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Happiness also depends on your perspective and bias. For example, in my family iMessage group chat, my father sent a YouTube video of Sunday Mass. I replied by sending a video of a church steeple catching fire after being struck by lightning. I’m sure my mom, dad, and sister would be unhappy and afraid seeing the church being caught on fire, but I found joy seeing it crumble, as it’s a metaphor for my anger towards my religious upbringing. Edit: oh shit, I remember that priest (I just managed to skim through the video just now). He was actually a pretty cool guy

Well, you can physically touch water, but not light. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Unless you want to argue and say you can touch a lightbulb, but don’t get clever with me

Woah, sick. I met someone yesterday who also got a name change

If you really desire it, chase happiness until it becomes very clear in your mind that it ain’t sustainable; that it’s making you miserable in the long-term. I talked to one of the hottest chicks long distance during the pandemic. She was one of the sexiest humans you could possibly imagine. We even had some of the best phone sex ever. It’s as if heaven’s gates opened every time she moaned. I’d control her Bluetooth vibrator all the way from a different place in the world. It was totally better than porn! And she sent me some of the best nudes, it would make your mouth water like an endless waterfall. All of this, free of charge. So… did all of this fantasy and ecstasy fulfill me? Of course not! Deep inside we were both still miserable as fuck. And, as you can predict, our relationship came and went. I realized that we were both using each other to avoid working on our own traumas and insecurities. She opened about many dark secrets about her that are honestly too traumatizing to talk about on here, and are of course private matters. I tried to help her, but she refused help from anybody. This is a lesson I’m glad I learned early on, rather than later, so as to not make the same mistake again. Focus on your own life first and stop depending on others to satisfy and complete you.

Are those people trustworthy?

There’s a difference between guiding others out of chains that they’re unaware of vs. reinforcing a false idea that they’re stuck in chains that they’ll never get out of.

It is beyond the domain of human intellect and imagination. I get it, it sounds like I’m copping out and parroting Leo. In any case, theorizing and trying to argue about such an experience is will only lead to more confusion and unnecessary beliefs about or against what I’m claiming. Which brings up another question… is what I’m referring to solipsism? Well, not in the way people usually present it. Because in order to claim “I am the only one in existence” is already taking you out of the radical experience that I’m referring to.

Sure, that can be true. But there are also radical experiences where the difference between light and dark is nowhere to be found.

I’m sure life will cook something up for you to enjoy, just wait and see!

Thank you. That’s a deficiency of mine and something I’ve been working on ^__^

The solution? Just ask Donald Trump

@Francis777 It’s also good to be aware of when you hurt others without them needing to explicitly tell you first. That’s a hallmark example of maturity.

Have you used the search function? Plenty of users talked about it, including Leo.

Precisely. The mind has many tricks up its sleeves. Instead of getting rid of your mind, though, you can use it more wisely. More refined roadblocks can be developed. Not to prevent bad things from entering your mind, but to create space for new and better constructions to be built. The roadblocks are only setup temporarily.

I’ve always assumed you’ve taken 5-MeO for some reason. I think I assumed that based on the fact that you’re going through some kundalini issues. I should watch my biased more.

Wait… didn’t Leo say he was struggling with gut related health issues? Fuck Leo, I should stop trusting his gut feelings!

@Kamo Authenticity can go a long way. For example, I was having all these fears and doubts about an upcoming date, but you know what? I opened up to her and admitted that I was nervous. And guess what? She also opened up to me! She said that she has no expectations about me; that she would also be focused on her own nervousness. This dropped a load of assumptions I had going into this date, such as having to be a certain way in order to impress her. I also realized that discomfort doesn’t have to be something you actively and constantly avoid, that is, if you’re truly open to discovering what lies beyond it. Let it go, Let it be, in perfect Authenticity.

@Kamo Haha, thank you for also replying. Sometime’s it’s not necessary to let it go; just let it be

The way I see it is that emotions are not a fixed, rule-based way. A simple example is that someone could appear happy, but deep inside they’re miserable. Start to observe little moments in yourself when you’re also misaligned in such a way, without judgement. If judgements arise, also don’t buy into its stories. It’s not about finding something wrong with you, but rather, being open to experiencing emotions in a broader and more nuanced way. My therapist once said that there are no rules surrounding feelings. Contemplate that. Start by consciously facing your fears at least once a day (big or small, up to you) even if just for a few minutes. Sit with that fear as openly as you can. Notice your distress going up, but don’t try to remove it by doing what you’re used to doing. Go against your programming, so to speak, and you’ll be surprised what new information can come about.

@Vibes Of course it’s painful and you hate living like that. Yet, it’s not the only way that reality is. Suffering can actually be deeply recontextualized, even after the event that you associate with suffering has seemingly long passed. For example, I recently was able to do this with a childhood traumatic event that happened 20 years ago; I was stuck with a stubbornly fixed version of that story for that long. Yet, when I contemplated deeply (way beyond my comfort zone), my entire framing of that one event was able to change drastically! And this is only one example out of an extraordinarily many! I didn’t plan to do this at all. It’s as if a power beyond my human/rational mind took over and began revealing what needed to be revealed. But it was not easy by any means… ha! I surely would not have been ready to face this even just a few months ago. It took enormous trust in myself to breakthrough. And nobody else could have done it for me - they can only help point in the right direction.

Taste and see.

Start by not needing to change or stop it. Your giving it more life by giving it any credibility to begin with. This opens the possibility of your mind expanding and seeing new perspectives that would have otherwise not have been available prior.

Can you open your mind to the possibility that how you perceive others’ and your own feelings may not be accurate?

There are valuable lessons everywhere. Start by noticing the greater wisdom at play here on this forum as objectively as possible. See this forum as if you’re seeing it for the very first time. Let’s expand our mind beyond our comfort zone, and especially be radically open to dropping all notions about what is true and what is false. — Now let’s talk about Mr. Gura for a second. Leo appears to have more valuable lessons than everyone else here. But consider that that’s exactly the internal and collective bias at work! Who says Leo is more authoritative than your own mind? Because Leo says so? Because he has hundreds of videos on spiritual, metaphysical, and practical topics? Because he’s taken more psychedelics than you? Because he has more life experience than you? Because he actively engages on this forum almost daily and says a bunch of beautiful shit? Can you not see that this is a major trap - to be putting all your trust onto Leeooooo? Yet, it’s not just Leo. You do this with other favorite teachers, friends, colleagues, professors, family….. the list goes on. Let’s start trusting ourselves more instead of always relying on some higher authority(s) outside of ourselves to “figure out” reality for us. Also, stop the game of claiming that your version of reality is better than another’s version of reality. Because more likely than not, you’re full of yourself!