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Re Ana Kasparian Reaches Tier 2: People like that now their side is full of shit already. I don't think she is honest with how she saw the bad sides of her political side just in the recent years. Bit of a stretch but I do think she guessed the power dynamics and money will change sides in her business(politics) and chose the fruitful side.

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@Heaven @Sandhu Thx guys. Will keep a clear mind and chip away to the goals.

Hey hello, I really do consume superb content. Like, you know the feeling when a sentence is heard and everything clicks and the knot in your head unties. Yeah, I feel that many times. When I look at my life though I see that there's a huge gap between where these untying, superb, amazing ideas are and how they fit into my life. After this gap happened so many times I stared to think if these ideas are not worth much compared to experience and maybe that's the reason they don't effect my life. But in my heart I feel as if these ideas are soo valuable but I lack something in me to add their value in to my life. What do you think? Where is the balance between experience and lessons/information? Is there a attitude towards content that enables it effect in your life? (tldr: If you think it's too long, you need to read it and increase your attention span, which is as short as a goldfish's)

When I get bored about work and suffer I remind myself to embrace it and the fact that this is exactly where my growth will happen. Or when hesitating to approach someone in someway being scared of the out come I remind my self that I will die someday and its not that important. Shit like that. Recently noticed these.

Yeah sometimes I do slightly feel it, what I've learned/heard gets repeated in my mind when the situation is right. But they don't effect fully.

I feel a constant desire for connection in some ways parallel to yours. Would be guiding if @Leo Gura answers broadly.

Hey @Leo Gura curious about this appreciate if you could give your perceptive? I could say "they did it first" but that doesn't feel right. Then what do you do when you are in this situation fight,war,divorce etc. and the other side plays it dirty and doesn't care about truth(or less than you)?

I could say "they did it first" but that doesn't feel right. Then what do you do when you are in this situation fight,war,divorce etc. and the other side plays it dirty and doesn't care about truth(or less than you)?

@Leo Gura Don't you have to fight devils at their level. Hezbollah terrorist members if they could would do the same if not worse. Its naïve to wait for one side to fight clean/fair while the other is throwing sand at your face

@PurpleTree Also its like having a lover and then make a painting of that lover and -even though you have your lover at your side- you go show affection and love to the painting. Cant see romantic scenarios in that approach

@Hojo The thought patterns that lead to heavy emotion- god I still get abused by 'em when shit gets tough.

@Butters when he put it as a "computer". I imagined a dopamine spamming activity "feel good brain masturbation" kind of thing and doing it for the sake of feeling good. Gratitude is cool though, it clarifies what's good and meaningful in ones life.

Insightful analysis. How do you go about avoiding and moving past old beliefs/thoughts that got introduced this way?

@lostingenosmaze just checked it now. Seems pretty legit to plan out a number of task and monthly agendas. Rn I just have to study for 6-8 hours and small daily tasks here and there but thx for suggestion maybe I can use something like this in a busy complicated future . Btw there is one tactic I use for "journaling" I keep a short list of most desired outcomes in my life and read it 3 times a day and think about them throughout the day.

Hey hello I've been here lurking for a while and decided to ask for help and percpective on the given title. Last year in my first year of a CS degree I failed due to not working at all except a day or two before finals. Did Not meet the credit quota for the second semester. I failed and went back to my home country for 8 months. Now I am back in the country where I am studying and I will be studying and plan on passing the same course. Whenever I start studying I distract myself with digital media. Even though I made it hard to reach certain sites and apps but since I have to study on a computer the distractions are always a few clicks away. I was a spoiled and unattended kid. Parents gave me a laptop at 7 and since then it's been my precise little escape from myself and the world whenever something is "unpleasurable". I haven't done anything tedious or diligent by myself. So if I feel bored or stuck while studying I distract myself in any way possible. I considered the narrative that computer science was not my purpose in life and maybe that was the reason for all of this but the thing is that I don't do diligent work for anything. On the meaning and purpose side I have many things going on too. I have been into computers and games since I was a child. CS pays well(important point since I am from a third world country and gotta stand on my own two feet). Even though there are many more points why this is the optimal path in life for me it isn't working out. Uni will start in a couple of weeks and I am not working near enough. I am back in the spiral of anxiety about study-sit down for study-distract myself whenever there is something unpleasurable-have guilt/shame-more anxiety. I feel like I am an incompetent lazy child. I need a way to get out of this rut. Not so fun fact, this is the last chance for me if I fail this time i will have to go back permanently. Would love to hear suggestion and takes on this.pls tldr: struggling with uni due to digital addiction, asking suggestions, seeking a way out

@Davino amazing suggestions

cheers to that

@Hojo Thought you were visualising old experiences and fantasising or some shit like that to feel good. Mantras are cool though.

is this healthy from a self development perspective?

@Treewatcher Imma cut it quick. When I didn't try to do "discipline" or could be called "bulldozering" my way into study and instead felt the nagging boredom and all of the other unpleasant things. I noticed they had a source, base, root. It was a reality I was not accepting, avoiding. For me this reason was the huge discrepancy between where I was and where I believed I was in terms of academics and the value that I provide for myself, family etc. I accepted that I didn't have anything tangible going on for me. Felt like a bum(still do) but it got me going cause I see where I am at which creates the appropriate drive to study etc.

@Ramanujan it seems like a tool that I can use to memorize functions both in calc and C. I can give it a shot. Sure I'll take a look at it.