Basman

I'm halfway through that book on charisma from Leo's book list, and combined with a bunch of other sources and my own experience I've realized that charisma and making people like you is basically sucking people off verbally. Your trying to make people feel good about themselves and give them value socially essentially. I read into this stuff to work on my confidence but my takeaway besides these skills is that maybe I'm okay just not caring that much. Like, who am I trying to impress? Most people I don't even like or care about that much. Thoughts?

It's emotional value. It's how you make people feel. A charismatic bum is suspicious.

Disowned royals when a movie director is at the party

People like you when you give more value than you take. That is what is charisma is in my opinion. No free lunch. You can learn a bunch of passive social skills which make you more likable which is useful, but you can always try harder to impress people. Learning about this stuff I realized that I only care about making people like me to a certain degree. I think that's normal. I could suck harder if I really wanted to.

Silicone valley tech bro billionaires. My god 😬 As close as you get to social dark matter in human form. Like a black hole that is just pure black void in terms of likeability. It's both hilarious and tragic how you can become insanely successful of being so problem solving oriented psychologically, IE. autistic thinking, but at the same time be so cringey and removed from the rest of the world. When your a hammer everything looks like an "opportunity to expand your network and build your portfolio 🙂" Socializing is treated as a problem to be solved. It doesn't feel like release. Ultimately it becomes bothersome for people like this. Great work team.

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New age hippies and therapy culture alike give trauma special primacy to the point of pathologizing what is arguably just life's challenges and the human condition. Healing has its place but more often than not what people lack is just development of their talents in my opinion. The urge within therapy speak culture is to frame development as fixing yourself, which is in of itself a negative way of framing things.

I believe it's likely that rich people will find a way to live longer eventually. Just not any time soon. Something like 150-200 maybe. The market for immortality is huge. The motivation and funds are there.

If your a highly motivated person your going to have a case of the grass being greener on the other side. It kind of comes with the territory. Your goals are always idealized. You need to cultivate some contentment to keep yourself going. You bring yourself everywhere you go, so you might as feel good doing it. I've started doing the following to be more present: Note 3 things that you like in your current environment. 3 sensations in your body. Focus on your breath for about 30 seconds.

MCU post endgame is peak kicking a dead horse. Let it die with some dignity please.

You can use reading as a coping strategy to deal with bad habits. Like if you catch yourself doom scrolling you pick up a book.

I prefer paperback. I find I process stuff better and it's easier to refer back and take notes, etc. Reading daily, 30-60 minutes a day should get you through a book in about 3-4 weeks depending. I like to be meticulous in my notetaking, so I read less, but I get through it. Your probably not going to remember everything, but you will absorb the core lessons. Depending on how technique heavy a book is you can be more or less meticolous trying to remember everything.

If people can't tell what you are from how you look then that's a skill issue. Of course, there are some who you genuinely can't tell. But after a while you can kind of tell anyway. Like they have huge tits and are frail af. It's entitled and weird to try and control people's perception, which is kind of why I think it's in large part ideological. Not just the notion that gender is just fluid but also that gender is whatever you think it is in a post-modern sort of way. That's where you lose a lot of people in my opinion because it's detached from material reality.

I think monks can be quiet charismatic actually in a way that's quiet rare. They can be very kind and present and have this sort of whimsicalnes to them. But I guess its less of an act or deliberate practice.

Just look at how they treat vikings. They look like bikers, with their side cuts and dreadlocks. And it doesn't get more aryan than vikings.

Disgraceful.

It's a subculture. Like how scene kids all wear black band shirts. You have little business messing with pronouns if they are otherwise obvious in my opinion. Fun fact, the majority of "non-binary" are college white women.

Typical high IQ people, "nerds", the types you see walking around in academia and shit always come off as missing something to me. They are either fat or frail and generally lack intensity. They have an abundance of one type of intelligence but aren't well rounded in my opinion. I find it hard too look up to a professor who's an expert in one thing but they are shaped like a pear.

Most things you need to live a good life are generally quiet simple to understand. Well accessible for average levels of intelligence. A high IQ is good for niche high reasoning skillsets, but there are many valuable skillsets that don't require super high IQ. Society tends to overate high IQ skills in my opinion. Quote of the year 😂

Not very accessible though. The most underrated exercise is walking in my opinion. It doesn't get more accessible that. It's also one of the greatest exercise for weight loss. I know someone who took walking to an athletic level. You'd be surprised how tired you get after what is a relatively short distance. Most old people who need more exercise just need to walk more first and foremost in my opinion.

Vikings where pretty brutal. For one, kids where seen as extensions of their parents, so if you had beef with someone you'd go for their kids. Revenge was absolute. Eye for an eye or your a nobody, and nobodies where ripe for the taking. Whole families would be wiped out over revenge. It was seen as a right for victors to do as they please with those they defeated militarilly. It was common to amass power and wealth through simply defeating people. A king and a warlord are one and the same with no real effort to legitimize power. The relationship between power and wider society was more or less colonial. The families that would end up on top where the most ruthless, merciless and gifted. I have read of one guy who would go into the woods with his uncle too practice killing by attacking random stranger. His own mom killed his siblings for being too weak.

If it is just petri dish soup who cares? The medical advancement pays for itself.

Not much for regular life. Maybe if you want to do some niche academic study, like physics. EQ gets you further in life because people prefer dealing with people they actually like. The more likeable politician is going to get more votes than the smarter but less likeable politician every time.

Defined a generation (millennials),

I wish my dad would take his fucking meds. He calls me like three times a day over the most benign shit and if I don't pick up starts worrying and thinks I died.