theleelajoker

Yeah jaw is CRAZY! Most people I get to know tell me that they grind their teeth, that they use a mouthpiece at night (me too). I get you with going straight to the spot...I tried to direly dissolve it, did not manage this way. Indirect seems better for me for now. But great that it works differently for you everybody is unique : ) And not overfocusing...yeah, that seems crucial. Can happen easily Definitely challenging. New territory. Also happy about the sharing. Can't take the credit for the framing though Another user said sth like this in a different context (don't remember who) and for me it was worth adapting and sharing. Gave me..kind of new hope, you know? I know people that are not in their body at all and maybe they wished they could feel like we do...

Yes I agree. For me it often feels like a subconscious inner conflict that is not aware to many of us humans (including myself, I'm not immune). There's the fight to avoid pain and get pleasure, but also a desire for truth, for something more. Like a inner tug of war. Well description IMO re the mechanisms of "tiring you out". Let's see how fast that will happen

Re the "I am alive and I'm real" --> yeah don't know enough as well, it just surprised me. Infinite words you can say for grounding and this particular sentence seemed very metaphysical for me. Re Jim Newman Watched the first minutes will watch more later in the gym. I like the start and how he says "it's new, it's fresh, it's unknown, alive immediate" and how he compares it with the "I know, I am here, separation"

Yes... but also, he's a projection/ reflection. You put "people" in quotes, so I guess you know what I mean. Whatever you (or me) discuss with him, it's happening in our field of awareness and it's ultimately a reflection of you/me. This road of "others" feels increasingly like a dead end to me. I could be wrong oc. No harm in trying.

Makes sense. Interesting theory. It was very funny to watch a podcast with Peter Levine some days ago. He talked about this and that, showed an exercise where you say a sentence: "I am alive and I am real" (at about 19:30) So it's all about managing the "unrealness" of our experience? We can manage ourselves when we feel alive, when we are engaged in the drama but eventually we have to recognize that we are not? Just reflections and made up "dream material?" Really, it's the last thing I expected from a guy that teaches somatic stuff...."I am alive and I am real". Such a weird moment when I watched this

Feeling it since April, and especially since May when it got much stronger. So I get you re this. Re Psylocibin, it's certainly individual. Maybe it's a different substance for you that helps, maybe none is the best. Don't really know about Angelo. Have seen a video once I guess? Also, not sure if the experiences can be transferred from one individual to another. Your experience with psylocibin seems very different to mine for instance. Maybe it's useful to hear what he's saying, but for me it feels like a message of "find our yourself what you need, feel yourself, find ways to manage your body, find ways to make the best of this experience, don't look too much outside for advice but listen to your own organism". Might be I am wrong and outside advice helps and I am making up a story of "need to do it on my own", but that's how I perceive it right now.

Great question. My POV - as of now - is to go deeper into it, but at calm pace. Stretch, move, work out, relax, cry, laugh, sauna, meditate, talk about it. Interact. Focus attention equally outwards and inwards. It was a overwhelming for me at first to go directly at those somatic stuff with my attention. That's why I say calm pace. So it's like when you meet a woman. Even if you feel it's right, and she's the woman of your life, you don't say "marry me let's have kids" on the first date. You say "was nice seeing you, let's go to the cinema next week?" Or whatever, be gentle. You might even say 'was nice if you want to meet again give a call I'm open to it". You get my point I guess. Psylocibin was / is VERY useful at calming down, setting a state where its easier to experience the somatic stuff. Not a "solves it all" but a great step in good direction. But as I said, new territory for me so can't say I "know" what's best. But whatever and however I do it inside my body, outer reality reflects it almost immediately. Have fun exploring!

The emotional content you mention - what do you think, it's truly a obstacle to overcome or is a feature of reality , like a quest in a video game? Or both? IME, you go MOSTLY go back. Welcome to the show. Ready for the second act? Grap your popcorn 🍿

@Jannes Thanks mate!

Hmm not exactly the same, but some stuff in this direction. Strong feeling in the chest, yes. Dizzy, yes. Up to the point that I couldn't move and when I moved I almost cracked my skull falling down lol. Lucky there was a wall saving me. Breath yes. For me it sometimes is like a very short, flat, panic breath. Less self states, yes. But it's not always that it's connected to the symptoms above in a timely order. Can happen with time between, sometimes a bit random I guess? My sister once said something when I talked about the feeling of dissolving, becoming "free". She said "yeah well but your body is holding you here". So that might be sth like a "inner conflict", body and mind, contraction and freedom. Don't know my self just guessing

50+ views and nobody has experience / want to share experience re mushrooms and tripping? Hard to believe Next time I'll create a thread I'll add an elaborate story, about elves, about truth, about god communicating with me on mushrooms. Actually, I did not want to mention it...but GOD told me to ask this question in this forum! Really, before I did not want to brag or so, but REALLY REALLY, it's the TRUTH with capital T! He appeared to me, together with Shiva, three dogs, and a snail. So you're not replying to me, you are replying to God. And it's important that you reply honestly! It's of tremendous importance because if you don't answer truthful (with small t) then the machine elves will come at night and take your underwear...yeah, it's true, and it's scary. They take your underwear and hide it where you'll never find it. Want to keep your underwear, yeah? So reply to this thread as best as you can.

My mistake. Dot instead of comma. 6.969 degrees. Burnt anima is ok. With anima, or women (women pls read "men" here) it's same like the Queen (Jack) in card game. Just draw the next one. No more queens (jacks) in the deck? Accuse the others of cheating and reshuffle the deck. Playing alone? Accuse yourself of cheating and reshuffle the deck. Hm the Bugatti logo is more serious. Got any people experiences in taking scalps around you? Maybe they can teach you how to take another person's forehead, how to exchange it with yours and then try again. Don't waste another cigar, borrow a branding iron.

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Yes well said. Interesting that you say "seeking to end it". I wonder how many people feel like that. I remember my ex saying once something like "I feel like I don't belong here". Can be interpreted in many ways, as looking for a place in society, where you live etc but when she said it, I had a feeling that it's more than that. Felt like a metaphysical meaning. Might be my projection, who knows. I sometimes just wonder about how the roles are played. I mean, is it necessary that things are played the way they are now? Pretending, hiding? And when I dig deeper, ask questions, have really open dialogue, there's often a lot of resistance. I mean I get it, I have resistance too and was afraid when approaching dissolution in mediation. But still, if there is a deeper, genuine desire for people (or "it") to end this game, then there are better ways to do that, aren't there? And it's funny because "it" is capable of immediate role switching, dropping the persona like a glove. I have seen it many times and here in the forum there are other stories about it.

Yes that is true (or better seems true??? Haha 😂). And whatever way it is, it's my experience as well that as you say we live with the assumption that " the world works a certain way". Whole societes, life is built on that. Even free will lol. Imagine how law system, prison, sentences would look if we dissolve the ASSUMPTION of free will. So how we treat crimes then? Reality is of paradoxical nature and can be quite confusing, but also quite entertaining... which are maybe the two main functions of it? Seems like it

You mean for example: Person A likes vulnerability in someone ("authentic expression!"), while it's a red flag for Person B ("so weak!") Or Person A likes to take responsibility for both him/her and partner ("cool I'm useful and important"), while Person B would stay away ("I only like independent people")

OK..so if I get it right what you said...everything is fine just the way it is? You are fine with exactly how you are, your life circumstances, your relationship towards women, and you don't want to change anything? No regrets about talking two years with someone asexual? No problem with being too nice or too toxic? So for you, it's just fun to think about it, to write about it, to ruminate about it, to intellectualize it, yes? Then I recommend to take the 3/4 phallic position while your anima violently rides the parts of you that represent your toxic masculintiy in reverse cowgirl. Afterwards hold your head under cold water - must be exactly 6,969 degrees (you guess why) and do a french cunnilingus with a tradition to overcome your racial fears. After this, take your shirt off, stitch yourself a tattoo saying "Jacques Lacan" right above the belly button and the words "not a phallus, but a castration" on the forehead. Walk through the streets of your french village and and shout in alternate order "viva la france", "egalite fraternite liberte" and "Kurwa Kurwa Kurwa" (polish accent please). As a final act, urinate in front of your parents house while they watch and shout "That's for you Daddy! Mommy, are you mine now?" When you finished this, go visit a psycoanalyst close to you and say to him: Please, Mister help me. What's going on with me? I bet 500 french francs and half a baguette that you'll have fun intellectualizing things together with him for the next two years

Imagine there is zero causality and zero correlation, just the illusion of those two. And every "teacher" every person saying "so and so" is simply wrong. Not saying IT IS like that (I could never know) but entertaining this thought make me laugh again

HOLY SHIT I WAS ABOUT TO WRITE THE SAME FUCKING THING! Damn magic, this maya Really, both points. 1. Leo does not seem to me a good source on relationships and women. Great on other topics, but living in isolation, and the derogatory way he talks about others etc he's not a source I would put trust in re these topics 2. Never met anyone that does not have any "red flag", even the happiest couple I know, living together for decades have all kind of "topics". It's being human IMO. Plus: You choose your gf for a reason, and there is always a subconscious matching pattern IME. So meeting and dating quite a few emotionally unstable women in certain periods in my life I was - yeah you guess it - not the most emotionally stabe person myself ahahaha

If some behavior makes you feel bad afterwards, and maybe even the other, what use does it have? Honesty (or call it truth) was a huge value for me most of my life. Was very strong about it, and quite a few people like and appreciate me for this. But I also got into a lot of troubles for that. At some point I realized that it's not so much MY VALUE, but it's a conditioning I got through family because my father ALWAYS PREACHED honesty above all. What he did not say is that he was dishonest as fuck, in public life, towards family and towards himself. He just created a image of honesty but deviated at will from that whenever useful for him. As a kid I was not able to figure out the nuances, what stuck was the simple message of how important honesty is. Seeing this conditioning with my sister also helped seeing it with me, because it's typically harder to recognize your own programming. And becoming aware that it's just a program, you can change and adapt it almost at will. Bottom line IME: It's not absolute "truth" vs. "kindness" It's about an individual mix - every situation, every person, every topic is different How much truth and honesty is constructive? How much can the other take? How much truth does the other WANT? How important is it for me now to be totally honest, how much am I OK with just saving face? One thing is to super gently approach the answer to these questions. There is the example of "Do you think I look fat/in this?" A gentle approach would be to get more information about the person before giving an answer, especially if you don't know the person yet or are unsure of his/her state: Hmm..what's your opinion? How you feel in it? Why do you ask? You have alternatives to wear? Sometimes you can answer directly, oc. Just saying it can be good to check how open the other is to what kind of exchange of information. Check how the relationship is between you and the person. For instance, person is not actually insecure and if you answers "yes you look fat" person will say "Yeah thought so too, I rather take the other jeans my ass looks better in that one". So it's not always insecurity asking this question. I once told a metaphorical story to two people within a short time that illustrated a behavioral pattern in them and could be helpful in moving on with a problem. Same story, same way of telling it. One person was immediately grateful and happy about me telling this story, the other one basically told me to fuck off and that I am an arrogant idiot, treating her like a child. Difference was their personality re openness to information and the respective "relationship credit" Good one sentence summary IMO. Applies to every individual relationship, situation.

That made me laugh

Have you ever felt something one could call love towards another person? Forget about sex, or kissing etc, can be something much more simple. I think of a situation where you walk, sit or lie somewhere with a someone else. You look at him/her, you totally accept this person as he/she is, you wouldn't change a tiny little thing. You know this person is "not perfect", can't do some things, doesn't know some things, is maybe insecure or scared or something else. But it doesn't bother you. Not at all. Quite the opposite. You actually find these traits somehow charming, it's what makes this person unique. You can relate to him/her, you feel a connection and you're not judging. You simply enjoy the presence of this person. You fully embrace and accept him / her exactly how this person is in this moment. If given the chance to be with anyone else, or anywhere else, you would choose to be with this person - right here, right now. You know a situation like this? If yes, you have this feeling towards yourself as well? At least sometimes? If not, how does it feel to give the same experience of acceptance and love to yourself instead of the other person? Or you don't feel like that at all, neither others nor yourself? Curios if and if yes what maybe happens to your micro-macro projection about girls, toxicity, maya, and your anima if that feeling arises towards yourself and others.

Had a GF that took a lot of stuff and nothing really changed. When high, she understood everything but never put it into practice. It was a bit like you say, excuse to take them. For some time, I have seen things like you. But with more experience (life experience + own experience with psychedelics) I say it's too black and white the way you frame it. Read studies on MDMA and mushrooms for instance, they are getting more popular in Europe and show results in different dimensions (trauma, depression, spiritual experiences, but also rewiring of brain) It's not a "solve everything now pill", many many variables play a role, but there is some effect. IME, it can be a powerful part of a system where you work on different levels (body, mind, job, social environment etc). Are there people that use it in just a "rollercoaster way"? For sure. Did psychedelics change my life (tremendously)? For sure. Did I use psychedelics but still some behavioral patterns are unchanged even if I desire otherwise? For sure. Are some mushrooms sessions equally (or even more) effective as therapy for me? For sure. Look for PAT for instance https://www.abct.org/fact-sheets/psychedelic-assisted-therapy/

@AudibleLocket Tough man. Been there, too. No way to sugarcoat it, 4 years is a long time. Lot's of connection and bonding, also with living together. Same time, being emotionally drained from the relationship sucks as well. Can be like a black cloud. Don't know you, her or the situation. But is there any chance to get some distance? Physically, geographically, emotionally etc? Chance to go away for few days, hiking, talking walks, visiting places outside normal routine to connect to yourself? Physical movement to get some tension out of your body, sweating, sauna etc. Might help you to move in your decision making process towards

Maybe will be relevant for others, I reply even if it's old thread. Aligns very well with my experience. Food tastes like 5 star deluxe menu almost every time : ) I agree on the pain part from @Recursoinominado above. The dopamin and caffeine stuff can certainly be useful. The 1h part - well, I went there first time with basically zero meditation experience. Even later, I never was able to sit 1h before without moving. You can easily and quickly pick up this ability duriing the 10 days, so you can relax about that. IME, the majority of old and new students can't do this when starting the reareat (inlcuding myself). IME als integration is key, it's good to have someone to talk about if afterwards.