whatever you want to express, can you put it into one simple sentence?" In your case, maybe maximum of 5 sentences? Then you're also more likely to get the feedback you're looking for.
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theleelajoker replied to Princess Arabia's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Damn, it's a trap! -
One of the funniest things I have seen in a while Thanks for posting!
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Nice story, happy you found an unexpected nice evening. Bold marked by me. I think SOMEONE and/ or SOMETHING to focus on can help. People can get you easily back to yourself because of interactions, feedback loops. If you collect stamps, or have plants in the garden, or paint, the feedback effect is much weaker.
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theleelajoker replied to PurpleTree's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Great way to put it. First, I imagined an autistic Hindu elephant π Made me laugh π Second, it's true you need the biological basic and to do this, you need either nature or people or both. And tatatata, the you enter the arena of potential problems. It's not a bug, it's a feature hehe : ) -
theleelajoker replied to samijiben's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
If the saints and mystics of back then had YouTube, they would have watched cat videos most of the time π No 2 in priority would have been shorts on tiktok, followed by pornhub (for educational purposes only) -
theleelajoker replied to Princess Arabia's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Damn. Asexual? -
theleelajoker replied to Princess Arabia's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Maybe I should try that bi-sexual thing, then all problems solved right? -
theleelajoker replied to Breakingthewall's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Nice description. Thanks. -
theleelajoker replied to MightyMind's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
First three 10 days, it's almost the same with minor differences in instructions. You need three 10 day courses, then you are "advanced enough" and can do sattiphatana course. Did it first time this year. Daily structure is basically the same, but the discourse changes and you get a script - the sattiphatana sutta. You're allowed to read it, takes notes. The text is nice, but the sattiphatana course made me dislike the Goenka approach and dogma more. Won't go into details, best to make up your own mind. I'm very grateful for the opportunities, organisation, infrastructure of Goenka Vipassana but it has it flaws as well. What I heard is that the longer courses -20,30 day etc - don't give you much more teaching, you're just more on your own. But don't know sattiphatana is the most advanced I did. -
If it's an exchange it's not selfish. Re the other questions, I don't know. Normally we are social beings but if you're not delusional but truly ok with being on your own, why not? It's a thin line only you can know how you truly feel vs. you tell yourself a story how you feel re being social
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theleelajoker replied to Breakingthewall's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Interesting. All in all makes sense, the intuition vs. thinking mind. You're referring to everyday interactions (work, friends etc), or limiting your view to psychic/ esp/ obe stuff? So at work, you limit thinking as well or strive for Intuition/thinking balance? -
theleelajoker replied to Breakingthewall's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
(Bold by me.) @Natasha Tori MaruYes it's crazy, once I have recognized this, everything changes. It's funny because cultural conditioning tells us something different - there's always someone else to blame, some external cause, stuff independent from our own actions, believes. It seems to me it's (often) enough to direct attention towards something. Yesterday, about the same time @Schizophonia wrote his post, I had a conversation with a long time meditator about how some people refuse valuable information while others just say "interesting tell me more". Some time later I read this and think "ahh that's funny" π I get you here, communication is a skill. You can go great lengths if you can individualize your message for every person in every moment. You can also achieve a lot when your general baseline communication is calm, open, non-aggressive, non-threatening, non-preaching. Then less individualization is required because you already have in mind not triggering the defenses mechanisms of the human psyche. But I guess it's also a matter of time and energy. How much of myself am I willing to give? Plus: people need a motivation that is strong enough to be open to listening. Avoidance of suffering or possibility of pleasure. -
One of my friends had a saying when the woman is very active in communicating and promoting a romantic encounter and he as man has to do nothing but not run away. "it's like you drive in the forest and the deer jumps on top of your cargo area as soon as you reach the first trees π¦π² π»"
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theleelajoker replied to ExploringReality's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
@UnbornTao @Joshe Joke above aside, you both have a point but I just assume that IN THIS CONTEXT LOL you are already aware of this And I liked the tree example. Gave me something to CONTEMPLATE @Schizophonia just pointed out an interesting perspective about resistance re exchange of information in another thread. I wonder right now about the connection, how I can reduce resistance by smartly contextualizing such information. Kind of gives me a guideline: Where's the objective stuff we can all agree on? Understanding the subjective context of the other Understanding his current limits ..... More work to do on that...tomorrow -
theleelajoker replied to ExploringReality's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
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theleelajoker replied to Breakingthewall's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
@SchizophoniaWow. Nicely put. Giving great insight to some situations I have been experiencing. I am also certain that psychedelics are very limited at breaking down these structures. I had this feeling several times, when I talked to people (who sometimes I've known for a long time) that told me how great psychedelics are in doing this job. Then I asked them how often they did this psychedelic. After their answer I stayed silent. Amazing. I have experienced this connection, but I could not grasp it like that. Yeah I can see situations where this happened right in front of me. There is IME also another reaction that can occur - I feel humiliated, and because of this remove myself from the situation, and thus remove the source of information, the alternative structure - the other person - out of my field of awareness. You need some strength, some experience with conflict to humiliate the other one. Because you have to fear a potential retaliation if you do. And if you are afraid of this, afraid of conflict in general, you don't do this. You retreat. Flight or fight. -
Listened to this song and had to laugh when hearing the lyrics https://open.spotify.com/track/3ZSj6mykyCr6uAZ5Shb7RL?si=Q6xni628S5qCmSQJb_N8Vw No way - Mariama
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theleelajoker replied to theleelajoker's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Since posting the song: Hundreds of posts about all kind of discussions, metaphysical arguments, explanations, who's right and who's wrong, about masculinity, femininity, survival value, about narcissism and definitions of enlightenment, awakening and dick-comparisons about who's more awake. And one guy, @Razard86, commenting on a joyful song about life. I was soooooooooooo wrong thinking this is the theme song for actualized lol Maybe it's time to take a break or leave this forum just reached 888 posts shortly ago should have left then -
It's kind of strange passage. Yes OK women are like this and that, but as @Puer Aeternus pointed out then it's a "oh just generally" And then it's "women are more like this and that" but also, "yin and yang", and nothing better just different. I made a great discovery today I want to share: I found out that my pillow is smaller then my blanket. I noticed that it's better to use my pillow for my head, and my blanket for my body. You could say the blanket is male because it's bigger, but you could also say it's feminine because it can wrap me like my mothers womb when I was a baby. You could say the blanket is - generally speaking - better because I could use it as blanket AND as pillow. But then, if I am in my hammock, the blanket is too big to use as a pillow so...pffff, don't know, tough one, very tough. Moreover, there is a yang in the blanket as I could use it as pillow, but there is also a yin in my pillow because my little nephew is so small, he could use it as a blanket, too! And that's just the outside! You have no idea what I discovered when I opened up to the divine inside my yin blanket and my yang pillow!
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Yeah would be great if they just said that they want only sex and orgasms Women CAN have a way of making you like them for some stuff they are just pretending (same applies for men oc)
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When I had my Parisian gf, in one year, we never went to the tour eiffel. Small cafes, walking along the seine, forest fontainebleau or other nature around the city. Makes me quite sentimental thinking about it
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theleelajoker replied to samijiben's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
I think where it gets blurry is that judgement can also work as an assumption depending on context, time frame. Example: You loose your job, your gf breaks up, you car breaks down You judge the situation as "bad" because you experience right now negative consequences, a decrease in life quality. Examples: You can afford less, you worry about future (job), you are sad for not having company, Sex, intimacy (gf),your way to work takes double, can't make weekend long weekend trips (car) But it turns out, that 6 months later: Because you lost your job, you reorientate and find a even better one Because one gf left, you realize that your happier on your own or find a gf that fits even better You start using bike π² and are feeling much better and healthier So you judged something is bad, but as information and evidence changed, you realize that your judgement was actually an assumption. As soon as you introduce the dimension of time, things get IMO a bit blurry. You can still say "I don't like the consequences now" and be aware that your judgement is fluid, and take the assumption that it can be good in the long run even judged negatively now -
Next time, combine it with a french baguette. Psychoanalysis without baguette is like Paris without the Tour Eiffel
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Drop all expectations. No There is no luck, just stuff happening