Basman

I'd move back to Amsterdam, help take care of my aging father, draw a lot, date around and find a partner, pay off my debts. Travel at some point to. I'm not that ambitious, really. You are right that all of these things are huge time sinks, not only money sinks, but I think it can be bit of a trap to over-value your time. Life doesn't need to be 100% efficient to be worth living and you can always get rid of things once they've been exhausted of what they are worth to you.

Ok, it is locked in now lol. Stay away. Done.

I think people who grew up "on the streets" learn to tell apart people who you should avoid because they are exposed to so many colorful people, some unsafe and chaotic. I think it is good to be wary of people. When I see someone who's kind of "weird" in a way that signals that they could start drama I generally avoid them as much as possible. I don't look at them even. I mind my own business. Ghastly. The botox make her look like a cheap slut.

There are clearly positive aspects to her, playful, friendly, beautiful. But she's clearly a mess. She seems desperate for some kind of unconditional love which could be a hold-over from unmet childhood needs and she seems to project that need very intensely. Wanting unconditional love from adults is a childish notion and maybe why she is so obsessed with this "Tim" guy. He seems to her like someone who is going to give her the kind of love she craves. If you where unscrupulous you could easily use her for sex. I can see it being harder to resist the temptation if you are more desperate for sex. she is supposedly beautiful.

I second to avoid any "women bad" social media content. It is a whole cottage industry know of videos "criticizing" the dating market, the behavior of certain women, criticizing women for being "illogical", etc. The problem is that it frames women as an "other" and shrinks your world view. Gender war derpstate that can get in the way of growth.

The "last version of Windows" is about to end. 4 things you can do: Upgrade to W11, though this may require a hardware upgrade. Stay on W10 at your own risk. You can permanently keep your PC disconnected from the net to mitigate security risks. Subscribe to ESU for three years of extended support (delaying the issue). Switch to Linux. Bloatware, ads and privacy issues are going to be a problem with W11, though it is apparently possible mitigate this problem by trawling through settings and disabling all sorts of widgets, bells and whistles. Copilot, while I'm wary of data harvesting, could potentially speed up data work. I'm considering switching to Linux though I've heard programs tend to work worse for Linux as it is an unpopular OS and therefor less prioritized. Thoughts?

Conflict isn't the end of the world. You should learn to prioritize your needs as opposed to compromise to keep the peace constantly. You need a strong sense of self to make the most of life. It shouldn't really matter what people think of you. Not being able to confidently say "no" to others is a huge disadvantage and will rob you of a lot energy and joy. How people treat you is generally an extension of their survival strategy. Maybe they are nice to you again after you started ignoring them because they rely on you for work. Point is, don't take it so personally. I recommend reading the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Glover. It is a self-help book about "nice guys" who struggle getting what they want in life. It sounds like you to be honest.

From your writing, it sounds like you try to keep the peace by placating what you perceive to be other people's wants as opposed to making your personal needs a priority and maintaining boundaries, I.E. it sounds like your needy. Needy = trying to get what you want and avoid conflict by being "good" to others. People might treat you badly because they sense this paradigm in you. It gives them a sense of power because you care about how they feel. The work culture at your job sounds kinda toxic as well. Very competitive and jealous.

That is SD Stage Orange for you. What we find attractive are generally signs of health and reproductive fitness. Glass hour figure is attractive because it signals fertility for example. It is genetic.

How so? What is the difference between selling your body sexually and clocking in to your 9-5 every day?

Social media tends to take a point and exaggerate it a lot. Women have always been valued for their looks. For better or worse, they are the peacocks of our species. The trap of being valued for your looks is basing your long-term survival and happiness on it because looks tend to fade with age.

Definitely, but nowhere to the same extent as with women. It's not as practical to deconstruct male gender roles. Women's roles used to be very stifling and the economy had to expand. Income is still the biggest predictor of long-term dating success/failure (divorces) and I think It is going to stay that way for the foreseeable feature regardless of cultural stereotyping simply because love is an economy of give and take between partners and men simply don't have the same innate features that add to the relationship like women do (beauty primarily).

I believe that conservative governments tend to rule more selfishly, creating policies that have short-term gain but damage a countries long-term prosperity. Often serving corporate interest. That's my idea at least. We have had a draft in Scandinavia for years, but in practice there are enough volunteers that it is rare for anyone to be drafted involuntary. If the UK makes conscription attractive (free college, pay, etc.) then getting the necessary amount of draftees per year shouldn't be a problem. The military prefers their recruits to be motivated and willing. The benefit of mandatory military service is that you have a bigger pool of trained manpower you can call upon in a time of crisis. I see it as a form of insurance. Like making winter preparations during the summer.

Really ironic that Russia justifies the invasion of Ukraine by saying they have nazis over there. Projection perhaps?

Yes. It is better to just not mention it, ever. They are too charged and stigmatized. People have different definitions of what words mean. Perception trumps truth in normal human interactions. People mostly learn of these words through biased sources that use these concepts as an extreme example to make some kind of argument about men or society. And most people just don't care enough to research the topic beyond that. Saying your an Incel is like saying you support seal clubbing.

I think the difference is here is just that a low-status man is worth a lot less to society whereas women are valued for their beauty. I believe another factor is that feminism deconstructed what it meant to be a women compared to before feminism while the same hasn't happened to the same extend to men. To this day, we still largely expect men to be providers, protectors, etc. though the expectation is softening with time I think.

Of course news matters if it directly relates to your life. I'm sure Ukrainians follow the news on their war intently even if they are refugees in another country because their life is shaped by the events that will transpire in the future in a tangible way. The same isn't true for 20-something college kids in relation to relative importance. My problem is really is that it is not the best use of your time to spend so much time and energy debating, fighting and protesting something that is not even your fight. It is unproductive and unlikely to produce anything meaningful. In fact, I think it can very well embitter and radicalize you. All this charged energy. To be clear, I don't think it is wrong to care about a foreign affair but there's a point where the energy you put in is just wasted. The best example of this is the college kids who got a criminal record during the campus occupation fad recently. Hurt their future prospects for nothing really.

@Ramanujan Do you use the free version? Also, can you seemingly insert images into obsidian notes?

Great job. I enjoyed reading how you take responsibility for your mindset and creativity in relation to life situations.

How is it better exactly. I might migrate depending. Is it easy to back-up your data into local files? How do the features compare?

The successful business of selling online courses that teach you how to sell and online course LOL.

These are all people having grievances over something indirect you said or did that they interpret to be about them but not communicating those grievances with you. Telling a fat girl if she wants help to lose weight is the most blatant example here. Of course she is going to be insulted because you are calling her fat in a way that comes of as fat being a problem. The Incel thing sounds to me like she had a very negative preconceived notion of what Incel means, plus pick-up artistry, it is like saying you're a former Nazi to certain people.

They are just more advanced now. Majority of people in elder care, teaching, kindergartens, etc. are women. Majority of people in infrastructure (housing, roads) and security (military, police) are men. Gender roles still exist today in practice but instead of a majority of a male/female population having those tradition roles, a minority specialize into those roles. Instead of all women caring for their kids all day, a minority of the women care for the kids of all the other women as their job. Same with the military and construction workers. You could say it is just an expression of genders expressing a preference for certain industries, but I really think it is just a more advanced version of traditional gender roles, what we have today. It is less rigid, it is more effective as people can specialize and increase productivity, and it is more free as you are no longer strictly defined by your gender. It is just a more advanced version of the previous system. I don't believe traditional gender roles where truly abolished, instead it was upgraded and made better to what we have now (and more obtuse and indirect as well).

Your thinking is too reductive. You can't truly divorce art from its craft because art is defined by its medium. A movie producer and a comic book artist have similarities, as they both work with a linear non-interactive visual medium but they are far from the same. There are huge differences in expertise between a veteran movie maker and a master comic book artist. My main concern with the AI is data theft from small creators, largely for the benefit of big companies. The problem is the legal grey here as data theft is barely a concept legally. And don't be too critical of artists who are upset over losing business over AI. Eventually your job security is going to be threatened by AI and then you'll be upset. Do unto others, etc.