Basman

Not feeling emotions sounds like a psychological issue. In my experience, if someone doesn't like to party in general its because they have some sort of emotional hang up when with other people. Very rarely do people not enjoy being social and having fun in essence.

Awaken the Giant Within by T. Robbins has a lot on motivation and how to make yourself take right action. The pain-pleasure principle I leverage in particular a lot. Basically it means to convince yourself that something that is initially painful is actually more pleasurable than painful and vice-versa (in terms of vices, laziness, etc.)

Most problems can be solved with money, so making more money should be a priority. It will make you more at peace as you worry less and feel more free to live according to your values. Get a job/go into education. Besides that, there are a lot of cheap/free resources on the internet. Library is also free and often have desktop computers available. Journaling is cheap and a tried and true self-help tool. See what social services are available to you and if they help improve your emotional state and future prospects. If you are a woman, having kids could be a way to receive benefits in certain countries (only if you like kids).

I think Leo has improved a lot in terms of his delivery since I started using this forum regularly. Used to be way more arrogant and obnoxious. Its good to see him striving to improve and it inspires to be mindful of how I act myself. In my own experience, the little things can make or break someone. Like someone being randomly rude or annoying, despite being relatively insignificant, does add a little bit more to someones emotional bucket and could be the drop that tips it over. Looking back over the bad experiences I had in general, the little things did matter.

I can see your argument if you think its necessary in order to continue the relationship somehow but in that case I think the relationship is already damaged to a point where its too late for a "normal" relationship. I don't think its worth it if it damages the relationship assuming you maintain healthy boundaries moving forward.

I'll never be like you dad.

Grease, Hairspray. Fucking hate musicals. And they always draw the annoying push-over millennial crowd. Only good musical is Tenacious D and that's it.

I find that the desire to be kind of painful personally. Like, it feels like there so much uncertainty whether or not you can et what you want and its so easy to feel like you feel short of what others want in my experience.

The more I think about, the more unnecessary it seems.

What is your proof? Don't just make up stuff about people because it suits you.

I've heard blood feuds where way more prevalent before the advent of Islam in the Middle-East. I could be wrong but according to spiral dynamics, stage blue is above stage red in terms of moral development. For instance, slavery was ended in part due to Christianity. Charity originated from Christianity. Of course religion is going to be less moral compared to higher stages, like SD stage Green but now we are privileging our own perspectives instead of working with what we have. Religion has its place in society, like it or not. We can of course discuss how exactly but like I pointed out earlier, religions do change and develop. Religious fundamentalists are not the majority. This is a bad faith caricature.

I disagree. Society is too diverse for that, especially as we are increasingly globalizing. There will always be people who are content being religious. Religion can be an important service for society in that its an avenue for community and development for stage red people. So don't dismiss it so readily. I don't have any relevant data to prove my point but I believe that we would have more mafia and ghetto-isms without religion.

America has much stronger stage blue tendencies nationally than Europe in my opinion.

Its not possible for a spiral stage to go backwards fully and I don't see any evidence of there being a Christian resurgence on a macro scale outside of an influx of stage blue immigrants, like Muslims for example. Religions do develop and change despite dogmatism and ideological attachment being a common feature of religious people. The Christian church of today is not the same as the church of the medieval ages. Many churches in North-Europe for example care about typical stage green topics like welfare and ecology.

Religion is a social affair primarily and breaking from religion is primarily a matter breaking from social and cultural convention. Religion is a cultural institution in my opinion. Being moral and being religious are two different things because morality is the practice of ethics in real time whereas religion is ideological faith. Therefor leaving your religion does not make you immoral. There are usually social costs to leaving your religion however, especially if you live in a religious country, in which case I can imagine it making your life harder. You can learn from or be inspired by religion without being part of a religious community. Its not like you are throwing the baby out with the bathwater necessarily by leaving religion. Especially considering that many religious people are just blindly conforming, often holding believes that contradict or aren't part of actual scripture.

Why is that?

Social anxiety primarily.

I don't know, man.

I guess.

A lot of good resources. Thanks guys. I can definitely see that argument, but therapy is essentially a lot of "how did that make you feel?" If you have the know-how, surely you can achieve a lot with just journaling in theory. Besides, I don't believe therapy is for everyone, like the initial research was based heavily off working with women for example.

Yeah, exactly. Like, P. Diddy was just being authentic, living his best life. Being authentic is not about indulging in laziness or excusing selfishness. When you refuse to help your friends because "you lazy" you are saying that you value being lazy more than your relationships. Don't be surprised if people get upset and feel betrayed. And I doubt that you truly value being lazy anyway. And if you do, are you OK with the costs? Clearly not judging by what you wrote.

I'm way too horny for nofap myself. Good thing its bullshit. Got stuck in a desert once with a group consisting of mostly girls. It got really obnoxious, constantly looking for opportunities to relieve the pressure like some kind of cum filled rat.

Spit some game with your aunt.

I don't think its inherently a bad idea but I feel like its going to be a lot more feasible to pull off and maintain if you can provide for everyone involved.