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Everything posted by Basman
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You don't think that your response can itself be considered trolling?
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Yes. You don't know what you don't know. None of the resources you shared is serious evidence. If porn use has serious medical consequences, then why aren't we seeing a proportional response from the medical community or governments? If it so bad, then why aren't we seeing people's lives ruined relative to the amount of porn being consumed, like for example the opium wars in China? Why not? How do you know that that wouldn't work and what is informing your perception? Keep in mind that perception isn't pure data but an interpretive process, so if you see a street orgy and you feel that is bad, how do you recognize the effect that preconceived ideas about social norms and chastity aren't influencing your view? How do you know whether or not it is actually unethical? Ethics is a serious matter that demands diligence and critical thinking. Postulating and assuming the conclusion isn't wholly sufficient for leading to a healthy society nor should the goal of society be to perpetuate a particular religious/conservative identity.
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You shouldn't make a strong empirical claim like that porn destroys your brain if you can't provide serious evidence. It's essentially misinformation. It's fine to a have hunch about porn being bad but the lack of transparency comes off as deliberate and misleading. This is a different argument, that porn is a distraction. You would have a much stronger case against porn use if you focused on lifestyle over pseudo-science. In my own experience, overindulging on porn is bad not for health reasons but because it is an unproductive waste of time. Though I think there is still a degree of moral attitude steering the conversation. The problem with moralizing is that it's an arbitrary attitude relative to the individual/culture which is not inherently accurate of reality or applicable/desirable to everyone since people are different. Why even rail against porn so much if you don't have a moral conviction about it? If young men are not taking their lives seriously and wasting their time watching porn, what else are they missing in life? Too much porn is just a symptom in the majority of cases in my opinion.
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The rare times that I spar with girls during my kickboxing training it's like sparring with a kid due to their lack of size and strength and they are really slow and bad at coordinating complex moves even those that trained longer than me. You can really feel their frailty and you have to put the kids gloves on to not hurt or scare them.
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Teal Swan talks a lot about "containment" and how necessary it is for women in dating. It's basically just a fluffy way of saying to take care of women's survival needs and make them the focus of your attention. Remembering their birthdays and shit.
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An idealistic perspective alone isn't sufficient for meaningful dialogue because we live in a non-ideal world. Society is a cooperation which necessitates the existence of different perspective. There needs to be room for conversation, which an idealistic perspective isn't equipped to deal with. It just wants to push its conclusions. Assuming meaningful dialogue is the goal.
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This is sloppy stuff... Finding less grey matter in heavy porn users doesn't directly conclude that the cause is porn. That is an assumption. What if a lack of grey matter is the cause of heavy porn use? Or another example, what if a lack of grey matter is due to a lack of brain stimulating activities like learning or exercise that could correlate with heavy porn use? This is a good example of porn addiction lacking evidence. There is not enough evidence to make a conclusive statement here. Doesn't mean it can't be true but you are assuming the conclusion. The irony of porn haters is that you don't even need to make the argument that porn is addictive to make a value judgement, however that would instantly just make it "your opinion" and less of a political tool. That doesn't mean that porn can't be potentially addictive but what is going on here most likely is that people already have the conclusion in hand that porn is bad and are backwards rationalizing their moral belief. The biggest predictor of self-reported porn-addiction is in fact religiosity (religiosity can cause various sexual problems in fact). Another fact is that porn-addiction isn't an addictive disorder but an impulse-control disorder in the case of genuine "porn addiction" in the medical sense (excluding moral conflict during diagnosis). Here's a good read: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201808/science-stopped-believing-in-porn-addiction-you-should-too https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pornography_addiction#Diagnostic_status
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Information that your AI spews out you can just copy-paste into your CPJ. Good organization should make it plenty easy to find your notes in addition to the fact that many note taking apps have a search function. I can see the appeal of giving an AI prompts to find and create novel information based on its memory on you though. It would have to be a regular note taking app with an AI feature rather than the other way around in my opinion.
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Maybe she doesn't have complaint about your dad like you do because she has different needs relative to your dad. It sounds like you yearn for your dad's respect and support.
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They got that dawg in them.
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Norway has always been quiet pro-Palestine, at least since the mid 1940s when the then government rejected Zionism as unethical. It is part of the culture of Norway to be supportive of Palestine. I think it is in part because Norwegians feel a duty to help them considering how well off they are comparatively in addition to the more direct political support of Palestine since the 70s and 90s cementing the sentiment as part of their identity. It is one of the positive aspects of a Stage Green culture.
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Same energy:
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Art is meant to be shared.
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1) False equivalence. Watching/making porn isn't the same as asking people what their fetishes is. 2) You don't know me.
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I'm not sure if I'm brave enough to share that on a public forum.
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In my experience, enjoying making art is what makes it all come together. You have to find the techniques and processes that makes production more fun for you. If you obsess too much over perfection you end up making it stressful and tedious in my experience. I find working with transparent pens when making lineart to be more fun than opaque and stark lineart for instance. Hentai.
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My hyper-specific niche in porn is currently under-served so I would actually like to make my own porn eventually. Might even be a good outlet for banging a bunch of different girls.
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Have you tried talking to him about it? Just telling him that he's being annoying? Maybe he doesn't realize how he comes off.
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It's an insult to hardcore drugs like crack and meth to even compare porn to them. This is the exact kind of radicalization and pseudo-science that I criticize nofap for. It completely throws out empiricism for the sake of making the most eye-catching and provocative statements. There is no strong evidence for porn being bad for you, and the evidence that there is is all over the place. The thing with abstinence is that there aren't any serious consequences for it so you can get away with magical thinking. Many of the arguments for nofap can be attributed to eating food. It rewires your brain, it makes you fat (unconfident), it wastes time, etc. But not eating food will actually ruin your health. You are forced to be objective when it comes to nutrition to a certain degree, an objectivity that masturbation isn't obligated to because it is an unserious activity. I'm willing to bet that they are depressed and their life lacks meaning. What else are they to do with their time? Give them a robust life purpose and they'll get off their asses.
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That is because it is unproductive to watch porn for that long. Not because masturbation is "anti-success" in any inherent sense. Playing too many video games is more likely to be detrimental to your success than masturbation these days. It is a loud minority. Most people don't give a shit. Nofap is a radical echo-chamber, ascribing magical qualities to abstinence.
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I have the opposite problem with my dad. I wish he was a bit harder on me actually. He spoils me too much and it made me quiet soft I think. He is otherwise very understanding but doesn't really push me for success. Quiet hands off. But also out of touch with his problems.
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I had an epiphany relative to shame. Basically, I realized that shame comes first. It is the cause not the result. I don't experience shame because I don't have the things I want to but I'm ashamed of myself and I feel not good enough so I emotionally can't connect with others in the way that I want. It is like a distorting filter which I notice when I talk to people. I can literally feel it in the back of my mind whenever I talk to people. Yesterday I spoke to my dad conscious of this filter and decided to forego it and I spoke from the heart. Not in a corny sappy way, I just didn't try to game my speech which felt like speaking from the heart. It felt both relieving and elating, like I for the first time truly spoke. It's pretty clear what I need to do now.
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What kind of relationship would you like to have with your dad?
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Inaction will ruin your life. Masturbation is barely a blip, at worst a symptom of an underlying sense of inadequacy. Most successful guys aren't successful in spite of masturbation but because they work hard and are blessed with good fortune. While fapping as much as they want. The internet will brainwash you into overstating the significance of masturbation because it is easily sold clickbait. It is it's own cottage industry.