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That is because it is unproductive to watch porn for that long. Not because masturbation is "anti-success" in any inherent sense. Playing too many video games is more likely to be detrimental to your success than masturbation these days. It is a loud minority. Most people don't give a shit. Nofap is a radical echo-chamber, ascribing magical qualities to abstinence.

I have the opposite problem with my dad. I wish he was a bit harder on me actually. He spoils me too much and it made me quiet soft I think. He is otherwise very understanding but doesn't really push me for success. Quiet hands off. But also out of touch with his problems.

I had an epiphany relative to shame. Basically, I realized that shame comes first. It is the cause not the result. I don't experience shame because I don't have the things I want to but I'm ashamed of myself and I feel not good enough so I emotionally can't connect with others in the way that I want. It is like a distorting filter which I notice when I talk to people. I can literally feel it in the back of my mind whenever I talk to people. Yesterday I spoke to my dad conscious of this filter and decided to forego it and I spoke from the heart. Not in a corny sappy way, I just didn't try to game my speech which felt like speaking from the heart. It felt both relieving and elating, like I for the first time truly spoke. It's pretty clear what I need to do now.

What kind of relationship would you like to have with your dad?

Inaction will ruin your life. Masturbation is barely a blip, at worst a symptom of an underlying sense of inadequacy. Most successful guys aren't successful in spite of masturbation but because they work hard and are blessed with good fortune. While fapping as much as they want. The internet will brainwash you into overstating the significance of masturbation because it is easily sold clickbait. It is it's own cottage industry.

Nofap is a kind of mind virus that preys on unsuccessful men's frustrations and preconceived moralizations about masturbation. Actual self-improvement comes from doing meaningful action like working-out, healthy socialization, therapy, education, etc. The only tangible thing that depriving yourself does is save time. If you subscribe to nofap there's statistically a higher chance that you are depressed. I think this is because one's life is empty and lacking in meaning, so you obsess over this relatively insignificant thing as a way to feel a sense of control (plus justifying moral attitudes). I can't imagine someone who's rocking life is concerned about whether or not they masturbate all that much.

That poor girl's feelings...

There is no double-standard. They are both ideological extremes rooted in historical, religious and cultural factors.

A mix of post-colonial/societal estrangement (in the case of migrants), religious extremism and seeing the West as everything wrong with the world. Muslim countries and culture are predominately SD Stage Blue/Red which results in a lack of integration with western societies (or perhaps hostility). They are developmentally barbarians, which matters a lot. European ethnocentrism towards Arabs definitely matters as well and is partially responsible for radical Muslims but I'm not sure if it is actually possible for Europe to properly integrate Muslims in hindsight compared to the US, where Muslims seem to integrate better with the culture. Here's an interesting paper that discusses how young Muslim men are radicalized: https://www.ps.au.dk/fileadmin/site_files/filer_statskundskab/subsites/cir/pdf-filer/khosrokhavar.pdf Here's a ChatGPT summary of the paper (keep in mind possible inaccuracies): FYI, the paper itself underscores racism and social ostracization to a greater degree than this summary does.

Hamas viciousness is in part due to a lack of viable ways for Palestinians to meaningfully change their political situation that doesn't involve extreme violence and blurring the line between combatants and civilians. Imagine if Ukraine was completely alone in it's war. The likelihood of Ukraine targeting Russian civilians would be much higher. Not to justify targeting killing of civilians but two things can be true at once. Israel is responsible for the extreme hostility close to its borders.

They act like Europe is the little brother they are forced to play with.

Trump's groupchat got leaked. https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2025/03/trump-administration-accidentally-texted-me-its-war-plans/682151/

You can't outsource learning wisedom to an institution because it is a matter of attitude to a large part in my opinion. Formal beurocratic learning is well suited for basic knowledge and skills but less so for more personal and esoteric stuff like learning to understand yourself as a person or relationships, etc. Ideally, you are taught to educate yourself and be curious about the world in addition to just school.

Acting on a creative interest can be very fulfilling. It is something you nurture for years and watch grow into something that expresses your particular brand of love. Act on what excites you and that you are passionate about and turn that into an art, something you hone for it's own sake. That is never futile. Don't get stuck in the stereotype of art being drawing naked people or playing the guitar.

I find this to bring hope. Thank you.

Depends on what I'd think would apply most to my mate's interests but it would probably skew towards something practical. The spiral dynamics, conscious politics and survival series are all great for someone who's interested in politics. The career oriented videos, like "how to escape wage slavery" or "should you go to college" are great too. I feel that you definitely need to sell them unto the content a bit in the process because a multi-hour long video on some niche topic is going to feel like a commitment to an Actualized virgin. I wouldn't hit anyone with the deep shit unless I'm certain they are interested in spirituality. That stuff will instantly flacidify most people and make them call Leo a cult leader.

This is the exact kind of compromise that green parties aren't willing to make. Either we save (insert social issue) today or never, even if technology/culture aren't up to task yet. Green policy tend to make living more expensive which ends up primarily burdening society's poorest, like for example mandating the use of electric cars in inner cities. Or increasing tax on pollution, which customers end up paying via higher prices. Or increasing immigration in spite of social polarization. It's "feel good" politics and categorically minority rule. The Danish green party "Alternativet" published a write-up of all the potential downsides of their policies. It is in Danish so you'll need to use Google translate but it is a great read into how green parties can be politically ineffective. They essentially admit that their policies will be nonviable. I commend them for having the integrity to actually make this. https://alternativet.dk/der-er-et-alternativ/politisk-program-og-nye-ministerier/ulemper-ved-vores-politiske-program

Green parties are too ideologically entrenched and bullheaded to be politically effective in my opinion. They are circlejerks.

In my experience, contemplation is a bit like directing a character in a top down RPG like Path of Exile or Runescape to use a gamer analogy. You don't directly control the character, instead you just direct what they do and then they act. I find contemplation to be kind of similar. The mind will figure things out if you focus and give it space to unfold.

L + ratio + ur bald + pedo logo + didnt ask + dont care + touch grass

Identity politics is easy to grasp. You just latch unto whatever side you resonate most with and go from there. It is crazy how American voters especially seem to be more concerned with identity politics over policy. Even just the appearance of policy.

I mean, Trump is not a permanent fixture. This will be his last term unless he coups the government I guess.

I don't like that it is a thing and I think it is unfair when it does happen but it is not as big of a deal as it tends to be portrayed as. Arguably, it is a symptom of society taking women more serious, as false allegations are nothing new. The problem is that there is no neat solution that I can see at least that also doesn't undermine real rape victims, which by far outnumber the amount of false allegations levied. If there is a viable solution then by all means but don't get all doomer over it, is what I'm saying. We can eat the cost as a society.

I'd like to keep my organs.

It is a tricky situation but there are many things that could ruin your life that are more likely to occur. You are unlikely to be falsely accused of rape in the first place. Counter-intuitively, by stigmatizing false accusations you risk discouraging vulnerable people from reporting real sexual crimes.