Basman

I think Trump is just misunderstood... He's not okay 😔.

This sounds like it has more to do with your resentment over feeling singled out as a kid. You should find a more respectful way to deal with your grievances. They might change their behavior around you now but only because they think your nuts. Don't assume other people even know what you are seeing. They might not see that swearing in front kids is that serious. I haven't tried it myself yet, but I think that you should try to ask leading questions instead of trying to dominate people into doing what you want. For example, ask "do you think it is appropriate to swear like sailors in front of the kids?" They might not care but you asserted disapproval while exemplifying respectful conduct. Then they have the opportunity to change their behavior from a place of genuine understanding.

Your top values should be more aspirational and noble relative to the world. It's all about the impact you want to have on the world and family isn't "the world". That doesn't mean you can't value family in the general sense. Who doesn't. That said, I do love my parents. I wish I could buy them their retirement.

Contemplation and studying. I haven't read a single book yet 😁.

You clearly have an anti-western bias. I don't know if your Muslim or something. You bring up some interesting points like western bias in spiral dynamics but it comes of as in bad faith rather than genuine interest in learning. Nor do you do meaningfully contribute to the conversation as you rebuke obvious and basic stuff. It should be obvious that spiral dynamics isn't a moral judgement. I'm not going to waste my time on your trolling anymore.

It's a pejorative term that can send the wrong message if that is not your intent. Ask yourself, what is the problem with referring to people from the global south as "blacks" or "N-words"? Global corruption index, standard of living, mean age, freedom of press, economic stability, infrastructure, women's rights, education, global slavery index, per capita income, access to health care, cultural tolerance, technology, security, etc. Would you rather live in Japan or Syria? That is development.

Focusing on the ethnicity of colonization is ironically a colonist concept. Colonization is essentially just another form of domination like the conquest of the Roman Empire or Alexander The Great. European colonization has more to do with geographical and cultural factors that allowed for effective exploitation of less culturally/technologically developed countries. It has less to with ethnicity and more with opportunity and timing. The desire to dominate others is universal because it is advantageous for survival. Focus on "race" or ethnicity is a red herring if the goal is to actually understanding geopolitical domination and a past of such. I believe there is a degree to which people from certain countries that have been affected by colonialism have resentment for Europe/the West and feel justified in being racist towards "white" people, I.E. punching up. Probably also mixed in with a lack of education and a relatively illiberal culture. I have a Greenlandic relative who likes to make racist remarks sometimes, which is apparently common among Greenlanders. I once joined in once because you kind of lose the sense of wrongness of something when everyone supports it. I made a "white" person visibly uncomfortable and I immediately regretted it. Racism is about putting people down so it's never really justified to base a conversation on race unless it is a meta-discussion.

The idea that men are picky is really funny and untrue. I've seen bridge trolls get hit on by conventionally handsome men. Guys will fuck peanutbutter jars and melons. Most guys don't have crazy standards. Of course, everyone likes hot chicks but that is another story.

Judging purely by his appearance he does look like the king of groupies and like he experiments a lot with drugs. Wouldn't let him near me daughter.

Brain scans don't lie or make up stuff. In fact, they don't say anything at all. It is just data. To extrapolate any kind of conclusion requires interpretation. What annoys me the most about porn haters is that they present themselves knowing what is best for you when in reality their priority is their arbitrary moral convictions. The veneer of medical authority is a trojan horse to convince you of their ideology and there isn't enough push-back to it. Porn very well may be harmful to a certain extent if presented with the evidence but there is no diligence at all. Maybes are turned into absolutes. I'm most worried about young guys whose head gets filled with this nonsense and are being misinformed. It distracts from proper self-improvement which entails meaningful action. Not magical thinking and half-baked science. Never take medical advice from people that can't even get basic science right.

Wilson's argument boils down to applying the coolidge effect unto humans which is controversial because it is essentially argues that novelty seeking is the root of "porn addiction". But how do you differentiate between "porn addiction" and "internet addiction". Are you a porn addict or actually just an internet addict? It's the same issue as with the previous example, porn could potentially be the cause of brain deterioration but it can't prove definitely that porn is the cause due to lacking that evidence. It is therefor pseudoscience to claim that it does anyway. Wilson has made it his career peddling pseudoscience to an audience of mostly moralists who have already made up their mind on porn. His theories lacks empiricism to support the claims he makes and he isn't academically supported. That's why I don't consider him serious evidence. I don't need to justify myself to anyone unlike moralists who need that justification to feel ideological congruence. The thing is, it doesn't even matter. It's not even a problem to make a value judgement but a lack of transparency is. Misinformation should be treated as such. Here's a good read that criticizes Wilson's theory on porn addiction: https://figshare.com/articles/journal_contribution/Between_platonic_love_and_internet_pornography/23449100?file=41265894

You don't think that your response can itself be considered trolling?

Yes. You don't know what you don't know. None of the resources you shared is serious evidence. If porn use has serious medical consequences, then why aren't we seeing a proportional response from the medical community or governments? If it so bad, then why aren't we seeing people's lives ruined relative to the amount of porn being consumed, like for example the opium wars in China? Why not? How do you know that that wouldn't work and what is informing your perception? Keep in mind that perception isn't pure data but an interpretive process, so if you see a street orgy and you feel that is bad, how do you recognize the effect that preconceived ideas about social norms and chastity aren't influencing your view? How do you know whether or not it is actually unethical? Ethics is a serious matter that demands diligence and critical thinking. Postulating and assuming the conclusion isn't wholly sufficient for leading to a healthy society nor should the goal of society be to perpetuate a particular religious/conservative identity.

You shouldn't make a strong empirical claim like that porn destroys your brain if you can't provide serious evidence. It's essentially misinformation. It's fine to a have hunch about porn being bad but the lack of transparency comes off as deliberate and misleading. This is a different argument, that porn is a distraction. You would have a much stronger case against porn use if you focused on lifestyle over pseudo-science. In my own experience, overindulging on porn is bad not for health reasons but because it is an unproductive waste of time. Though I think there is still a degree of moral attitude steering the conversation. The problem with moralizing is that it's an arbitrary attitude relative to the individual/culture which is not inherently accurate of reality or applicable/desirable to everyone since people are different. Why even rail against porn so much if you don't have a moral conviction about it? If young men are not taking their lives seriously and wasting their time watching porn, what else are they missing in life? Too much porn is just a symptom in the majority of cases in my opinion.