Daniel Miheilov

I love you and also basically everybody else is not very satisfying sentence to hear. My biggest problem would be identifying love. I surely have a lot of it, just can't find it. I want to be able to confidently say "I love this person" without the "Eh...but do I, really?" And the other way around, it sounds damn empowering to be able to grasp what others actually mean when they say "I love you" What people GENERALLY mean and when I should feel comfortable I'm answering THEIR demands of "love" is my main question. The more advanced and far more useful actualization advice is greatly helpful in the long-term but really, it's this crisis I want solved.

After a long walk around, it comes back to this problem. Help.

So long as negativity is getting you working towards positive change - it's doing its job right. Well...if you're not embarrassed of sharing - tell us why you don't think you're good enough for "a woman". It'll only be general talk before you do so and you probably want specifically your problem solved. Also tell us your standards for the opposite sex, what would you want from your girl?

While I understand where you are coming from with these answers, my question is simply : Is it invaluable experience that I'd be missing were I to only date a single girl in my life There is no replacement she can give me for actually getting to know other girls, mind and body. Is it a truly important thing I'd skip over?

Both of us : 19 Met in school, were in same class Were going out for just about a year Going to the same uni We were planning on renting a place and living together, since the uni is in a different city from the one we live in. Then thoughts started creeping up about how I'd probably live with her for the rest of my life if it happened that way. She's my first girlfriend and I'm her first boyfriend. So basically all of the relationship experience we have is with each other. Sounds kind of bad to have only had one girlfriend your whole life. Started thinking hard about it. I'm not quite sure what love is and whether I "love" her and that didn't help. Am I really happy with her? Would I be happier with another girl? It's not that I'm UNhappy with her but really, having only one girlfriend? She's quite serious about spending the rest of her life with me and I'm not sure she's thought it through very well either. So I decided I did want another girlfriend. I mean - isn't this period of my life - college - the time to be exploring, getting experience with at least 2 or 3 girls so I see what I like and I don't? Took action and now we've broken up. That was a month ago. She was quite shaken at first but now there are no bad feelings between us. She does want me back, though. And she's thought quite a lot during this month. It's not that I really disliked her or anything so it's sort of hard to keep saying no to her - she is indeed trying hard to prove herself. I'm wondering what to do about this now. Breaking up with her now means that if I want another girlfriend I have to work for it so that's potentially a ton of growth. Being with the actual new girl would also be a very fresh experience (not that the previous relationship got stale...I mean it'd only been for a year) and should bring new insights And I mean come on, only having sex with one girl my whole life? Well...is it actually that bad? Lost on this choice, have no idea which option is better. Will keep thinking about it but want third party opinions on whether it's bad to miss out on the experience I could have dating other girls as opposed to staying in this engaging relationship.

Happiness is the ultimate goal and it's basically achieved when you are able to unconditionally love everything and follow the great wisdom of "if you love something, let it go". In a sense, at least. So no wonder I'm hearing a lot about love in Leo's videos. However! I honestly have no idea what love is. Maybe it's a silly question but I'd really appreciate a detailed answer. My relatives apparently love me, my girlfriend loves me, probably some other people love me. But I've never been confidently able to say I loved somebody. It's always puzzled me whether I do or do not. From all I've been told I can only gather it's something you just know is so and if you have to ask yourself, then it probably is not. Is that really correct? My prime guess is that I've set my expectations far too high for this "feeling of love". So much so that I'm waiting for something huge I've never felt before to shake my little world so hard it's impossible to mistake it. Is that bad? I'm quite lost on this matter. Often when related topics come up I get quite awkward about it and try to avoid it at all cost because it feels like I'm different. A heartless person or one who lies about it as some kind of pretentioussness. And my truth is that I just don't know. Maybe I love nothing and maybe I love everything but my expectations are so different I don't notice it. So, am I heartless? Are my parents not worth loving and I haven't found the right girl either? Or have I misguided myself?