ActualizedJohn

Can someone explain to me what absolute goodness is? From 53:26 of Leo's "The Many Facets Of Awakening" video?

Is there any way to prove or disprove solipsism? I definitely believe it’s impossible to ever know.

if your saying solipsism is 100% true, you are basically saying that the universe is not infinite, and it is finite. My greatest wonder is wondering if when i am in my room, is there another conscious experience bubble in my friends room across town at the same time, when his body is in there. If your saying this can't be the case, that would mean that the universe is finite. The only explanation to why solipsism is true is if the universe is finite. However, i also know that when you say "Across town" or "at the same time", these "physical qualities" are just in imagination. Even my experience isn't real, its just imagination. Maybe there is only ever imagination. Absolute solipsism not being true or false, there is just imagination, and that's the end of it.

i dont get it

your right. the true nature is unlimited. thats why it can split itself off. Also leo said in infinity of gods video that he knew for SURE that he could never know.

there is no "me" doing the imagining. YOU are calling the universe limited by saying a separate consciousness isn't possible.

Leo did, it was infinity of gods

You can’t tell me it’s impossible for other people to exist, and that an all powerful god is incapable of everything except splitting itself off.

So trust an experience? What if one you have the realization, there is deeper to go? How will you know if you’ve ever gone deep enough to discover the “final” truth?

But how is it ever possible to know what’s true?

I didn’t understand that one that much. @OBEler

Well your Brain “unflexes” so it automatically eases everyday stress that is usually unchanging. You don’t get bored anymore. Since your new body is the air in the room, all of the bodies feel like branches coming off of a tree, and there is only one cloud of consciousness. It’s helpful because it just significantly reduces boredom and stress. @integration journey

It is here and it is very fresh for those of you who I can help to guide or answer some questions for.

Yesterday I was in that state pretty much the whole day. Today the individual self is here, but I know if I did self inquiry for about 5 more minutes i could easily slip back into it. I don’t think I will though because the experience is quite dramatic. @Ulax

Yes. But the feeling of disappearing from the inside of the body is definitely not super pleasant feeling.

That instead of there being a sentient being inside of the body, or a thinker of thoughts, that I am actually the empty space in the room that the body is standing in, not the body.

Easiest way to put is instead of being the human body, you become the air in the room you are in. The pressure in your body and head drops, and you disappear from the inside of your body, and go into the air. Very simple. @Sugarcoat

Miraculous, yes. However that does not mean fully calm and comfy

Tell me how to do that, I want to experience it

Is anyone aware of any SERIOUS remote virtual enlightenment workshops? I am interested in a legit one that is certainly not a "circle jerk" as Leo would say, aka philosophising. I have reached a block in my no-self work and think something like this could help.

@Buck Edwards My question is, how?

(Would really appreciate a Leo response with this one too, it has been the biggest cause of my depression for years) I was a virgin up until 3 months ago. I have done every other type of sexual act since I was 15, and many times for that matter. Im 23. I went all of my high school and college life not having sex. I don't need to go into all of the examples of as to why being a virgin was traumatic, because if your a guy as a virgin you understand. I thought all that I needed was to have sex with a decently attractive girl that I pulled and that I would be complete, almost like I would somewhat be finally a part of this "exclusive club", and it would fill that empty depressed self-image loathing inside of me. I started getting pretty into self development over the past year or two. I understood what the implications of external validation were (Never being truly satisfied, wasting your life chasing a high that always fades away). However there was always an itch at the back of my mind wondering if those pick-up-artists were actually right, and that the "higher consciousness" teachers who taught that external validation was bad were actually just jealous, pissed of, or just wrong for any reason. I was open to both possibilities, so I came to a middle ground. I would try to lose my virginity to at least a decently attractive woman, and see what happens. If i was satisfied for the rest of my life, I could finally say that the pick-up-artists were right, and that the high consciousness/ anti-validation teachers were wrong. If I eventually become dissatisfied again and feel the need for more validation, then the pickup artists were wrong. Seemed like a super fair and objective experiment to me. So ever since my last breakup a year ago (the girl was an "on paper" 10/10 looks wise but we still never had sex), I dedicated my life to not just getting better at pickup, but more learning and practicing everything there was to know about self love/self acceptance, and that I didn't NEED sex to be "whole and complete". I knew the reason I was bad at pickups and women was because there was too much importance placed on the fact of "NEEDING" to have sex, and this NEEDING caused a lot of pressure, and backfired on the "playing field" with me. I was so attached to needing it and it was such a serious thing that no girl wanted to have it with me because they sensed such a strong urgency, and it made me the opposite of a smooth talker because of the sheer amount of pressure. So I did personal development work for that year, taught myself I didn't need sex to be whole and complete (at least for a little) and becoming more smooth with women was a result of this, so this self development worked. So anyway, my current girlfriend comes along (4 months ago), and a month later she takes my virginity. The initial feeling for around two months was that it WORKED. I was all like "damn, those sons of bitches were right (the pickup artists)." I rode that high hard af because I have been deserving of that shit for years now. Recently that high wore off. Ive been thinking about my waisted college days. When I was in college I didn't LIVE there, but even if I did i doubt i would have pulled any women because of my mental state i previously spoke about. My girlfriend fucked around a lot in college. I would have a lot of insecurity around that, and i guess she sparked it being upsetting for me. Here she was "better than me" because she had a college experience and slept around, and here I am, never wanting to have a college experience because I wanted to work on my business, lock in and make good health choices. And my decision made me sadder and more pissed off than ever. Made me feel like I could never go back to college, and never make all of that time up. So now I felt like not only did I now raise the bar AGAIN on myself after i said I would never raise the bar ever again and be "happy forever if I could just lose my virginity", but now I can never go back in time in college to make things right, and to make myself feel better. I was now empty again. Let me add this too, my blueprint for happiness from validation is not that tinder sex would work to make my happy, or that local bar hookup sex in my hometown would make me happy, but that maybe if I was in a college party setting with my friends that it might just do the trick to finally validate me. I could finally do what I missed out on, and fix the regret that was ruining my life. I dont even want to move to a city and do hookups there, it seems like this college shit could be the only thing that helps me. heres were it gets interesting. Anyways I got very very very pissed about this last night when I was on the phone with my girlfriend. I finally said to myself "fuck this, Im done hiding from all of these experiences my girlfriend had in college, the self loathing and jealousy I experience from never having these experiences, the depression this has caused me to spiral into my entire life. I'm gonna run now directly AT at all of my fears and these feelings now, instead of AWAY from them. I deserve this pain and I am saying 'fuck this' and facing this head on NOW." I then told my girlfriend that I wanted to hear about every sexual experience she had in college, IN DETAIL. She was apprehensive at first, but when I told her why I wanted to hear them, she agreed. I then listened for maybe a little over an hour. And there was some really bad shit in those stories, let me tell you. Those of you who have/have ever had a girlfirend who you love, i'm sure you wouldn't listen to the shit that I heard come out of her mouth for a million dollars. This was NOT a sexual thing for me, or a kink whatsoever. The whole time I was like shaking from adrenaline as I was hearing everything that she had done in crazy detail, all of the acts and all of the LITTERAL positions. It was this feeling of adrenaline that ive never had before, but it was not sexual. I was hearing about all the rough sex shit she was into. I then started to get the idea that maybe I could make myself feel better if i did that sort of rough sex stuff to her too, because at this point if feeling even more like a pussy for fucking her in a more vanilla way. I then pretty much said that I have a fear of her cheating on me, and it would make it better if she could just get with another dude that she chose, so that I would get the feeling of "okay the cheating is out of the way, she already slept with another guy, and now that that barrier is broken I don't have to be afraid of her cheating anymore since it already happened". I want to know what the truth here is to my story. Am I right to feel valid? Would you guys break up with your girl if you were me and get be dedicated to the field again, to maybe sleep with more women because true satisfaction can be achieved through pickup? Or is it time that I finally surrender, except that that validation void can never be permanently filled ever, and that I should just focus more on spirituality like meditation and building my business, and other forms of self development? (I love my girlfriend by the way and she is the greatest, and I would never cheat on her.) Also why do I not have this problem with friends, that I need more friends to be whole and complete? I would say that the reason I dont feel this way with friends is because I always had many guy friends and enough positive experiences that I feel like I "conquered" that area in my life, which would mean for sex, all I need to do is "conquer" that area of my life and have more sex and it would work? or is it only just that I was taught when I was young to put an extreme importance on specifically sex with women for whatever reason? Spirituality and self development is my passion. I love doing it for free, no strings attached. If someone had asked me before "do you LIKE picking up girls?" I wouldn't have understood their question. I would have been like "yes because it gives me that sense of validation and fills that empty feeling that Ive wanted to be filled for the past decade, so i do in fact like it". However, now that I really understand what the question is asking, and if i actually ENJOY pickup, I would tell you this: If this empty feeling inside of me could eventually be filled (Through any means, not just pickup) and I felt like I NEVER had to do pickup ever again, I would 100% NEVER do that shit ever again, because I hate it. All of the wasted time when I could have been doing shit I enjoyed. All the times I could have woken up feeling refreshed and good in the morning, but instead I woke up hungover af late as shit in the afternoon because I was attempting pickup at a bar. Pickup always felt like such a CHORE to me, such a bandaid that I had to quickly rip off so I could just get it over with and move up the rest of the latter, and not have to deal with ever again. All I ever wanted to do was just finally feel as whole and complete, and as vaild as anyone else. I never even really cared about the horniness, or the physical act of having sex. I just wanted the pain to be over with. But at the same time, there is such as strong pull for me to get back into the pickup community and just try because im young still and maybe it will be everything I always hoped for, that finally my problems will be solved and I wont have to live for regret for the rest of my life, that even if you all commented and told me that external validation was wrong and bad that I wouldn't believe you. I just need advice. I feel like hearing people say that external validation is wrong and bad doesn't even help me. I am looking for an EXPERIENCE of long lasting whole and completeness, and I can't figure out how to have that experience. More pickup? Maybe increase my serotonin through healthy activities? chase enlightenment? I guess what Im asking is what is the objective way to have that whole and complete feeling? Maybe it should be a mix of both options, work on myself but continue to try to fuck even though its just a chore for me at this point and I hate it?

@NoSelfSelf how does one do that

@NoSelfSelf I dont understand

Is anyone aware of any good available virtual enlightenment workshops to join?